When it comes to the role of Gu Yankai, it is estimated that whether it is the original fans of "Know It or Not" or the fans of the TV series, they have no good impression on him, only because he is indeed not a good husband, nor is he a good father.
When Gu Yankai was only the heir of the Marquis of Ningyuan, he fell in love with the Great Qin clan at first sight, and she did not marry. However, the Great Qin clan was seriously ill, frail and sickly, not only could not have children, take care of household chores, and be a qualified Lady Hou, but also did not know how long his life span was, how could Gu Yankai's parents agree?
However, Gu Yankai disregarded his parents' opinions and disregarded his status as the heir of the Marquis, and had no choice but to marry the Great Qin clan, and did not hesitate to take his own safety as a bet to force his parents to finally agree to marry the Great Qin clan.
After marriage, the Great Qin clan pampered her and spoiled her, and Gu Yankai spoiled her for misdeeds, not only did not honor her in-laws, but also was jealous, and she was not suitable for childbearing, nor did she let her husband get close to the concubine room, and did not let other women have children.
Just when the couple made the Ningyuan Marquis Mansion jump, the disaster was not alone, the Ningyuan Marquis Had a big incident, owed the household eighty-eighty thousand taels of silver, and was forced by the emperor to repay the money within a time limit, otherwise they would seize the knighthood and raid the house.
In order to save the Marquis of Ningyuan and the family, Gu Yankai had to fulfill his obligations as the eldest son, endured the pain of reconciling with the Great Qin clan, and married Gu Tingye's mother, the daughter of a salt merchant from a humble background but with a rich family property. The Great Qin clan had just given birth to Gu Tingyu at that time, and he was weak after childbirth, and could not accept such a blow, and soon he died.
Gu Tingye was obsessed with his deceased wife, and felt ashamed of the Great Qin clan and could not accept his newly married wife, Bai Shi, and although Bai Shi had a life-saving grace for the Ningyuan Marquis, he was regarded as a disgrace by the Ningyuan Marquis and could not gain a firm foothold in the Ningyuan Marquis.
At first, Bai Shi felt very dazed, did not understand what he had done wrong, why gu Yankai asked to marry himself and enter the door but did not treat himself well? When she was pregnant with her second child, she learned the truth, was angry, quarreled with Gu Yankai, and wanted to get justice for herself, which eventually led to a bloody collapse in childbirth, one corpse and two lives, leaving only her son Gu Tingye alone in the Marquis of Ningyuan to be bullied.
When it comes to Gu Yankai, many people think that he is a bad father and does not love Gu Tingye at all. In fact, the original book clearly told everyone that Gu Yankai loved Gu Tingye's son very much.
01. Personally teach Gu Tingye, leave a will to ask acquaintances to take care of Gu Tingye, he actually loves this son;
In the drama version, Gu Yankai is always very strict with Gu Tingye, and he can't move to stick education. In fact, this cannot completely resent Gu Yankai, which is directly related to Gu Tingye's excessive naughtiness when he was young.
The ten-year-old dared to ride a fierce horse in the city well, injuring more than a dozen people along the way, and the old Marquis lost countless money and gifts; the twelve-year-old dared to grab the collar of his cousin Gu Tingjiao and press it into the cesspool, and almost drowned the person (but when he dragged it up, he also fainted); at the age of thirteen, the crowd saved Gu Tingbing, who had been hanging in the middle of the night from the roof, and the person had been scared half to death; at the age of fourteen, he dared to tie the grandson of Ling Guogong to the back of the horse and drag him around the school yard three times, so that the Duke of Guo almost did not beat the lawsuit to the imperial court; at the age of sixteen, Even more, he shouted at Lao Tzu in the sky, dared to return his mouth, dared to move his hands, and kicked how many slaves who did not have long eyes to vomit blood.
Bumping into such a son who is angry all day long, even a father can't stand it, and he is eager to give him a meal of bamboo shoot fried meat to make him honest and obedient.
In fact, Gu Yankai loves Gu Tingye very much and has high hopes for him, after all, this son is most like him.
Gu Tingyu stood on the side with a cane and kept quietly looking at Gu Tingye, in fact, among the three brothers, he and Gu Tingwei were more like the Qin family, only Gu Tingye was most like his father, every move, a smile and angry, and the older he got, the more similar.
Although his favorite is the Great Qin clan, but the son of the Great Qin clan, Gu Tingyu, is weak and sickly, Gu Yankai saw him and thought of loving his wife, the mood was not good, unwilling to stay with the eldest son more, as for Gu Tingwei from the Xiao Qin clan, Gu Yankai did not have much expectation of it, only found a guard in the palace to teach the younger son to practice martial arts.
And Gu Tingye's martial arts were taught by his father Gu Yankai, even if he was busy, he would remember to check Gu Tingye's homework.
"Not roundworms, I know that too. Touch your conscience yourself, how has your father treated you over the years? Father is busy with military affairs, it is good to be able to spare two hours all day long, almost all of them are used to teach you literature and martial arts, and the kung fu he spends on you is more than double that of me and my three brothers combined! ”
When Gu Yankai was seriously ill, Gu Tingye had already run away from home, and at this time, the person he was most worried about was Gu Tingye, and he instructed people to get Gu Tingye back, don't let him live outside and suffer too much.
Not only that, when he was dying, it was all arrangements for Gu Tingye.
He wrote a letter to his friends, hoping that they would look at his face and take care of Gu Tingye.
“...... The Son is not the fault of the Father... I am straightforward and sincere by nature, and today's stubbornness is all my fault... I don't know where I am, I miss it... Brother Wanwang took care of one or two, so that this son would not be trapped in cold and warm danger... Thank you, plead..."
He left a will, leaving the remaining dowry of Lady Bai to Gu Tingye and entrusting it to several relatives to convey.
He breathed a sigh of relief and finished speaking: "It is written that the second brother's birth mother, Lady Bai had a dowry when she married into Gumen, there were 930 acres of high-grade paddy fields in the south, five paved plots in Yuhang, and 53,000 taels of silver were stored in the other Tonghui shop number, and after the death of his father, regardless of whether they were separated or not, these silver two fields were first given to the second son Gu Tingye." The father's letter also said that three cousins and uncles should read it together in the spiritual hall in front of the clan and relatives and friends. ”
Gu Yankai really loved Gu Tingye, and his father loved like a mountain and had high hopes for his son, but this could not deny the fact that he was sorry for Gu Tingye.
02. He did 3 things, sorry for his son, so that he could not resolve the conflict with his son until his death.
First of all, he knew that the death of the Great Qin clan had nothing to do with Gu Tingye's biological mother Bai Shi, and he knew that the dowry brought by Gu Tingye's biological mother Bai Shi saved the Ningyuan Marquis Mansion that was about to be stripped of his family, but he allowed the people in the palace to slander the Bai clan and bully Gu Tingye and refused to make it clear. But as long as he, the head of the house, said a sentence or two and strictly disciplined the people, no one dared to insult Bai and Gu Tingye.
However, while taking Bai's dowry to protect the Marquis of Ningyuan, he allowed everyone to slander Bai, and eventually killed Bai and Gu Tingye.
Secondly, he was partial to listening and believing, was blinded by Xiao Qin, and always misunderstood Gu Tingye, causing Gu Tingye to carry a lot of black pots and suffer many unjust beatings.
For example, in Qiu Niangfan, one of Gu Tingye's sidemen was pregnant, Gu Yankai felt very angry, scolding Gu Tingye for being lustful and immoral, in fact, Gu Tingye did not understand these at all, coupled with Xiao Qin's malicious calculations, put a lot of beautiful girls around him, these Gu Yankai could not see, only gu Tingye's mistakes.
Gu Tingye also had hope for his father and defended himself, but his father never believed him, did not listen to his explanations, and blindly believed that he had a problem. Even if he explained, it would not help, and naturally he would slowly feel disappointed in Gu Yankai and unwilling to explain it to himself.
In the end, he would not express his father's love, blindly harsh on Gu Tingye, and had high requirements for Gu Tingye, but he never knew how to praise his son Yi er, resulting in Gu Tingye, although he also wanted to be close to his father, but did not dare to be close.
03. What your children will look like is only directly related to your education.
Tolstoy once said: "All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine thousandths of education, comes down to example, to the integrity and perfection of the parents themselves." ”
Parents are the child's first teacher, the best imitation object for children, and the person who children are least likely to question. Therefore, it is extremely important to teach by example. If you want your children to be what kind of people they want to be, you must first set an example in this regard, let your children see, imitate, and remember.
For example, if you want your children to study well and spend their time on school, but you take your mobile phone and immerse yourself in the game, do you think your children can listen to you? If you can't release the scrolls, lead by example, and create a good reading atmosphere, your children will learn from them and will read well.
What your children will look like is only directly related to your education. It is your responsibility not to raise a godfather, and to educate your children.
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