Hello everyone, this is Lao Yu.
One word that I've been brushing up a lot lately is "pendulum."
Swinging love, swinging rotten work...
Messing up these two words, full of helplessness and the mentality of just doing it.
Since everything can be messed up, the new generation of post-90s parents are naturally not conventional, and the rotten baby breeding came into being.
Generally speaking, it is: let you cry and let you make trouble, you demonize me and don't move, so that the "little monsters" in the family have nothing to do.
So we can see this "deeds display":
"It is impossible to get up early, skilled children can learn to get up in the morning to read picture books first."
"When you go out and pack your own water cup, remember to help your mother bring lipstick."
"The happiest time to pick up the baby is to buy snacks at the school entrance.
Kid: Didn't you say you can't use junk food?"
What should I do if my child cries in public? What should I do if a bear child is lying on the ground and rolling around?
Parents: You make a fuss about you.
Even some parents will not be idle, and they can also send a circle of friends after taking pictures.
Some parents will also "amplify the move", you lie down I also lie, everyone lies together.
Seeing these examples of "swinging parenting", netizens who have not been parents: "It is estimated that I will be like this after I become a mother."
Netizens who became parents: "Where can't mobile phones play, see who can consume whom"
Some netizens added in the comment area that "it seems that this is also a common practice of young parents."
This way of parenting, some people think it is very interesting, wait for the child not to make a good reason, anyway, the child will not obey when the most troublesome.
There are also people who hold different opinions, such a negative way of dealing with it, the child will make trouble once and will make a second time, and will not become sensible because of a fuss.
Parents cry in front of their children, know that they can't get used to their children, once the children get what they want through crying and relying on these actions, the children will only become more and more willful, and try to win with the trouble every time.
But we parents also know that it is not advisable to educate children on the spot, one is that children immersed in their own emotions can not listen to any education; second, children also want face, and the shame brought about by education in public places will hurt children's self-esteem.
Therefore, the "swinging parenting" we see is also the helpless move of many parents at present, since the children can't stop for a short time, they can only watch from the side, anyway, the most important thing is not to get used to it.
What should we do in the face of the child's unreasonable teasing?
Lao Yu also remembered the "excellent homework" mentioned earlier, Lee Seung-hyun with the baby.
Daughter Lucky saw that the trolley carrying the goods did not like it, and stood on the car with the armrest trembling and playing back and forth.
Lee Seung-hyun, who is busy, has advised many times that the lucky baby is so dangerous, don't play like this anymore. But Lucky was having a good time and didn't listen at all. After many times of ineffective advice, he resolutely imposed the penalty station.
Very detailedly, taking into account the child's face, Lee Seung-hyun took lucky to the penalty station where no one was.
When the penalty station was over, the child also calmed down, he squatted down and reasoned with the child, and hugged his daughter. Back in the car, I also asked my daughter's father if he was too angry to scare you, and then told you the reason for the punishment again.
When it is strict, it can be summarized in time after punishment, and it will reflect on whether it is too fierce to take care of the child's emotions.
This wave of education for children is really worth learning.
Professor Li Meijin also said when mentioning the education of children: On the street, especially on occasions where there are outsiders, when children play with sex, parents should pick up the children and go home directly, or take them to a quiet environment, watch them cry, and conduct one-on-one discipline.
To be mild, the best solution for most parents to encounter children playing temper is to take their children to an environment that will not hinder others, and when the children calm down, they can listen to the parents' reasoning.
After returning home, you can sit down and communicate with your child well, tell your child where it is wrong, let your child know that rolling is not a good way to communicate with needs, needs need to be reasonably communicated to fight, but also let children learn to use emotions correctly, and reasonably express needs with others.
We will also find that parents of swinging parenting will not actually make their children obedient in the form of scolding, do not talk to the children who are making trouble, do not pretend to leave to threaten the children, but quietly wait for the children to vent their emotions and then communicate, it seems to be rotten, but in fact, it is more gentle and patient to treat the children.
When you meet a child crying in public, how do you do it?
Are you in favor of the "swing parenting" approach?
Welcome to discuss in the comment area~ together