Fertility is a gratifying thing, but there are still certain risks in it. Although there are lessons learned from Dabao' past, parents should also pay attention to new factors and be fully prepared. From an empirical point of view, the mother is more calm when giving birth to the second child than when giving birth to the first child, but from the perspective of risk, the risk taken by the mother when giving birth to the second child is greater than when the first child is born.
The factors that constitute risk are multifaceted, ranging from external factors, such as medical and health conditions and family environment, to internal factors, such as the mother's physical condition. In addition, there are many hidden risks when raising the second baby, such as whether there is enough time and energy to take the child, whether the financial ability can bear, etc., these risks need to be paid attention to and avoided.
First, production risks
After the first child, I believe that parents also have a certain understanding of the risks of childbirth, so when giving birth to the second treasure, in the original experience, do not forget to consider the new situation, new risks.
1 There are risks associated with premature birth of a second treasure
The new mother conceived again just after giving birth to Dabao, which is not good for both the mother and the baby. In particular, new mothers who have just had a cesarean section, whether it is abortion surgery or continued pregnancy, the risk is greater. If the embryo of this pregnancy just implanted on the wound of the last caesarean section, it may cause uterine perforation, rupture, bleeding, etc., and even life-threatening. For babies, breast milk is their best food, but if a new mother is pregnant, it will affect the secretion of milk.
Uterine birth is different from natural childbirth, and caution must be exercised when pregnant again, as re-pregnancy after caesarean section is likely to cause a rupture of the knife or other life-threatening consequences. Because the knife edge of the uterine wall after cesarean section heals poorly in the short term. Premature pregnancy, due to the development of the fetus to make the uterus continue to enlarge, the uterine wall becomes thinner, especially at the scalpel edge is connective tissue, lack of elasticity. Fresh scars can easily burst during the third trimester or during childbirth, causing massive bleeding in the abdominal cavity and even life-threatening.
2 There is also a risk of having a second treasure too late
In general, it takes at least 2 years for uterine scar repair, so it is recommended to consider a second pregnancy after 2 years of caesarean section. That said, this is not to say that the longer the two children are separated, the safer it is. If the cesarean section takes more than 6 years, the scar of the uterine incision gradually thins, the muscle fibers become connective tissue, and the possibility of uterine rupture increases.
Therefore, having a second child after caesarean section is not as long as possible, generally after 2 years of birth, up to 3 years, the body recovers, the first baby also grows up, can avoid the care of two small babies.
3 Elderly mothers are at high risk of having a second child
In fact, whether an elderly mother is not related to the birth of the first few births, it is only about age, in the mainland, all those who are older than 35 years old at the time of childbirth belong to elderly women. Whether it is the first child or the second child, the mother over 35 years old, her fertility is inversely proportional to age, that is, the older the age, the lower the fertility. Age, to women who are preparing to become pregnant has brought many problems, including egg aging, coupled with environmental pollution, electromagnetic radiation, chemical effects, etc., affecting the quality of eggs all the time; and some scholars have reported that the reserve function of the ovaries declines rapidly after the age of 33.
In addition to the decline in physical fitness, mothers who have given birth, if they have had multiple pregnancies and miscarriages before the age of 35, will increase the probability of infertility; after the age of 35, uterine fibroids, cervical erosion, endometriosis, breast tumors, ovarian cysts, premature ovarian failure and other diseases, it is the high incidence period, these diseases, often easy to cause difficulty in pregnancy, which is also one of the reasons why it is difficult to conceive at an advanced age. In addition to the increase in the difficulty of pregnancy, the probability of ectopic pregnancy, spontaneous abortion, pregnancy complications, fetal birth defects, etc. will also increase at advanced age. At the same time, due to old age, the speed of postpartum recovery is not as good as before.
In addition, the energy of elderly mothers is also one of the risks that need to be considered. After the age of 35, my mother's body gradually tends to age, and her energy is not as energetic as when she was young. Workplace pressure, but also to take care of the family, at this time the mother will be most of the time will be allocated to the workplace and Dabao, it is difficult to free up time to get pregnant and take care of Xiaobao. As a result, many second-child elderly women suffer from postpartum depression, which seriously affects family harmony.
Second, the risk of parenting
1 Economic pressure is high
The cost of having two children is almost double compared to having one. Some people may say, "Now that the standard of living is so much better, how dare they not give birth, the fathers were too poor to open the pot at that time, and they also gave birth to two or three." "But if you think about it, the current level of consumption is no better than before, and social competition is not the same."
In the past, it was as simple as adding a pair of chopsticks to have a child, and many children dropped out of school to work in junior high school or high school. Now raising children, early education, talent, special classes, training classes and the like are basic requirements, eat badly afraid of hungry children, wear bad and feel embarrassed to let children go out. Everyone goes to early education, everyone has talent, if your child does not have it, it will be laughed at, easy to inferiority.
Therefore, before parents have a second child, they must consider their own economic situation and whether they can afford their children's future living and education costs.
2 Lack of energy to take care of children
Who brings the children is obviously just as important as financial considerations. When a baby, or you can consider letting your parents bring it, come back from work to enjoy the parent-child time, but also get by. But after having two babies, the first thing to consider is whether parents can withstand the toss of two children as they get older. Secondly, even if parents can still help you with two children, come back from work at night, both children hope to be close to their mothers, enjoy parent-child happy times, mothers go to work for a day, go home and play with two children, in the long run, is the energy enough?
If you quit your job as a full-time mother, take care of the two children alone, both responsible for dabao learning and taking care of the second treasure, it is still stretched. And the mother has no job, there is less income, less income, and more responsibility for the baby, whether the father can afford to spend the family is also a problem.
3 It is easy to cause imbalance in Dabao's heart
Before giving birth to the second treasure, the whole family circled around the big treasure, and he was the treasure in everyone's palm. But after having the second treasure, everyone's attention will shift, and the eyes will shift from the big treasure to the second treasure, even the mother is no exception. The child is the most sensitive, and he can feel that the people around him love him significantly less than before. Dabao will have a psychological gap, thinking that we are eccentric and no longer love him after having the second treasure, which may bring irreparable harm to the child's young mind.
It can be seen that although there is experience in giving birth to a big treasure, but when giving birth to a second child, it has added many new problems, and when parents are preparing to give birth to a second treasure, they must not take it lightly, and feel that it is good to "draw a gourd like this". The risk of having a second treasure must be implemented in each family, for example, what if the second child is born as a twin? One more child, it takes a little more energy, the family's financial burden will also increase, the resulting pressure, can parents bear it? Therefore, in the face of various risks of fertility, it is very important to make a comprehensive analysis and comprehensive preparation.
4 There is a lot of pressure to educate children
Parents are the child's first teacher, educating children is one of the biggest responsibilities of parents, most one-child families, are centered on the education of a baby, which reduces a lot of problems in educating children, but when the couple begins to prepare for the birth of two treasures, it is necessary to do a good job of preparing to educate two babies. The birth of Erbao not only means an increase in economic and mental pressure, but also means the breeding of educational problems.
Educating two babies cannot adopt and imitate the method of educating a baby, which can only harm the big treasure and the second treasure. The education of treating Dabao should be more inclined to the education of unity, protection and humility, and the education of Erbao often pays attention to the cultivation of its own consciousness.
Now many families have neglected to treat the difference between the big treasure and the second treasure education, two babies compete with each other for toys, grab snacks, etc., parents are more divided in education, which is a common disease in educating two babies. Such a way of dealing with it will not only cause selfishness, but also encourage the child's bad habit of loving to compare. Therefore, families with two babies should pay special attention to the education of their children.
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