Many parents feel that their children are in primary school, and with the help of teachers to discipline them, parents will be relaxed.
However, many children are unable to establish proper relationships with teachers and classmates in school for various reasons, and are often bullied by their classmates, ignored or reprimanded by teachers.
When their children are bullied at school, many parents are distressed but do not know how to help their children.
▓ Adolescent psychological counseling for your interpretation: children are always bullied at school, teachers do not care, what to do?
Miss Zhang
I thought that after the child went to school, the parents could relax a little, but the child's recent return from school is always like an air bag, the face that should be bright and happy has been pulled down, gloomy, and the whole night is also quiet and surprising, unwilling to discuss school things, and getting up every morning is more grinding and rubbing, as if you don't want to go to school.
Last week, when he found his arm broken and asked him what was wrong, he said he had been bullied by a few boys at school.
After understanding, I learned that because he looked more quiet and handsome, these boys often laughed at him, and he did not dare to return his mouth, and he kept putting up with it. However, they are getting more and more excessive, and in the past two months, they often take advantage of the teacher's inattention to beat him, pinch him, and stab him in the ass, and the child is not embarrassed to tell the teacher.
Listening to the child say that the last time two children in the class fought, it was actually one child bullying the other, but the teacher criticized both people, and the bullied child still cried because the teacher was partial to learning well.
When we meet such a teacher, as parents, we really don't know what to do. The child has always been very well-behaved, and now he has been patient, his father taught him to fight back, but I think it is not right to beat people, the son is not in good health, how can a person beat those children.
How can we help our children?
Interpretation of psychological counseling for adolescents and children in Guangzhou
Admittedly, there are people in any industry who lack professional ethics, and the education industry is no exception.
But if you lose confidence in all teachers, it is actually not good for the child. The reasons for the child being bullied and ostracized at school can be quite complicated.
Children are treated unfairly by their teachers
If the cause comes from the teacher, the direct cause may be:
Grade problem: The school's teaching assessment of teachers is based on scores, and teachers will naturally be better for children with good grades in order to survive and work, and they will pay more attention to grades for children.
Behavioral discipline issues: All the management of the school will be implemented to the class teacher, if the child is not so well managed, often let the class deduct various evaluations and break up, it is a headache for the class teacher.
Direct confrontation with the teacher: If the student directly expresses opposition to the teacher through verbal and behavioral means, or even presses the teacher's sensitive button, then the teacher may have difficulty maintaining a professional attitude.
How to face such a social and interpersonal environment, parents really need to use their own life wisdom to help their children. If the teacher is bad to a certain extent, causing public outrage, or the teacher's mishandling has caused the child bad harm, parents can go to the school to communicate with the teacher and the school, and give the child a fair justice.
Children are bullied and ostracized by their classmates
Children are bullied and ostracized by their classmates at school, and this harm is somewhat more serious than that of teachers. The reasons for being bullied and excluded by classmates may be varied, or even unreasonable.
For example, a child has a fever conflict with another child because of accidental factors, and the other child is more energetic, unconsciously becoming a force, and then attracting more classmates to fall into the well.
▼ Children may also be excluded from the following factors:
1. Learn. Classmates will also evaluate each other according to mainstream standards, and children with poor grades will often be ridiculed, bullied and rejected by other children.
2. Interpersonal problems. If the child's personality is too selfish, domineering, withdrawn, weird, unsociable, too sensitive, etc., he may be snubbed, alienated, excluded, and teased by his classmates. Especially withdrawn children, it is more likely to be attacked by classmates, because the child's world tends to be more bullying and afraid of hard, and children who are not confident will attract attacks from others.
3. Appearance and clothing. Children are less tolerant than adults, and classmates who disagree with their criteria will inevitably become the target of ridicule. Therefore, sometimes children insist on buying certain costumes recognized by their classmates, in fact, if not particularly excessive, parents still support it.
Does not conform to the mainstream identified by classmates.
Children are more likely to follow the trend, often forming a small circle in the similarity of music, idols, hobbies, family backgrounds, etc. It is particularly prominent in some aspects, sometimes it will be admired by classmates, and sometimes it will be rejected because of it.
In the face of the pressure of being bullied and excluded, children really need to be strong and brave inside. At this time, children need more support and encouragement from their parents to become themselves.
As a parent, you need to use a positive attitude to take this as an opportunity to accompany your child's learning and growth, guide your child to express the grievances in your heart, vent out bad emotions, analyze the reasons for being bullied with your child (more quiet and handsome, timid and withdrawn, lack of masculinity, etc.), explore ways to solve problems, and help children improve their confidence and strategies to cope with complex situations.
The power of peers can effectively deter those who bully weak classmates, so children are encouraged to seek help from friendship and encourage children to make friends at school.
Although it is said that the child faces it himself, appropriate guardianship and protection are inevitable.
After understanding the situation of the child's teacher, if the parent feels that the teacher is more thorough and not impulsive, he can communicate with the child's teacher (not a complaint, simply rely on the teacher to solve the problem), let him pay attention to the child's handling of the whole incident, and avoid harm. If the circumstances are more serious (violent incidents occur), parents can directly contact the other parent to communicate and negotiate ways to solve the problem.
Guangzhou psychological counseling reminder
Children go to school, and although there is a teacher and school supervision, it is impossible for the teacher to take care of each child.
Therefore, parents should communicate with their children in a timely manner, learn more about their children's situation in school, help their children adapt to school life and interpersonal relationships, affirm their children's progress, and encourage their children to be confident and self-reliant.
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