Some time ago, I was suddenly hot in the Chinese crowd in the United States!
Moms are all talking about a "red panda"!
It's the following one:
What is this?
Since I reached middle age, I have found myself more and more out of step with the times, and there are many things that I don't understand.
For example, this little pink fox in the previous fire:
People have been on fire for a long time, even my daughter knows, and I only waited a year later to learn her name!
That's not going to work! I secretly thought to myself, this out, in the future, there will be a lot of common language with my daughter.
Therefore, this time the appearance of the red red panda, I went to inquire about her information at the first time.
What's your name?
Where are you from?
How old are you?
……
The result of such gossip was that I found a windfall.
Because I suddenly searched for this:
It's a new Disney movie called Turning Red, Chinese the name is The Metamorphosis of Youth.
The number of movie trailers on Youtube alone has reached more than 24 million!
It's amazing!!!
The Chinese forums are discussing it because the protagonist is talking about a Chinese girl.
This is Another Pixar animated film that focuses on the growth of children after "Psychic Brigade" and "Mind Agent". Although it cannot be released in theaters around the world due to the epidemic, it still receives good reviews after launching the website, and the well-known film review website Rotten Tomatoes has a praise rate of 95%!
Douban score is also very good: 8.2, has become the new film with the first reputation of recent cartoons.
It's amazing, just seeing this cute red panda, I think my daughter must love it very much!!!
The protagonist of this story is Li Meilin, a little Chinese girl living in Toronto, who lives with her parents in the family ancestral hall of Chinese Street, has excellent math scores and good friends, and is a "perfect child in Chinese style".
Suddenly, one day, Meimei discovers that when she can't control her emotions, she will turn into a huge red panda... How does she face the changes in her daily life?
The film is only one and a half hours long, but it discusses a lot of children's development issues with parents.
1
A question of liking for the opposite sex
In the film, the opportunity for Meimei to become a panda is precisely the moment when she has a hazy liking for the boy who is the salesman of the corner store. Although this good feeling is a projection of one's idol, it is indeed a normal psychological phenomenon for children who have just entered adolescence.
The red color of the red panda and "will change when the emotion is excited" are actually metaphors for girls' menarche. In my opinion, it is the hormones of adolescence that transform beauty into beauty.
And my mother's handling of this matter directly destroyed this beauty. In fact, it is very normal for the opposite sex to have a good feeling for gender awakening, and it is a very beautiful thing to be able to appreciate others and be appreciated by others.
As long as parents correctly guide their children to protect themselves, they will certainly be able to make children harvest good memories!
2
Gender stereotype issues
In meimei's family or even in the family, it is the women in the family who make decisions and have the power; and it is the father who is more delicate and gentle, and who can do housework to receive guests. At the end of the film, Meimei, mom, grandmother, and three generations all see each other's efforts and reconcile together.
A good family education must be so that everyone in the family can be seen. Whether it is a traditional family mother or a considerate and loving father in the kitchen, the division of labor and roles in the family should not be defined, only everyone can appreciate each other's efforts to create a harmonious family environment!
3
Star chasing problem
In the film, one of the events that runs through the film is that Mimi and her friends want to go to the concert of the hip-hop group "Four Cities", which they like very much. However, whether it is money or the permission of their parents, it makes this group of children helpless.
The conflict about chasing stars has always been a problem for many parents, what kind of stars to chase? How do I follow the stars? Where should the limits of spending time be? These are actually the problems that we need to think about!
If you just simply and rudely tear up the poster and strictly supervise it, it will have the opposite effect in the end! Whenever it is, don't forget to communicate with your child patiently!
4
The balance between care and control
At the beginning of the film, it is mentioned that "filial piety to parents" is the most important principle of Meimeijia, and family relations also run through the entire film.
Meimei mothers, like many of our mothers, will be very concerned about their children, and children are the whole center of their own lives: care about their children's safety, care about their children's bodies, care about their children's every move in school, and even follow their children to school because they are not at ease...
But how do you find a balance between such concern and the desire to control that "I am for your own good"?
In fact, we often fall into a misunderstanding with our children, always feeling that he is still a young eagle who learns to speak and needs his own protection. But unconsciously, the child has grown into an eagle with free will and wants to explore the world!
The child's independent individual spirit often warns us that the most important lesson for parents is to learn to let go!
5
The problem of children making friends
Our protagonist Meimei has three very good little sisters in school, although their grades are not as good as Meimei, and they are not well-behaved children who are "obedient, self-motivated, and polite" in the eyes of Chinese parents, but they give Meimei a lot of spiritual support and near-perfect "friendship".
But after the four of them were discovered by their mother for their "rebellious" behavior, her mother took Meimei in her arms and began to accuse the girls of spoiling their own children, and made it clear that "I don't like your friends." However, are the three girls really "bad friends"?
In my opinion, we should not interfere more with the dating of children. It is undeniable that friendship has a great impact on children's growth, and making friends does require caution.
But as long as the other party is a kind-hearted, honest and simple person, then what can it mean that their achievements love behavior and dressing up?
6
The problem of positive mindset versus negative mindset
After everyone learned that Meimei had turned into a red panda, the family's first reaction was: This is a bad thing, and this uncontrollable force must be sealed.
And the mother is worried that Meimei can't control herself from becoming a red panda and causing damage, and she is even more shadowy of Meimei. Grandma also warned Meimei: If you always indulge yourself to become a red panda, then it is very difficult to seal, and you will lose your freedom with the red panda forever.
But around friends, they always keep expressing to Meimei: It's okay, you're really cute like this. Finally, because of the "furry" nature, he discovered business opportunities and began to use the red panda he had become as a mascot, attracting all the children in the school to pet it.
Of course, they are all for a fee, and there are even "commercial performances". People are touched by the rebellious bravery of the United States, and at the same time admire their minds to turn disadvantages into advantages.
Children's growth process will inevitably encounter many unexpected situations, and our accusations and disciplines always make children feel depressed and dare not express their true thoughts. In fact, if you can use a positive attitude to guide, maybe the child can collide with different ideas!
7
The question of obedience and rebellion
In the film, we can see the shadow of the perfect Chinese child who is very familiar: he is very good at mathematics, he can play musical instruments, he goes home after school, he has full marks in his homework, and he will deal with housework with his parents at home. That's what moms are proud of in front of everyone: My kids are perfect.
But is such a perfect child really perfect? The film tells us the answer: she just had to pretend to be a perfectly obedient child.
Meimei likes the band that her mother says is not serious, likes to dance "improper" dances, and fantasizes about intimate contact with her idols. And such a normal desire cannot be accepted by the mother, and she still thinks that it is out of line and rebellious - because the mother herself has been disciplined in this way since she was a child!
We always frame our children with worldly standards, and we always unconsciously put our own personal thoughts and expectations on the back of the child, thinking that what we give is what the child wants.
In fact, we don't have to care about the child's confrontation and rebellion, as long as we can lead by example and guide more, the child will grow up well.
8
The problem of awakening and self-acceptance
Before becoming a red panda, Meimei's personal thoughts were completely suppressed, and after becoming a red panda, she seemed to awaken to her true "self".
She began to make choices according to her own will, began to express her true thoughts to her mother, there would be resistance and crying, and she accepted her own red pandas at the final ceremony , the restlessness and uneasiness of adolescence.
Meimei finally realized that all emotions, all egos, all thoughts, are part of the "me", are the true self. And only by accepting yourself can you completely break free from the reality of screwing.
In the process of growing up, there may be many confused times. When he finds himself thinking differently from others, when he questions himself because of discouragement, our encouragement and guidance is the most important force for children to get out of confusion, accept and embrace themselves.
9
Parental approval issues
To be fair, Meimei's mother did not use the traditional Chinese "suppression education" to demand Meimei, but used a more invisible "tiger mother" education: while praising, while putting forward higher requirements. This method is often difficult for children to refuse, but more often than not, children will feel:
I must meet the expectations of my mother (parents) and I am a useful person who can be accepted and recognized. This also makes many children work hard all their lives to gain the approval of their parents.
And such a pursuit will eventually make children get lost between the "self required by their parents" and "their true self", unable to find their own source of value and unable to get self-confidence.
Later in the film, Meimei finally bravely takes the step of self-recognition, she says to the mother who is also depressed, "Accept it mom", which is not the heart of many of our children?
Fortunately, at the end of the movie, the whole family admits that they are independent individuals, and the grown-up eagle will eventually have the sky they want to soar, and everyone can live their own unique, dream-seeking, and sparkling life.
I also have a daughter, but my little girl is only 5 years old and has not yet encountered the problems that happened in the movies.
However, those scenes in the movie gave me a sharp wake-up call, girls in adolescence development, will encounter a variety of problems, and how to accompany, how to guide, is the most important problem I need to think about.