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The student era is undoubtedly the purest, when we are all incredibly young, and everyone enters the campus with the expectations of their parents. In more than 10 years of study, everyone will meet many classmates and make lifelong friends during this period.
School is not just a place where we learn, it carries the hopes and stories of generations of students. Although we have embarked on the society and run for things, the youth years of the past are still the best time in our hearts.
After graduation, we often fantasize that the old classmates are still the same as they were, everyone gets together and still has endless words and endless stories, but when the class reunion really arrives, everyone is surprised to find that those young faces have long become mature and stable, everyone has their own life, the so-called class reunion, not just the old classmates get together to talk about the latest situation, but have become some people's climbing field.
Some people are unremarkable and still live a nine-to-five working life, while some people have already achieved fame and achieved economic freedom, so they often behave very publicly at the dinner table.
But when it comes to the two people who mix the best in the class, it must be these two types of students, and see if this result is consistent with what you think. The best mix is always the first and last place in the class.
Generally speaking, the probability of a good mix is relatively high, because they maintain excellent learning ability when they go to school, they not only reassure the teacher, the classmates worship, but also become the pride of the parents' hearts.
There is an effect in psychology called the Halo effect, which refers to the fact that if an individual has an advantage that is significantly superior to ordinary people, when everyone observes him, they will subconsciously think that he is also good enough in other aspects. Just as the impression of Xueba in our hearts is not only good at learning, but also has many beautiful qualities such as excellent moral character and easy-going personality.
For a good student, he has to face the expectations of parents, the expectations of teachers and the appreciation of classmates every day, under this expectation effect, Xueba will study harder to meet everyone's psychological expectations.
It is common for students to learn well to become the dragon and phoenix among people, but there are always people in the society who think that high education cannot represent everything, and even list the examples of famous school graduates to work for primary school graduates, do not rule out that this kind of thing exists, but its probability is minimal, looking at the current domestic business leaders, their academic qualifications are all high, some are graduated from famous Chinese schools, and some have studied overseas.
The greater the expectations a person bears, the greater his chances of success, because in addition to self-encouragement, the expectations of the external environment can also keep him moving forward.
There is a classic case in psychology called the Pygmalion effect (Pygmalion effect), researchers randomly selected a few students from the class, and claimed that they were very talented, extremely high IQ, after a period of time, the researchers found that the selected students did have a significant improvement in grades, at the same time their personalities are more confident, people have become more diligent.
From this point of view, appropriate external interference can change a person's behavior and perceptions, and if you want a child to work harder in learning, you may wish to give him higher expectations.
Good academic performance also means a high IQ level, they tend to have better comprehension and memory skills, as long as they persevere, they will achieve their ambitious goals sooner or later.
Students with poor grades may not be smart, but they do not spend their minds on learning, but on play, those children who play games very well are also very smart, but people's energy is limited, most of them are distributed to games, naturally there is no time to learn.
Due to poor grades, such students often receive more blows in the process of growing up, and the denial from those around them will make him doubt his ability, which will create a vicious circle.
Mischievous students often have strong social skills, although the grades of such children are not very good, but they are very serious, especially good at finding their own position in the crowd.
China is a country that pays great attention to human relations, if a child has a unique talent in human relations from an early age, then he will not be too bad when he grows up, even with the advantage of high emotional intelligence, he can also obtain a lot of social resources.
All in all, the best mix is usually the no. 1 in the class and the mischievous children, each of whom has different advantages, and these advantages will undoubtedly provide them with a lot of help in their growth path.
I don't know how you think about it, but if you have any different ideas, you may wish to discuss it together at the bottom of the comment area.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).