Adolescence is the best time of our lives, but it is precisely because of the beauty of adolescence that it is very fragile at the same time. Therefore, adolescent children, parents will pay special attention to their emotional and emotional problems.
Especially for girls, puberty indicates that girls are about to bloom their own beauty, but at the same time the flower bones are particularly delicate, so parents must pay attention to the following three signals, before the danger comes, to do a good job of dredging for children in time.
1. Girls are ashamed of the physiological changes in their adolescence.
Because after entering puberty, the girl's body will undergo a series of changes, such as the bulge of the chest and the first menarche of menstruation. These are particularly obvious phenomena for girls. If the parents' education is not in place, and the child is pointed out by others because of his own physical problems, the child will easily feel inferior.
We often see some adolescent girls, because the bulge of the chest is afraid of being looked at by others, so they always shrink their necks and bend over, as if they are afraid of being discovered by others. And it seems that for many girls, wearing a corset makes them feel particularly shy.
Appropriate shyness is normal, but parents should be noted if the child is particularly inferior as a result.
2. The child is very sensitive to emotions and is also very concerned about the attitudes and emotions of the people around him.
Because girls develop faster than boys during adolescence, and girls themselves are more delicate and emotional, they are particularly sensitive to the emotional changes of the people around them.
So it's okay for boys to grin and not pay attention to other people's feelings, but in adolescence, if girls are particularly sensitive, they will be easily hurt by others, because of some words or behaviors of others and self-doubt.
3. Adolescent girls may feel anxious because of their relationships with those around them.
Because after puberty, children need a sense of security and affirm their own value, so girls are prone to crave affection, friendship and love. At this stage, girls will pay special attention to other people's views on themselves and the interpersonal relationships with people, hoping to get the affirmation and likes of others.
On the contrary, if girls are denied and rejected at this stage, then their emotions will be particularly depressed and vulnerable.
Since adolescent children need special care from us, parents should also pay attention to the following two points of education.
1. Gender education.
Although I talk about sexual discoloration in our traditional impression, we parents try to avoid embarrassment when talking to our children about gender relations. But gender relations are essential in our education of our children.
In addition to the things that should be paid attention to when menstruation comes and the physiological education such as personal hygiene, we also need to let children know how to deal with gender relations.
Puberty is the time when children's love sinuses first open, and parents should express understanding for the throbbing and liking of the opposite sex, and must not think that these are flood beasts, especially suppressing the development of these aspects of children. Let them correctly understand their own development and how to deal with gender relations is the correct education for parents.
2. Appearance anxiety.
The older the child, the more he will pay special attention to his appearance, this age stage is the time when the child wants to be beautiful, but also because of his appearance problems, so that many children have appearance anxiety: such as their own figure is not a little fat? Aren't you white enough? There are also pimples on the face...
Therefore, parents should establish a correct aesthetic concept for their children, so that they realize that beauty is not a unified template, and everyone has their own unique side, sometimes the most charming self-confidence.
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