Parents cultivate children, but they end up failing, how to break!

Parents send their children every day

English class, math class, art class, dance class...

Busy;

Watch someone else's child who took the piano first level

Who won the Olympiad Prize...

Their own children are not interested in learning anything

What to do?

Howard Gardner, chair professor at harvard's Institute of Education, published a book called "The Structure of Intelligence" in 1983, in which he believed that people are born with eight different intelligences:

Language Proficiency:

When you see something, you like to describe it in various words; She loves to tell stories and tell them beautifully.

Space Capabilities:

Walking in the streets and alleys, you can point out the places you have been; Depict objects.

Mathematical Logic Ability:

Questions like "when did it start" are often asked; Willing to classify toys according to size or color requirements.

Limb motor ability:

It is very easy to learn to ride a bicycle, skate, etc.; Good at imitating other people's various movements and expressions.

Musical Abilities:

Likes to dance or sing to music; I like to listen to various instruments and can judge which instrument it is based on the sound of the music.

Interpersonal Skills:

Likes to play games with children; There is no sense of timidity in public.

Introspective ability:

Very willing to play a variety of roles, like to make up stories; Be able to accurately judge what you can or can't do.

Observation ability:

Pay attention to other people's mood changes to feel when others are sad or happy; The first time I see someone, I say, "He reminds me of so-and-so." ”

Some people have an advantage in logical thinking, some people have an advantage in image thinking; some people are knowledgeable and strong, but they are not good at integrating; some people have poor memory, but they can remember the most important information and are good at thinking; any person, there is always such an advantage or potential advantage.

Similarly, each child is unique and has different talents, and what we parents need to do is discover the child's talent, protect the child's talent, provide them with the environment they need to grow up, and then quietly wait for them to grow up to be the way they are!

However, according to statistics, more than 87% of parents in the mainland have failed to cultivate their children. The reason is that parents do not understand what kind of talent their children have, but only wishfully cultivate and design their children's future according to their own wishes, and finally spend a lot of money but have little effect. A lot of money and energy is wasted, not to mention, wasting the child's talent is the biggest loss.

Some parents also strive to discover their children's talents, but talents are not as easy to identify as their height and appearance, and parents subjectively speculate on their children's talents according to superficial phenomena, often forming misjudgments.

Although the child's talent is not obvious, it will come in various forms. Therefore, the following information can help you identify your child's personal talents.

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Talent Fun Quiz

If your child is under 4 years old and has most of the following, then congratulations, your baby may be superintelligent.

(1) Good at memorizing poems and lines in interesting television;

(2) Rarely get lost——— especially girls;

(3) Be able to notice various changes in other people's emotions;

(4) Often ask questions such as "When did this thing start";

(5) Elegant movement coordination;

(6) Can sing well according to the tune;

(7) Often ask questions about the universe such as thunder, lightning, and rain;

(8) When you switch to a word commonly used in telling a story, he will correct you;

(9) Learn to tie shoelaces and ride a bicycle quickly and effortlessly;

(10) Like to play roles, make up stories, and act quite decently;

(11) When riding in the car, he would say, "Grandma took me to this place last winter";

(12) Love to listen to different instruments played, and can say the name of the instrument according to the timbre;

(13) Good at drawing maps and drawing objects;

(14) Good imitation of various expressions and various sports movements;

(15) Collect toys according to specifications and colors;

(16) Be good at expressing the feeling of doing something, such as "I am happy to do this";

(17) Very good at storytelling;

(18) Like to comment on various sounds;

(19) When meeting a certain person, he will say things like: "He reminds me of Xiaoming's father";

(20) Be able to say exactly what he can and cannot do.

If your child is like this, he may have shown great ability and talent. The specific correspondence reflecting their abilities and talents is as follows:

Language proficiency——— 1, 8, 17;

Musical abilities——— 6, 12, 18;

Logical mathematical abilities——— 4, 7, 15;

Spatial imagination ability——— 2, 11, 13;

Physical motor ability——— 5, 9, 14;

Know your abilities——— 10, 16, 20.

Talent is often hidden in a person's interests, but hobbies cannot be equal to talents. A person who likes to sing very much does not mean that he must have a talent for singing. Children, in particular, have curiosity about everything in the process of growing up, and this curiosity and interest is not stable, easy to transfer, and cannot be completely equated with talent.

Well, we need to test the child's talent from a scientific point of view

--Genetic testing

A large number of studies have shown that not only can people's body shape, skin, and appearance be inherited, but also their talents are determined by genetic genes, such as intelligence, personality, emotion, and art. These genes, which are closely related to talent, are called talent genes.

According to the study of biology, physiology, psychology, psychopathology and other disciplines, people are born with a special ability. However, this ability is secretly hidden in the human body, and it is not visible on the surface, and we call this ability potential.

Do you have a particularly mischievous child who can run away without a moment of silence and in the blink of an eye? Can you do everything in the upper house? Congratulations, you have a physically intelligent and strong baby who has a good chance of becoming a future athlete!

Your baby doesn't have any specialty, but he is just good at communicating with others, and everyone likes him?

Haha, congratulations, you have a child with extraordinary interpersonal intelligence, and his future career may be due to his enduring popularity!

Every ability has a reason and value, and every child has the potential to become a talent or even a genius. The question is, do we really understand the child's potential, respect it, and help him use it in a good and balanced way to maximize the child's strengths?

Children, as the focus of a family's attention, carry the hopes of two generations. With the increasing pressure of social competition, parents are increasingly worried about the future of their children. Many parents start early education when their children are less than one year old, start to cultivate their strengths at the age of three, and apply for various special classes, English classes, and tutoring classes when they are in elementary school, hoping that their children can have a skill.

"My child can't lose at the starting line" is a phrase that many parents hang on their lips, but with the development of society and the advancement of science and technology, choosing a suitable track for children is the key to success.

The great scientist Albert Einstein once said: "Children are born geniuses, but often in their years of curiosity, the wrong way of education kills their talents." ”

Scientific guidance and precise cultivation are the keys to talent. Now it seems that genetic testing provides an auxiliary reference compared with guessing, speculating, or measuring the child's good at it by its own standards.

Parents' heartache: tears!

Missed the critical period and ruined the child's life!

The cultivation of talent is time-sensitive. Only when reasonable and scientific education and cultivation are carried out in the most important and appropriate time period can the natural potential be effectively developed. For each competency, the most rewarding periods are different, and some are even short.

It is difficult to imagine that an adult can learn gymnastics what obvious effect, the hardships of learning foreign languages at an older age are also deeply experienced by many people, and only at the most important and appropriate time can reasonable and scientific education and cultivation be carried out, and the natural potential can be developed into real ability.

Children's talent will decrease with age, the later the education place, the less children's innate potential is played, interest is the source of learning, for things that are interested, learning is faster and more effective; but for children, interest is indeed diverse but not easy to last, so parental guidance and education or often towards the child's potential talent as a goal of progress, both to stimulate interest, but also to develop potential, in order to truly develop the child's ability, turn talent into ability, Truly achieve talent!