Parents want their children to be healthy and excellent,
But some parents' education methods are half the work,
Thankless.
Today I would like to share with you a father
A more unique way of educating my daughter,
Never tutored my daughter with her homework,
Just come back every day and talk to my daughter for ten minutes,
Ask four questions,
He completed his home education.
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The four questions are:
1. Is there anything good happening in school?
2. What good performance do you have today?
3. Is there anything good to gain today?
4. Is there anything you need dad's help with?
The seemingly simple question actually contains rich meaning behind it:
The first question is actually investigating her daughter's values to understand what she feels is good and what is bad.
The second question is actually motivating the daughter and increasing her self-confidence.
The third question is to ask her to review what she has learned.
The fourth question has two meanings, one is that I care about you, and the other is that learning is your own business.
It is this simple four questions, which contain a lot of love and care, and in fact prove to be very effective.
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In the concept of education, to educate children well, the most important thing is to deal with the parent-child relationship.
If the parent establishes an absolute responsibility in the child's heart: the child believes that the parent loves himself unconditionally, believes that the starting point of all the criticism and praise of the parent is for his own good; if the child subconsciously reaches full belief in this, then the relationship is benign, a stable relationship of mutual care, mutual support, and mutual understanding.
In this case, educating the child is the simplest thing to do, in the words of the great Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky, "growing up with the child".
However, in real life, most people's parent-child relationships are unstable, or distorted, and children cannot really trust their parents.
Everyone's parents love their children, but 98% of Parents in China mistakenly regard the way of love as love, which is actually an invisible harm!
For example, giving the child the best food to eat, the best clothes to wear, this is just a way of love, not love itself. And the love of parents is often conditional, such as as as taking the top three places in this exam, where to take you to play and so on.
Love is the feeling that one life likes another, an equal relationship, unconditional, a kind of overall acceptance, something that the other person can receive. It is not difficult to really be a good parent, and to educate children well, we must pay attention to the following sentences:
1. Absolutely prohibit the practice of high pressure and scolding children, and establish equal relations.
2. Truly and unconditionally love the child and give the child love in the spiritual sense.
3. Be sure to respect the child's independent personality.
4. Educate children in a positive way, and often encourage and praise them.
5, adjust the parent-child relationship, this is the most important point.
6. Pay attention to the cultivation of children's character and spirit, rather than blindly pursuing scores.
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If you really understand the above six sentences, it is not difficult to educate your child. Education is three points, seven points, etc.
Three-point teaching means that the teaching should be appropriate. Too much preaching will only make children have a rebellious psychology, which is counterproductive.
Seven points means that parents should respect their children's natural disposition and growth pace, and have patience with their children, so that children can try, experience, fail, and succeed. The growth of children takes time and the polishing of the world, and it is impossible to achieve it overnight. Seedlings can only be gained more than lost.
If parents have the virtue of loving kindness, their children will be good at the teachings of Genfu.
Growing up in criticism, children learn to judge people.
Children grow up in hostility and learn to attack people.
Children grow up in fear and learn anxiety.
Growing up helpless, children learn to regret it.
Children grow up in absurdity and learn to be ashamed.
Children grow up in jealousy and learn to hold grudges.
When children grow up in humiliation, they develop feelings of guilt.
Growing up in encouragement, children learn to be confident.
Growing up in tolerance, children learn to be patient.
Growing up in praise, children learn to appreciate.
When a child grows up in acceptance, he learns to love others.
When the child grows up in affirmation, he learns to be self-respecting.
When a child grows up in identity, he has a definite goal.
Children grow up sharing and learn to be generous.
When children grow up in fairness, they learn righteousness.
The child grows up in honesty and learns the truth.
Growing up safe, children are filled with confidence.
Children who grow up in love will be happy to survive.
Dear Parents,
What environment did your child grow up in?
The source of this article | Xinhua Viewpoint (ID: XHSXHSD), and the graphics come from the network
Responsible editor| Wang Jiashi