When you are old, what kind of life do you want to live? No one wants to get old, but no one has the ability to stop the pace of time. Suffering when you are young is not bitter, but it is really sad to suffer when you are old. All people should plan ahead and plan for their future lives.
Aunt Liu is a retired worker after 60, which can be said to be the envy of many elderly people, because her two children are very good.
The son and daughter have very good academic performance, the son went abroad to study in the United States, and then married and had children in the United States. My daughter also went to college in the south, stayed in Guangzhou to work, and is a famous lawyer. Aunt Liu has a great sense of superiority in front of her neighbors, because she has successfully educated and raised two excellent children.
But after she fell seriously ill, her sense of superiority did not exist. Aunt Liu was hospitalized because of acute gastritis, her son could not come back, called a sum of money, let her live in the best hospital, and her daughter also called every day to comfort her, that is, she was too busy at work and had no time to come back.
When she was lying alone in the hospital bed, she suddenly remembered that when she was young, she often said: "As long as the children are good, they can go as far as they can, I don't care." She never regretted it, and she missed the child's absence, but now she wondered if she was wrong?
Aunt Liu is a selfless mother who has spent half her life on her children's education and paid the greatest amount of financial support, but when she is old and frail, no child stays with her.
Looking at the neighbors around them, their children may be mediocre, but when their parents need it, they can immediately come to their parents, and their elderly parents are also very happy.
Selfish parents will be happier in their later years. Why do I say that? Take your child going to school and looking for a job. Selfless parents, what they think of is that as long as the child has the ability, they are willing to work hard to support them, let them realize their own ideals in life, and do not think about what to do when they are old.
And some parents, they feel that they raise their children is to provide for the elderly in the future, when the children go to college and look for a job, they have a little selfishness, do not want them to go too far, hope to be closer to themselves, and it is convenient to take care of their parents in the future.
What kind of old age life to live is the choice of parents themselves!
Whether the parents are selfish or selfless, in addition to the distance of the child, other choices are also important. Parents live happily or unhappily in their later years, mainly depending on their own choices.
Some elderly people raise their children and begin to plan their old age, travel, dance, play chess, do what they like, and live the life they want.
However, some elderly people are still planning for their children, and it is very hard to help them with their children, but they can have more time to work and earn money. The pension subsidizes them a little, and they are more frugal, but the pressure on their children's mortgage is a little less. Therefore, the different choices of parents are to live a different life.
Be a selfless parent, or a little "selfish" parent? I feel that I am more supportive of the elderly to live their own lives well first, not to have only children in their hearts for a lifetime, and then to have others.
If you are not in good health, don't force your children to take care of your children and do housework
It is not impossible for parents to help their children with their children, but this is not the obligation of the elderly. Some young people feel that their parents should help them with their children and do housework.
However, the physical condition of the elderly will indeed have many conditions, and if your physical health allows, you are willing to help with the child without problems. If you are not in good health, don't force yourself, once the body collapses, it is the greatest misfortune, and it may become a drag on the child.
Life is not rich, let their young people fight on their own.
This is the case in many families, where the elderly desperately try to save and the young spend lavishly. I think that parents have raised their children, and when the children are young, we save money and use them, and the children should bear the burden of life when they are adults.
If we are not very rich in the economy, there is no need to be harsh on ourselves, let the children enjoy life, and want to live a happy life, let them work their own!
The rest of your life is not long, and you want to do what you want to do as much as possible to satisfy yourself.
Whether it is time or money, a person's life is said to be long, but in fact it is also very short. We always have to have a part of the time to belong to us, to do what we want to do, not to let people leave regrets in life, and to work hard to maintain our bodies and make our old age a little more healthy and happy.
Where I wanted to go when I was young, now I have money and time to quickly realize it. Children have their own happy life, and we must also live a wonderful life.
You can't protect your child for a lifetime, just do it
Children and parents are a journey of gradual separation, can not protect the child for a lifetime, can only make the child's future road smoother. So when the child needs to be taken care of, we do our best. When we are old, we live well ourselves, and it is best not to burden our children.
Therefore, when we are young, we plan more for our children and ourselves, and when we are old, we don't have enough energy to let go of our children and live well, you say?
What kind of life you want to live when you are old still depends on yourself, but children and parents are still a tree of Teng, the filial piety of the teaching should still be educated, and the gratitude that should be given should still be understood by the child. Life is the best life, we are not ashamed, it is the best life.