Recently, a mother reflected that her daughter from childhood to adulthood is an introverted child, and does not love to show herself, especially in social occasions where there are many people, basically dare not speak, and now the child is about to go to kindergarten at the age of four, but the child is very resistant to school, and the children can not play together, hoping that their children can have a good performance and improve their interpersonal skills.
In fact, this is also the trouble of many parents, children at home performance is very lively, but every time we see outsiders will hide behind the parents do not dare to speak, at this time we will find that many children can not even express their emotions, this is not only because the child is introverted, the child is in a sensitive period at this time, the mood is also more volatile.
There are also many parents who are troubled by their own children at home, but every time they see outsiders, they will hide behind their parents and dare not speak, and at this time, children cannot even express their emotions. These manifestations are not only because the child is introverted, but also because the child is in a sensitive period, and parents need to pay attention to the child's emotional changes.
Why do children not like to express themselves?
1 Personality introvert
In fact, introversion and extroversion are just a kind of personality, and it cannot be said that introversion is necessarily bad. Introverted children's living space is relatively small, which makes their energy more concentrated, observing things is also more serious and careful, doing things will be more patient, like to do some in-depth thinking.
2 Lack of confidence
If the child does not like to talk from childhood to adulthood, to a certain extent, it shows that the child is not confident enough, and can gradually cultivate the child's self-confidence, let the child do more things, and do it. Through the accumulation of bits and pieces, let the child realize their own ability, but also let the child gradually become confident.
3 Children have anxiety
The child's heart is more fearful, but because of the lack of communication with the parents, the parents cannot understand the needs of the parents very well. Because the needs of the child's heart cannot be answered, because the age is too young to be solved, it will feel very anxious.
Children are not confident, what should parents do to help children build self-confidence?
You can find some things that children like in life, participate with children, let children experience a sense of accomplishment, children will enter a virtuous circle of success, and will also enhance children's self-confidence; they can also guide children to interact with peers, which can also enhance children's self-confidence, and it is also the process of children's performance when interacting with peers; they also deliberately encourage children to do more sports activities to enhance children's sense of competition and cooperation.
Children are not mature in terms of self-awareness and interpersonal communication, and a little change and frustration in the outside world will cause their mood fluctuations, and their ability to control emotions is also relatively poor, so there are more intense emotional ups and downs than adults.
Empathy is the basis of communication between parents and children, because the child's language expression ability is relatively limited, so parents can try to help the child to express his inner subtle feelings as much as possible; parents can encourage the child's emotions and feelings, parents can understand the child's feelings as early as possible and guide them, so that the child's emotions will not always accumulate or even worsen; encourage children to confide in parents, especially when children encounter negative emotions, they can tell children what to do.
For parents of children who do not like to talk, they need to pay attention to the fact that they should be cautious about criticism, children have done wrong things, and parents should patiently listen to their children to finish things; there are many parents who cannot control their emotions very well, do not force their children to say things they do not want through corporal punishment and threats; but also praise children, communicate with children more, and do not treat children as appendages.