My mother-in-law does not take care of my confinement, and I do not allow her to see her grandson, is it wrong?

01.

The old saying goes: "Ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law", which means that the mother-in-law does her best to help the daughter-in-law in the first few years when she enters the door, and does not let the daughter-in-law feel like an outsider.

Generally speaking, if you compare your heart to your heart, when you are old, you will also be carefully cared for by your daughter-in-law.

However, there are always some mothers-in-law who feel that they have children and daughters, and they cannot fall into the hands of their daughters-in-law, so they do not have to be good to their daughters-in-law, after all, they do not come out of their own stomachs.

And the daughter-in-law needs the help of the in-laws, and when she sets up the handle, she is at most pregnant and gives birth to a child.

Many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts are big because most of them are also in confinement.

But many men who turn to their mothers will not understand, they like to ask a word, they did not wait for you to confinement, is it necessary to be so true.

I can say very clearly that "Yuezi Revenge" is really a hurdle that cannot be passed, the mother-in-law who can be bad to you in the month, the possibility of being good to you in ordinary life is too low, and I met such a mother-in-law.

02.

My husband Li Fan is my college classmate, we were in the sophomore year of the relationship, when I was in college, the relationship has been good.

After graduation, despite his parents' disagreement, he had an iron heart to marry him, and felt that the feelings of the school uniform going to the wedding dress were very romantic, and followed him back to his hometown.

It wasn't long before I realized I was too stupid during some conversations between him and my mother-in-law.

I thought we were both married, and he was just as much because of love as I was.

In fact, he may like me a little, but more because of the general conditions in my family, the personality is more docile, and he thinks I am easy to handle.

To put it bluntly, his standard is because of his mother-in-law.

When he was in his second year of high school, his father left because of a car accident, and his mother was suddenly emaciated.

The family's small company also went out of business because of the death of his father, and the family suddenly cut off its financial resources. Fortunately, there are still some savings, the house is ready-made, but it is not poor.

But here to get married to give a bride price, Li Fan looked at his home conditions, thinking about how pitiful his mother is now.

So he decided at the time. Try to get into a better university, then find a good job, marry a virtuous wife and take good care of your mother, so that your mother can be happy in her old age.

He thought so and did it, and that's why he chose me.

How ridiculous, I married because of love, and he did not marry me because of love.

But I am already married, what can I do, I can only be patient, comfort myself that life may be like this.

But I felt cold when I didn't know when it was, all the housework thrown to me, and my mother-in-law was at home every day and would not help to do something.

After all, I was tired for a day, and when I came home from work, I saw my mother-in-law and mother-in-law waiting for me to cook dinner. Then I had to pack up, and every day in the middle of the night, I couldn't have time to rest.

I endured until I was pregnant, the first 3 months, because the doctor said to keep the fetus. So I took leave to stay in bed at home, and the housework naturally could not be done, and the mother-in-law had no choice but to start doing it again.

But every day I complained to my son, saying that I was pregnant, I didn't work every day, there was no problem, your wife was delicate, I think she is looking for an excuse to be lazy.

At first, Li Fan also said that the doctor said the same thing, but his mother complained too many times, and he listened to it.

I also began to feel that I was lazy in being pregnant, not doing a good job as a daughter-in-law, and letting my mother-in-law work so hard, which was also a kind of sneer at me.

After 5 months, the fetus stabilized, I started to do housework again, the mother-in-law had a lot less ridicule, and Li Fan also had a little more smile.

He also praised me for being gentle a lot, no longer the same as before, and occasionally complained.

He doesn't know that a woman, if she doesn't even complain to you, doesn't complain, has actually begun to die.

I don't know if it's because the pregnancy is too hard, I am still half a month away from the due date, and I am actually going to give birth.

Because it was so sudden, my parents came to me when they received a call, and by this time, I had already given birth to a son.

The mother-in-law and Li Fan were very happy and broken, and kept saying that the old Li family had a queen, and I found out at this time that the mother and son were actually quite patriarchal.

03.

And my mother kept crying because she was afraid that when I gave birth, I wanted to have a caesarean section because of some physical condition.

But the mother-in-law refused, saying that the caesarean section was a waste of money and delaying the birth of the second child, saying that women should have children, do not be afraid of pain.

Li Fan naturally also listens to her mother-in-law's words, a strong let me not shout, it is more important to keep the strength to have a child.

Two people, neither of them cared about my safety.

Fortunately, the child was angry, and in all kinds of ridicule, he actually gave birth smoothly.

After the family of the pregnant woman in the same ward and my parents said this, my mother kept crying, in case they did not arrive, who could protect me.

Originally said that the third day of discharge, in order to save money, there is no confinement club, ready to take care of the confinement.

But I didn't expect that the child was born less than a day ago, the mother-in-law said that she was not in good health, could not take care of the mother and the child, since the mother's parents came over, or the mother's parents to take care of it.

When my mother-in-law said these words, my face did not change, nor did I say a word, I looked at Li Fan.

After his mother-in-law finished speaking, he agreed and said to me, let your parents take care of you, and your biological parents are more intimate.

I smiled, nodded and said yes, the next day, I asked someone to help my parents find a short-term rental house, and after I was discharged from the hospital, I took the child to live in.

During the month, my mother-in-law did not come several times, Li Fan naturally did not come every day, and I did not say anything.

After the confinement, I took my children and my parents back to my hometown.

Waiting left and right at home, without waiting for me and the child, Li Fan called me.

When he learned that I had returned to my hometown, he didn't say anything other than to say that I didn't say hello to him in advance.

I hung up the phone, knowing in my heart that he was vaguely happy to learn that I had returned to my hometown with my child. That way he would be able to worry about it for a few more months.

But he didn't expect that after more than a year, I still hadn't come back.

04.

Naturally, for more than a year, because our two families were relatively far apart, he also said that he was busy at work, and he was stunned that he had not come over once.

I didn't even make a few phone calls, and my mother-in-law didn't need to say a single phone call.

Later, my mother-in-law couldn't sit still, so she asked Li Fan to call me and let me come back with the child.

I said: It's okay to come back, but move out and live with your mother, and your mother shouldn't come to see the children.

He was anxious and said: The child is my mother's grandson, why can't she see it?

I said: At this time, I think it is my grandson? I am good for your mother, didn't your mother say that she couldn't bring the child when this grandson was just born, didn't she let the child's mother and grandparents bring it? Then since this is the case, don't see it in the future, otherwise it will affect the child and tire your mother.

At this time, Li Fan seemed to realize that I was angry.

Yes, he realized at this time that I had a vendetta, and he rushed to my mother's house with his mother.

How funny, there is time at this time, the work is not busy, more than a year, now regret and do not want to come over is not too late.

The mother-in-law was very angry and asked me: Daughter-in-law, just because you were asked to do housework, you did not wait for you to confinement, you will not let me see my grandson, but also to move out? You do this, how do I live, I am this son and grandson.

I looked at her and said: Isn't this the result you want, I'm for your own good.

Subsequently, I told Li Fan that if I did not move out and did not agree to my conditions, then we would divorce.

Don't you think that I have a docile personality and are easy to pinch, this has been pinched for almost two years, this time I am strong, you look at it.

Li Fan is embarrassed, he doesn't want his mother to be sad, and he doesn't want to divorce me, but I will care how difficult he is.

Big deal divorce, this is my decision, he and his mother-in-law treated me like this, this hurdle I can't get over. I think I'm right.

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