I haven't recommended a movie to you for a long time, this is not to take advantage of Disney's new animated movie, I took the potato tomato after watching it, hurry to Amway you.
Yes, that's right.
"The Metamorphosis of Youth" is produced by Pixar's only female director, the Chinese-American Shi Zhiyu.
It is estimated that many mothers recognize her, and her previous director "Bao Bao" won the Academy Award for Animated Short Film.
And this time, "The Metamorphosis of Youth", as her feature film debut, has also received great recognition.
Foreign authoritative film review website Rotten Tomatoes freshness score of 93%. Even the harsh Douban score has 8.2 points, which is the best movie in recent times.
After I watched it, I also swept away the mood of the recent emo, it was so cute that there was a wood.
However, in addition to being cute and funny, many people also said that they got a lot of touches and thoughts from it, especially the mode of getting along between the protagonist Meimei and her mother, which triggered the empathy of many people.
Turning Red takes place in Toronto, Canada.
The 13-year-old protagonist, Mimi, is a very ordinary girl.
She followed the rules, studied hard, and even struggled to write a math paper when she was on the bus.
Learning the flute in the school management band and hanging the whole class, she said: "It's the second grade of junior high school, I don't have time to waste." “
Even the three-point shot in physical education class is not a problem!
In the eyes of her mother, Meimei is a warm little cotton jacket, do not have to worry about academics, and life is also a close and intimate match.
The mother and daughter cleaned the ancestral hall together, worked together to drive away the graffiti teenagers, and received tourists who came to visit, and the two cooperated very tacitly.
After returning home, Meimei and her mother sat in the living room making dumplings and complaining about the plot of the TV series together, and the mother's kindness and filial piety were harmonious and harmonious.
Not surprisingly, according to the current life trajectory, Meimei will also become another excellent woman in the family, and will never let her mother down!
However, an accident occurred. By chance, Xiaomei discovers that she will transform into a red panda when her emotions are out of control, and this is a "curse" from the family to the woman and not to the man. Furry, fat, big belly, smelling and smelling...
At the same time, the appearance of the red panda seems to open Pandora's box, and Meimei's personality has undergone earth-shaking changes.
Grades have declined, she has made money from her parents, she has gone to concerts, she has become a rebellious girl in the eyes of her parents, and her original harmonious relationship with her mother has become tense...
The theme of the film revolves around the psychological and physical changes that children undergo under adolescence.
Director Shi Zhiyu said: "The red panda is the perfect symbol of adolescence.
In many aspects, such as emotion or physiology, red can be regarded as a representative color of this stage.
And that furry, growing sense of clumsiness is similar to the subtle awkwardness of adolescence. ”
Furry and a little smelly, corresponding to the discomfort of changes in the physical development of adolescence;
During the transformation, the fear and embarrassment of being discovered, corresponding to menstrual shame;
There is also a good feeling that arises in the heart when facing the handsome opposite sex.
In addition to revealing the physical and psychological changes of children in puberty, director Shi Zhiyu also focuses on the conflicting parent-child relationship that accompanies adolescence.
In the film, after learning that Meimei has entered the stage of transforming into a red panda, Grandma is very vigilant.
In order to deal with the red panda, she not only came to Meimei's house in person, but also brought a group of family aunts with her.
Behind the revival of the teachers and the masses is the painful experience of my grandmother. The appearance of the red panda has robbed the grandmother and the beautiful mother of the intimate relationship.
Grandma's attitude towards the red panda reflects the actual parents' views on adolescence.
Adolescence is like a devil's button, and when pressed, the well-behaved and sensible child suddenly changes, becomes rebellious, disobedient, and rushes against the parents, which is simply unacceptable. But is that really the case?
Is the arrival of adolescence the root cause of parent-child tension, or is it just the detonation of this potential mine?
In the film, Meimei and her mother Ah Ming appear as a mother and a filial piety. But if you pay attention to the details of their relationship, "rebellion" has already begun.
When a favorite singer appeared on the TV, Meimei immediately showed her face excitedly.
But my mother didn't like it very much, covered her chest and frowned and said: Who are these hip-hop artists, why are they 5 people, but they are called Four City Boys?
Sensing her mother's attitude, Meimei immediately changed her mouth: Well... I don't know either, there are a few people at school who like them.
And Ah Ming immediately reacted: Is it Miriam (a beautiful good friend), the girl is very strange...
Whether it is the attitude of her favorite singer, or a good friend, or her mother's casual evaluation, it makes Meimei a little hurt.
But she still chose to obey her mother and did not dare to say what she really thought.
Even later, Mimi's notebook of the crush fell to the ground, and Ah Ming naturally took it over and looked at it, and took her painting and made a big fuss at the convenience store.
Meimei was really embarrassed to drill into the cracks in the ground and never come out again.
Many netizens also said that after seeing it, it was as if they had returned to the age of being dominated by their mothers, and their heart disease was going to be scared out.
The beauty is embarrassing.
But in the face of her mother's inquiry, she still squeezed out a smile: "No, everything is fine." ”
Obviously uncomfortable and disliked, but did not dare to speak directly to his mother.
This "dare not" psychology has already revealed that the so-called intimacy is an illusion.
Children's rebellion and change are never overnight.
The stronger the reaction, the more severe the previous repression.
Adolescence symbolizes the rise of a child's sense of self. On the surface, it seems maddening, like a curse.
But the so-called "rebellion" and "disobedience" are the signs of children's growth. No longer blindly listen to the ideas of adults, but begin to feel and judge on their own.
This is the process by which a child eventually grows into a judgmental, independent individual. Such rebellion is actually something to celebrate.
It is not a curse, but a blessing.
Although potatoes are still early from puberty, he has gone from a docile little cute who only eats and drinks Lasa, to a stubborn little devil who says no every day, and then to a little devil who can scare you three sentences, I seem to have experienced several periods of adolescent rebellion.
At the same time, I felt fortunate that at least he would not be a motherless man without opinion
In addition, I think one of the best things about this movie is that she also focuses on a common type of parent-child relationship in reality - love and killing.
A netizen described his relationship with his mother like this: I obviously love my mother very much, and my mother loves me very much, but we just don't know how to get along, and every time we stay at home for no more than three days, we will constantly quarrel.
Although the behavior of mother Ah Ming was called unbearable and too suffocating by netizens.
But I still don't hate the role of Ah Ming.
Especially as a mother, I can see Meimei's embarrassment and anger, and I can also see the love hidden behind overprotectiveness.
Mistakenly thinking that Meimei is menstruating, the mother warmly prepared various tips to help her daughter survive this sudden growth.
When Meimei drew a picture of a handsome male clerk, her first reaction was not to reprimand Meimei for not thinking about those shameful things, but to care about whether the other party had harassed her daughter.
It looked like a guardian who stood in front of her daughter and wanted to clear all obstacles for her.
Every mother has experienced puberty, and it is precisely because of the first experience that she will be extra careful, resulting in the so-called "overprotective".
On the other hand, Meimei is also in love with her mother. The reason why she has been suppressing her thoughts is also because she knows very well that her mother loves herself very much, how to repay her mother?
Be nice and don't let her down.
"They are the supreme ones who have given you life, and they have worked hard to give you a place to live. In return, the least you can do is be responsive. ”
But such an idea is actually contrary to human nature.
As children get older, they become more and more eager to be independent.
However, due to the difference in her upbringing environment and age, her independence will conflict with her parents' philosophy.
Like the beauty in the film, she is eager to go to the concert with her friends who likes a singer, but her mother thinks it is garbage music and not worth spending time.
As a result, contradictions arise: Parents often think: I have done so much, all for you, why are you so disobedient?
And what the child is thinking is: I am so well-behaved, why are you still not satisfied?
In reality, stick to yourself, or obey your parents and not let them down?
This is also a tangled and contradictory issue in the growth process of many people.
The story of Meimei and her mother in the movie comes from the real experience of director Ishi Noyu.
Born in Chongqing, Shi Zhiyu was the only daughter in the family and immigrated to Canada with her parents at the age of 2. In the process of Shi Zhiyu's growth, his parents' desire for protection is very strong.
The exaggerated plot of the film, because she is worried about her daughter, hides behind a school tree wearing sunglasses comes from her real experience.
When Ishiyuki's mother saw this scene in the movie trailer, she said: Oh, you used our memories in the movie, it's so funny!
And what Ishi no-Yuki thought to himself was, yeah, it's just fun for you.
For most of Ishiyuki's childhood, she did her best to satisfy her parents.
But gradually, as she grew older, she wanted to be independent, but she was worried that it would break her mother's heart.
"We want our parents to be happy, but we also have a desire for self-exploration and a need for independence."
How to be yourself while not disappointing your mother is not easy.
Differences in age and growing environment, such contradictions between two generations are inevitable.
But it's not completely out of solution.
At the end of the film, Meimei meets her mother as a teenager.
Like her, when she was a teenager, her mother felt very guilty for never meeting her parents' requirements.
She felt exhausted and sad to disappoint her mother.
Fortunately, in the end, Ah Ming released the self that had been suppressed for many years and realized the reconciliation of the self.
After apologizing to her mother, her mother's answer also made her feel relieved: "You don't have to apologize, I am your mother." "Even though it's not perfect, Mom still loves her.
When I saw this, I burst into tears.
In the process of raising children, we all need to take a step back in time.
Let go of yourself, and let go of your children. You don't have to be a perfect mother, and your children don't have to be perfect.
At the same time, mom also understood Meimei. She apologizes for being too harsh on her.
She said to Meimei: Don't stay for anyone, the farther you go, the more proud I will be.
I think the movie "The Metamorphosis of Youth" also reminds us through the story of Meimei and her mother that the graceful withdrawal of children when they grow up is destined to be a "small separation" that every parent needs to learn to accept, and it is also destined to be a life challenge that every child has to face.
Love is to accompany early, but also to let go at the right time.
As the famous British psychologist Sylvia once said: "All love in the world has the ultimate purpose of aggregation, and only one kind of love has the purpose of separation, that is, the love of parents for their children." ”
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