A Tsinghua mother's education method: If your child is 3 to 15 years old, be sure to check it out

Psychologists have said:

Sow an action, harvest a habit;

Sow a habit, harvest a character;

Sow a character, harvest a destiny.

Simply put, habit determines destiny.

The level of life of children in the future, how good the ability to do things, are more or less related to habits.

If your child is in the 3-15 age group, I recommend taking 5 minutes to see.

Because with a little guidance, the child will benefit for life, and parents must not miss the perfect period for the formation of this habit.

01

About eating.

Eating less does not matter much, do not chase him, do not eat even if it is, a bowl is the basic amount.

Don't ask to eat too full, seven points full, enough for the body to consume energy. In this way, there are many gullies in the cerebral cortex, which is conducive to memory and so on.

Try to train children to eat less meat, eat more vegetables and fruits (can adhere to the best), do not let the body accumulate fat, affect the brain.

Be sure to take the snack, replace it with fruit, and eat apples and bananas every day, both of which are related to intelligence and have a calming effect.

A doctor friend of mine once told me not to force small children to eat.

Children have several periods of growth and development, especially in puberty, and the amount of food will naturally increase.

If you open your appetite early, his meal will pass by the time of development, and by puberty you will not be able to let him eat less.

02

About health.

The body is the cost, and exercising is a career worth your life.

Only those who have a strong physique are qualified to talk about learning and making a living.

So, you have to develop good habits from now on:

Go to bed early and get up early, insist on exercising;

Regular participation in outdoor activities and sports;

Maintain a regular routine;

Stay away from junk food;

Don't indulge in the Internet, it hurts your eyes and your brain.

Exercise when you are young, have a healthy physical foundation, do not have to pay too much price to develop good habits, do not wait until the body is wrong to make up for it.

It's not that hard to find a sport you love and can often do, and stick to the things you like, right?

What's more, it can benefit you for a lifetime.

03

About heart volume.

I told him that others were under no obligation to be nice to you. The human heart is uneven, just as the earth has mountains, river valleys, and plains.

If others are good to you, you should be grateful to him; if you are not good to you, that is his behavior, and it is normal.

There is no absolute fairness in all things.

The larger the amount of mind, the greater the energy that can be obtained, and the more you get without asking for it.

Heart and compassion are important and have a decisive effect on the differences in a child's later life and circumstances.

04

About etiquette.

"Child, I allow you to be uncultured, but I definitely do not allow you to be uncultured!"

The upbringing here is what we usually call a ritual habit.

Everyone has seen bear children, I remember once taking the elevator, and it was a mother and son who entered the elevator with me.

The child looks about 7/8 years old, they are downstairs on the 7th floor, did not expect to get out of the elevator, the bear child pressed each floor of the elevator above, the mother on the side witnessed all this happening, but as if nothing happened, led the son away...

After that time, I suddenly understood that a large part of the reason why bear children are so bearish is the dereliction of duty of their parents.

So, what kind of courtesies must a qualified parent teach their children before they turn 15?

Do not make a sound when eating, especially when eating noodles, be sure to bite off, do not suck into the mouth; do not use a male spoon to drink soup, use your own small spoon; if your children eat and spit, be sure to correct it.

Sit on the bench to put both knees together, two hands naturally on the knees, pay attention to only sit 1/3 of the chair, do not spread your legs or cross a second leg, this look is really ugly.

When you go to someone else's house as a guest, without permission, don't look around, don't directly do it, and randomly turn over the master's things; when eating, don't gobble up, which is not conducive to digestion, but also damages the image; after eating, remember to help friends clean up the table, even if the other party does not let you help, you must also have this move.

No matter what kind of food, no matter what kind of food you like, you can't bring it directly to the front, whether it's at home or outside; in public places, try to avoid eating food such as pig's trotters and large bones, and the way you eat with grinning teeth is really unsightly.

When others serve you, such as pouring water, serving food, checking tickets, etc., be sure to say thank you to show respect; not casually looking at other people's photos, chatting information, eavesdropping on others, is also respect.

05

About scores.

How many points to score on the exam, but not to express too many opinions, my principle is: learning is his own business.

I only told him to analyze the reasons for the wrong questions on the paper, whether he did not understand or was careless, and self-correction.

Nor would he be asked how high he ranked in his class (all the way through high school).

Mathematics will always write very simple problems wrong, adults and children will regret it and say: "What a pity!" If you pay attention to math, it will be a perfect score! ”

I have also encountered this situation, seeing the 99-point roll, I wonder how to make him not careless and not maha?

The opportunity came in the misery of others, probably in the third grade, when there was a unit building a house, and when it was halfway through, the house collapsed.

I took him to the scene for opportunity education, from the mechanics and other methods, because a little error in the calculation will cause the base foot to support the house to have a difference, the point that is less calculated will sink;

In terms of building materials, cement has less labels, steel bars are smaller, and brick and tile quality is inferior, then the whole house is a dangerous house.

In order for him to have a deep understanding, I said that if you cause the death of others because of your calculative carelessness (that accident killed 6 people), how to compensate for human lives?

How to compensate for tens of millions of economic losses?

06

About homework.

1. About the assignment

Set the time, and when the time comes, he will not be allowed to do it.

He said that he could not finish his homework and would be punished by the teacher tomorrow, but I told him that what time to do something, can not be diverted.

The next day he got up early in the morning to do it, and I was equally forbidden to make him cry and go to school. After that, until I graduated from high school, I was the first to complete my homework first.

The teacher assigns homework and asks the parents to check the signature: let the child check it himself, check it and take it to me to sign.

Ask when signing: You are not wrong after checking, he is sure that he is right, you sign. If you see a wrong question, don't point it out to him, so that tomorrow's homework book has a red cross.

In the face of this situation, you just need to say why you didn't check it out yesterday, don't be too strict, don't let the child worry about when you hit him, everything is mainly reasonable, so that he will be much more serious next time.

2. About dictation

The way I solved it was to ask him to do it in silent writing.

I said you can think of all the new words you learned and write them silently, that's not proof that you're great!

He brought the language book and put it in front of me, and I said take the book away, and my mother believed that you would not read it.

3. About criticism

My son was also punished in the first grade of elementary school.

I picked him up from school and waited for him to finish his penal homework while listening to the teacher count how his son was not serious in class, how to have things happen with his classmates, and so on.

After returning home, he carefully asked about the situation, and if his classmates were wrong, they would not criticize him; it was his own problems, and they also whispered to him how to pay attention to and correct them.

It is important for parents to use reason to dispel the negative emotions that he may have towards the teacher, and it is mainly the parents and teachers who are hitting the child's self-confidence.

If the child is scolded at school, the mother who is the mother that night should understand things clearly, dissolve the child's emotions, and repair his self-confidence. Self-confidence in a person's life is very important.

We all know that the words and deeds of parents affect children, and there are some things that children can only learn if they do a good job.

A good habit needs to be maintained; a bad habit needs to be changed.

If the child can break more and more bad habits and develop more and more good habits, then in addition to being pleased, you can also understand one sentence - excellence is a habit.