Every time a child encounters a problem, it is a good opportunity for her to improve her ability to withstand stress.
As parents, we should seize this opportunity and let the children solve it by themselves. Parents must not be a big package, if you solve the child's problems as ordered, and encounter problems in the future, try to ask, can your child's ability to resist pressure?
Nowadays, many children are in a pampered family, and all the things encountered are solved by parents and grandparents, so that many children have poor stress resistance and do not know what to do when they encounter problems.
Today we will talk about the importance of "reverse quotient" for children, and how smart children are cultivating children's "inverse quotient".
In fact, contrarian quotient mainly includes four aspects, namely influence, responsibility, control and sustainability. Control is that when people encounter difficulties, they can still believe that they have the opportunity to make changes; responsibility is actually a sense of responsibility, a child with a sense of responsibility, even if they encounter some difficulties in fulfilling their responsibilities, but because of their sense of responsibility, they can still try to solve the difficulties in front of them.
Influence is that when children encounter difficulties, they will find that if they do not solve this difficulty, they may cause some other difficulties, which may be more troublesome; children with low persistence will feel that the persistence of difficulties is permanent, so that children will fall into self-denial and think that they cannot solve this difficulty.
After understanding the four points of inverse quotient, we need to know how to improve the "inverse quotient" of children.
First of all, in the face of adversity, we must learn to recognize how our reaction is, that is, to have a clear judgment of our "contrarian quotient" and understand what level our own inverse quotient belongs to.
Secondly, you need to understand the difficulties you face, how much responsibility you need to bear, don't be trapped by difficulties, that is, don't expand the difficulties, and secondly, try to get rid of the negative parts of your adversity.
Some time ago, the little egg yolk wanted to learn to draw, learned a few times and felt that he would, he began to draw on the paper, but he drew several times and could not draw well, at this time the little egg yolk was a little unhappy, and when he drew five times and did not draw well, he began to cry and shouted" "Mom, I don't draw anymore"
Then I suddenly thought that before, the little egg yolk did handicrafts, but also several unsuccessful excuses to give up, and now the tools for doing handicrafts are still at home, I realized that this is because the child's ability to be frustrated is too weak, and it is necessary to strengthen the cultivation of anti-stress ability.
In fact, it is not a bad thing that children encounter some setbacks in life and learning. Setbacks are not necessarily a bad thing for children, the key lies in the child's attitude towards setbacks, so what we need to strengthen is the child's attitude in the face of unknown things.
We should start from the small things of daily life, let the children learn to solve problems by themselves, let the children learn to solve the problems by themselves, and bear the consequences of things, so as to achieve the cultivation of anti-stress ability. For example, the child accidentally overturned the vase, and then he cleaned up the broken glass on the ground, which is the consequence of the child himself breaking the vase, but if the child has not broken the vase before, then he will definitely not know how to do it, which is the emergency to bring some pressure to the child.
The child knows that his parents will reprimand him, so he will be anxious. If the child cleans up the pieces by himself, then the child's heart will not be so much stress, and when he encounters these things again, he will know how to deal with them.
We must cultivate children's ability to resist stress in the small things of life, so that children learn to deal with problems and bear the results in daily life. Cultivating a child's ability to deal with problems will make his heart stronger. After all, contrarian quotient determines our attitude when we encounter difficulties.