This morning, I saw a question:
March 25, Baoding, Hebei Province. Ms. Zhang posted a video saying that she tutored her children in online classes, and when the children played games after class, they did not write homework, she tutored children for half a day and did not learn, when they were so angry that they lost their minds, they dropped the tablet, and also stepped on a few feet, and afterwards they regretted the pain.
I also tutored my child with homework, and I was able to feel the mother's emotions. But broke two iPads... I really don't treat money as money... In this era, the iPad is not only a tool for children to play games, but also a learning tool for online lessons.
Judging from the mother's repeated behavior of dropping the iPad, not only is the cost of personal emotional loss of control large, but also a particularly poor demonstration for the child - in a bad mood, you can drop things and throw things to protest.
So, the anger when writing homework is out of control, what should be done to prevent it?
From the description of the subject, it can be seen that there are two reasons for the mother's anger: after the child finished the online class, he played games and did not write homework; she tutored for half a day, and the child did not learn.
Then we will break through the causes of anger one by one.
1. After the child finishes class, does not write homework and plays games
When it comes to disciplining children, there's a trick called "taking control of the situation." In other words, remove the objects in the environment that are tempting to the child, so that the child can do things with peace of mind. After the child finishes the online class and wants to write homework, the mother can take away the iPad in time to let the child calm down and write the homework well.
Alternatively, you can also discuss with your child, what time to do, let the child arrange the time to write homework, and fix it in the form of black and white.
In general, children are more willing to carry out plans that they approve of and make, rather than always supervise them.
Cute more to make a daily plan for yourself
At the same time, mothers can tell their children that it is easy to complete their homework early and can do what they like without psychological burden. If you procrastinate, you may spend most of the day writing assignments that you don't like. Great game time is wasted, what a pity!
2. How children teach, will not
Children can't teach how to do it, and this process will really make people a little anxious.
But in the process of teaching, the only thing a mother needs to do is be patient, patient, and patient. Being anxious will only make the child's focus on your emotions, not on the explanation of the exercises.
Our 6-year-old cute people sometimes do math study problem calculations, and most of the day will not be counted. Dad repeatedly taught it several times, but the child still wouldn't. The father roared in a hurry, and the child looked at the father with frightened eyes, even more so.
Only if the father is patient and teaches dismantling step by step, can he teach the child.
The other is the learning method. If the child never solves this problem, will it be that there is a problem with the parents' teaching methods, and it is not straightforward, clear and clear enough?
For example, abstract numerical calculations, many children find difficult. Then we can use life props or life scenes to describe, so that children can more easily understand and master.
Use Sudoku toys to teach children to think logically
Take the addition and subtraction calculation as an example. I usually use games such as playing cards and dice to help my children learn oral arithmetic.
Take the molecular denominator, for example. I usually use the case of cutting apples to tell the story. "Which is bigger, 1/10 or 1/3?" Let's take Apple as an example. One apple, cut into 10 parts and cut into 3 parts, which way do you get a larger apple cube? "The child can figure it out at once.
Use magnetic tablets to help children build spatial thinking
Take symmetry, for example. If it is difficult for children to understand, you can use paper cutting, looking in the mirror and so on to make children understand.
Take, for example, English initiation and learning. If children find English difficult and are not willing to learn, then we can choose fun and interesting picture books and reading pens to help children fall in love with English. Our family was very resistant to learning English before, always shouting that they didn't understand it and didn't want to learn it.
Cute is more in the piyopen chicken ball point to read pen to learn English
Later, I bought him "International Award Comic Book to Learn English", "Pearson Toddler English • My First Set of English Speaking Books", "Cadick Award Picture Book to Learn English" and other English graded picture books, coupled with the wonderful interpretation of the chick ball ball reading pen anytime and anywhere, cute and more for English learning is not so exclusive. Even casually speaking, he gave me the long English sentences in the book, which was so surprising!
If parents still can't control their bad emotions, it is recommended to read "Goodbye, "Violent Temper" Child". There are many practical methods and techniques for self-emotional management and parent-child communication, which can be taken and directly applied.
Take, for example, dodging emotional traps.
First, preconceived, self-righteous views can easily trigger resentment, anger, indifference, and fear. In daily communication with your child, be wary of using keywords that represent extremes and arbitrariness. Words like "is", "must be", "definitely" and so on should be used less. They could be changed to "may be", "may also be"...
Second, be wary of the guiding word "you should" that represents the idea of solipsism. Our ideas need to be properly expressed, but expression is not the same as venting. Calmly saying to the child, "I'm disappointed right now, I don't want to talk to you for a while," is an expression, "You give me over, how can you do this!" "It's emotional venting.
Third, often ask your child to explain some opposite views. The more the child believes he is right, the less he sees other evidence and clues. The effective way is to temporarily agree with the child's point of view, first appease the child's emotions, and then guide the child to rationally analyze, if the opposite situation, what will happen?
Encountering things that are not smooth in life and not smooth in learning, everyone is inevitable. The most important thing is that parents should set a good example and example, and do not lose control of their emotions at every turn, yell at their children and complain about their children at every turn.
Lead by example, set a good example for your child, and believe that every mother can do it!