Mother's kindness and filial piety are the wishes of many people.
But in life, not every family lives in harmony, and some elderly people will find that they can rely on their children when they are old, which cannot simply judge that their children are not filial piety, but the result of the cycle of cause and effect.
This is the case with mrs. Yi, 84 years old, who has 7 children and 3 children who are still alive, namely the eldest son Yang Geng, and 2 daughters.
Facing the camera, Mrs. Yi burst into tears: "My children are not filial piety, they ignore me, I am homeless." ”
The man next to him also echoed: "Yes, children should be filial to the old man, at least to give the old man a place to live." ”
Neighbors told the staff that the man next to the old woman was no one else, but the old woman's remarried partner, so why did they refuse to take care of their wives? What is the story between Mrs. Yi and her children?
01. The old lady comes home, and the eldest son confesses that the mother has not fulfilled her responsibilities
The old woman's eldest son, Yang Geng, is 65 years old, and his family has built a small building, and he himself has a monthly pension of 3,000 yuan, and the stable economic conditions for his children's work are quite surplus.
In the face of reporters and his mother, he said bluntly: even if he is in prison, he will not accept her.
The eldest son, Yang Geng, told reporters that his father died 30 years ago, when his mother was only in her forties, but she could not stand loneliness and left home with her underage siblings.
In the more than thirty years since I left, I have not sent a penny to my family, I have not fulfilled the responsibility of a mother, and my younger brothers and sisters have worked hard to pull up.
Now that the family is a little better, she has come back to ask for support, and the original eldest daughter-in-law has made room for the elderly for the sake of her mother, who knows that the old woman is restless all day long.
As a result, the old woman who moved freely asked to sleep at night with someone to accompany her, and she also had to turn on the lights for the night, so Yang Geng contacted her sister Yang Xiu to pick up her mother.
The mother was not at her sister's house, still noisy, not long after living, the 84-year-old lady said that she was going to get married, and the other party was Yan Bao, who was more than ten years younger than her.
Knowing such a thing, Yang Geng is very angry, his mother has been away from home for many years, she has remarried many times, at this age, it is good to live a year with peace of mind, how can she still be so tossed?
The neighbors around him knew and asked him what was going on, did he not want to raise his mother, so that the old lady wanted to remarry? Yang Geng felt that his mother had humiliated him.
No matter how much the children persuaded, the mother did not change her mother's thoughts, and they knew in their hearts that the reason why Yan Bao was willing to marry the old lady who was older than her teens was to covet the old woman's savings of more than 100,000 yuan, and by the way, she found a free nanny.
As a result, the mother remarried for less than three years, the savings were spent, and seeing that the old lady was not in good health, Yan Bao planned to send the old lady back, coaxed the old lady to divorce herself, and also said that the children should unconditionally support the elderly.
02. There must be a cause for the hundred fruits, and the old woman insists on remarriage and breaks the hearts of her children
It was the old lady's tossing and turning, and the children were now indifferent to her.
After Yang Geng's refusal here, the reporter's friend found the eldest daughter-in-law, that is, Yang Geng's wife, and sure enough, the eldest daughter-in-law did not give a good face, saw the arrival of the old woman and asked: How did you come?
When the reporter asked about the issue of supporting the elderly, the eldest daughter-in-law made it clear that she never said that she would not support her mother-in-law, that the mother-in-law did not want this home, and left a room for her.
In the past few years since the old woman remarried, her body has also become weak, it is inevitable that there will be this disease and that pain, and it will also take a lot of money to see a doctor, and she desperately hopes that her children can give themselves a pension.
And what she did was completely disregarding the face of the family, and the children's every effort to keep her did not prevent her from remarrying, such an act had already broken the hearts of her children, not to mention being pointed out by neighbors.
Seeing that the children had a cold attitude towards the old lady, Yan Bao had already quietly run away, everyone avoided her, and the old lady was also very lonely.
Speaking of the old lady is pitiful, but this is also her self-inflicted, remarried many times in her life, escaped from the status quo, and treated marriage as a child's play, basing her hope on men, and finally eating the bitter fruit.
If after the death of her husband, she did not leave her underage children to leave home, and raise her children well, she would like to be old and enjoy her old age.
If she had not insisted on remarrying, she would have been at ease to live in her eldest son's house after returning, and I believe that her eldest daughter-in-law would have treated her kindly, and she would not have been homeless in her later years.
Unfortunately, there is no if, let alone regret medicine, and the old woman will eventually bear the consequences for her actions.
03. To be kind to your daughter-in-law is to be kind to your old age
The human heart is flesh, and good relationships are mutual.
The same is true between families, everyone is eager to have a warm and harmonious family relationship, but in order to get each other's approval, we need to take the initiative to pay more for the family.
I have an aunt by my side, and she was very happy in her old age.
When his aunt was 46 years old, his wife died unexpectedly, and many people introduced him to his wife and persuaded her to remarry, after all, she was still young.
But she did not choose to remarry, but went out to work, saved all the money for her son to study, and after her son got married, she helped take care of the children, so that the little two could work with peace of mind.
Later, the aunt fell ill, the daughter-in-law accompanied and took good care of it, and the son took out his savings to treat his mother's illness, and the family lived happily.
The aunt's filial piety to her daughter in her later years is because she led by example when she was young, did not abandon her children, and did not rely on others, but devoted herself wholeheartedly to the family.
Being a role model for daughters and daughters, working hard to raise sons, and taking the initiative to share the pressure of the family, the aunt's old age is the return she paid when she was young, and when she needed it, her son and daughter-in-law were always with her.
When the aunt was young, she fully supported her son's small family, and now that she is old, she can also be regarded as bittersweet, the family gets along well, and the son and daughter-in-law are filial piety, which is the ideal old age for all the elderly.
Everyone is paving the way for their old age, and the life you see is actually their own early arrangement.
Like it, wish the friends who like it a harmonious family, do you think the old woman's son should refuse to support?