We all say that the people take food as the sky, and eating is an extremely important thing in everyone's life.
"Food" is far more important than you think, it can not only be used to fill our stomachs, satisfy our taste buds, and even for us to find a good marriage.
Whether the woman you like has the same good feelings for you, whether there is a match between you, etc., as long as you observe carefully, these can be seen in a meal.
Wang Shi and Tian Pujun of Vanke set up a relationship at the dinner table. Wang Shi made an appointment with Tian Pujun for dinner three times, and Tian Pujun gladly went to the appointment. And these three times Wang Shi unexpectedly did not pay for the meal.
When Wang Shi asked Tian Pujun to dinner for the fourth time, he said that he would invite all the previous ones back. In this way, the two met more often, and by the time of the fifth dinner, Wang Shi expressed his love to Tian Pujun and later married.
Some people say that Wang Shi is a master of "pampering sisters", full of routines. Leaving these aside, the following four points can be analyzed from the above examples alone.
You invite dinner, whether the other party is happy to come to the appointment
Most women are very cautious about the invitation of the opposite sex. After all, it is not a group gathering, and the form of meeting alone often implies something in the case of non-public.
If you invite once, twice, three times, the other party is a constant refusal attitude, and the tone of rejection is very firm, then you only have two options, one is to continue to maintain contact and brush favorability, and the other is to retreat from difficulties.
If the other party only refuses once in a reserved manner, if you want to refuse once, then you must invite again and express your sincerity.
Most women can't bear to refuse the opposite sex they like many times, and they won't be sharp enough to make you faceless.
For women who are happy to go to the appointment, we have to judge in two situations: one is whether the other party agrees to anyone's invitation, which is like a little red in the evergreen bush; the other is whether the other party has always been green-eyed with you, and keeps a very rational distance from the other opposite sex.
In the face of different women, we deal with things differently and our psychological expectations are also different.
When you go to an appointment, do you deliberately wear makeup and dress up?
As the saying goes, "women are pleasing to themselves", in the relationship between the sexes, for the opposite sex that they care about, women will be more concerned about their own dress, more concerned about their image in each other's minds.
Men don't really understand that a perfect makeup look requires women to think hard and spend time to create.
If the other person treats you as a brother, or if you are too far away from his mate selection criteria, women are not willing to give you all this energy and time.
If the two people are not familiar, some women will maintain due courtesy, but only for social etiquette; some women will be more casual, will be a big grin, how comfortable how to come.
If a woman also has a crush on you and wants to have a friendship with you, she will carefully groom her makeup, put on the outfit she feels is the most suitable for her, and go to the date.
Men can carefully observe whether the other party is different from the usual dress, whether it is more elaborate. If the answer is yes, then congratulations, the other party's favorability for you is also very high.
During the meal, whether the mood and state are online
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "We let go of dignity, let go of individuality, let go of stubbornness, all because we can't let go of a person." ”
When we have a person in our hearts, we unconsciously want to show our best side in front of each other. For example, when you are young, when those basketball teenagers meet the girls they like to watch the game, they will always play extraordinarily.
Another example: if a man has a good feeling for a woman, he will want to show his gentlemanly demeanor and show his strength everywhere.
In the dinner game, it is a good opportunity to show yourself, and the same is true for the other party.
If a woman is emotional when she eats with you, cares about what you say, cares about your preference for dishes, and is not indifferent or perfunctory, that is a good sign.
If a woman is black-faced, frequently fiddling with her phone, and absent-minded about the topics you throw around when you're having a meal, then it's likely that you're cold.
At the same time, in the conversation during the meal, people are relatively relaxed. We can better judge whether the views of two people are consistent and whether they are suitable for further interaction.
After dinner, whether the interaction is good when contacting again
Li Bai, a great poet of the Tang Dynasty, wrote in the "Autumn Wind Words": "Enter my acacia door, know that I miss each other bitterly, Sauvignon Blanc and remember each other, and short acacia is infinite." ”
Many men are confused about how to pursue women, can't seize the opportunity to hit iron while it's hot, and only know that they are buried in bitter love, which is the most undesirable.
Love wants to indulge, if it is a skill, but on the basis of clarifying the other party's mind, it can be operated. And not used after a short meal, in situations where the feelings of both parties have no direction at all.
Therefore, we must take the initiative to contact each other after the invitation of the dinner party, and judge the other party's thoughts and emotional trends in the interaction.
Women are needles in the heart, and women are also fickle. A lot of things, after cooling down, maybe the idea is completely different.
In the subsequent interaction, men still have to judge whether the other party is willing to continue to contact themselves, whether they are interested in themselves and have expectations.
Guo Degang once made such a profound comment on the invitation to the dinner bureau: "Many people love to invite people to dinner, you remember, inviting people to eat for three days is "please", two days is "calling", and this day is counted as "slipping". ”
Women all hope that they have a certain status in the minds of men, and they also appreciate sincere suitors. Moreover, if women have a certain value for invitations, they will also hope that they have a certain preparation time and psychological buffer for this date.
For the matter of dinner, I also give men a suggestion. Some men are more "straight men", so for those men who have no love experience and cannot correctly judge in the world of feelings, add a little more: be careful that the other party's mind is not pure.
For example, blindly choose to go to expensive, high-end restaurants, regardless of the actual economic situation of the man. Of course, there is also a note here, that is, the level of the woman herself.
If she is in and out of high-end dining places on a daily basis, that is the habit of life; if she herself is usually a small restaurant, a roadside stall, and she dates you and is still like this, it is to slaughter you as a fat sheep.
As the French writer Molois put it: "Love needs to be carefully maintained." The charm of novelty is only a flash in the pan. ”
The affairs of feelings, each person has his own destiny, man is predestined, and fate can be expected.
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