In school, children are sensible and polite, are the teacher's little assistant, and are good partners for classmates.
At home, he loses his temper at will, makes unreasonable demands at every turn, and often makes the elderly dizzy.
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Two-faced? What's wrong?
I don't know when the child will switch back and forth in these two contradictory states, one self at school and one himself at home. Many parents are very distressed, why do children have two diametrically opposed manifestations? Is there something wrong with the child's psychology? Actually, neither. Let's take a closer look, and the problem lies with the parents.
School and family are also education? Why are the results so different?
Parents may feel wronged as to why it is their own problem. In school, children's behavior and thoughts have a set of strict management system constraints, children abide by discipline for a long time, and after forming a psychological stereotype, they are transformed into a habit. And because of the good work, they will not be praised and rewarded from time to time, and most children are happy to implement this set of guidelines.
On the contrary, parents rarely set clear rules for their children at home, and most of the time, parents find out what problems their children have exposed, and then they will be educated in a targeted manner. Crucially, the lack of systematic education sets family education apart from schooling. The school has clear rules, rewards and punishments, and teachers set positive examples for children. These parents can compare them one by one, whether they are lacking.
How to change the status quo of tutoring and make children consistent?
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Continue good living habits
Use school standards to require children to pass on the good habits they developed at school to their homes. Regular work and rest, healthy eating, polite treatment. Do your own homework, pack your own school bags, don't do everything by the parents, don't carry the school bags by the parents to the school door, and then hand them to the children, these small things are handed over to the children themselves. As a student, if the weight of the school bag cannot be borne, how can we shoulder the heavy responsibility of the great rejuvenation of the nation in the future.
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Strengthen family rules and distinguish between rewards and punishments
Parents should establish family rules for their children, with clear rewards and punishments. Let the child know what to expect, and wait until the child has done something wrong, and there is evidence. For example: the courage to admit mistakes, not to lie to your mother. If the child does something wrong, he lies. While giving punishment, be sure to let the child clearly know that he has made a very serious mistake, not an example.
Only when the child has a jealous mentality, he will always remind himself and no longer make mistakes. In the same way, if the child does a good job, he should give praise, and when the child has a substantial improvement, he must give rewards, but the rewards should be moderate, otherwise it will be counterproductive.
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Parents set an example for their children
Parents should lead by example and set an example for their children. Parents do not follow the rules, and how to ask children. Share with children some hard-working, sensible, polite children's ancient and modern stories, establish a positive image for children, and subtly influence children.
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Stick with something
After the implementation of family regulations, children may begin to have some discomfort and will resist in a crying and uncooperative manner. At this time, parents need to strengthen their faith, not to be soft-hearted, and not to compromise. A child's success is often the result of the parents' persistence again and again.
Children are all on a starting line, with almost the same effort, success should belong to every child, the difference is only in a single thought. Some children give up and really give up, and some children give up but parents choose to stick to it again.
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