In "Knowing or Not", Gu Yankai, as a father, has been subject to a lot of controversy: as the eldest brother of the Gu family, he has done his brotherhood for his younger brothers and sisters below, as the saying goes, the eldest brother is like a father, he does take care of his younger brothers and sisters like a father; as the husband of the Great Qin clan, he looks so, spoiled, almost impeccable; as Gu Tingye's biological father, although he is very strict with this son, he is also a piece of fatherly love.
But as the husband of the Bai clan, he is neither a good man nor a good husband, and frankly speaking, he married the Bai clan, not only taking advantage of it, but also completely cheating on the marriage.
Gu Tingye's biological mother, Bai Shi, once said: "You lords and lords, you have deceived me so badly!" "Even though she is a rich merchant and a rich man, the Bai family has a wealth, but it is rich and not expensive, and in front of the Lord's family, she still climbs the door of the family."
Gu Tingye's grandfather obviously loved his daughter very much, and he knew that this family affair was beneficial to his family, so he used a million taels of silver as a dowry so that his daughter could live freely in the Hou Mansion and not be bullied. The Bai family used this silver to fill the Gu family's deficit, and it is reasonable to say that the Bai family climbed the Gu family's door, but it also saved the Gu family's urgent needs, and it cannot be said that it took advantage.
But even so, those people in the Gu family, from Gu Yankai to his sister, and even Xiao Qin, still everyone held their heads high, looking down on Bai and looking down on this salt merchant's daughter. Isn't it just cheap to get cheap and sell well? This is crossing the river and demolishing the bridge, this is ungrateful, this is shameless.
Therefore, later, in addition to Gu Tingye, the others in the Gu family lost their official positions and resigned, their wives and children were scattered, and their children and grandchildren did not become instruments, which was a crime deserved, and it was a reward for one report.
Gu Yankai was able to protect the Hou Mansion for a while, but after his death, Xiao Qin took charge of the Hou Mansion, and the Gu family began to quarrel and did not return to its former grand situation. What kind of man is Gu Yankai? He was a selfish man. Just as the so-called entrance to houmen is as deep as the sea, the pit of the Gu family, for Bai's family, is a deep pit that does not see the light of day. There are still many such men.
The men in "Know It or Not", except for Changbai and Gu Tingye, are indeed not many. Shen Congxing and Gu Yankai were selfish one by one. What are the characteristics of this kind of man?
Let's look at Gu Yankai first. This man was very selfish, he wanted to fill the pit in his own family with the Bai family's property, but he never regarded the Bai family as a wife, perhaps in his heart, the Bai family was not even a concubine.
If you don't like people, then don't marry them, but he can't. He needs the money of the Bai family to fill the pit for his own family, and he does not want to treat others with courtesy, and there are many such people in modern society. Although Gu Yankai takes good care of his younger siblings and attaches great importance to flesh and blood affection, this is a responsibility and an obligation for him, but it is not the basis for confirming the value of others. On the character, Gu Yankai can't do it, just by his attitude towards the Bai family and the Bai family, he knows. As long as a person has treated another person badly for no reason, this person cannot be counted as a valuable person, even if he has also been devoted to the Great Qin Clan.
Gu Yankai, such a person, would never admit his own fault. It was as if Gu Tingye had also begged for a truth from his father. As a child, growing up hearing all sorts of comments about his grandfather's family and his mother, he naturally wanted to know the truth and what had really happened during those years.
Why would Gu Yankai be "forced to die by Gu Tingye"? It was his lack of heart, his anger.
He loves Gu Tingye very much. The eldest son, Gu Tingyu, is a medicine jar and will not be able to inherit the family business in the future, and the younger son, Gu Tingwei, is not a tool, but Gu Tingye is so powerful, so angry, like a very young self, but his birth mother is the daughter of the salt merchant who cannot be on the table! Therefore, Gu Yankai can be described as loving and disgusted with this son.
But because of his lack of heart, Gu Yankai could not admit it when facing Gu Tingye's persecution, he did not dare to tell his son the truth of the matter, so he asked such a persecution, let him spit on Gu Tingye's back with a mouthful of old blood, so that in a few hours, Gu Yankai died.
This shows that Gu Yankai always has a little conscience, and he has not yet deteriorated to the point of rotten heart.
If you change to someone else, you may still talk without changing your face, take out several versions of the lie that have been made up in advance to deal with your son, and see how to make the lie more convincing.
Gu Yankai was pressed by Gu Tingye for a few words, and finally depressed, Gu Tingye naturally understood everything, and the words spoken by Chang Mamao should be the closest to the facts. He naturally also knew that his mother, Bai Shi, married into the Gu family, suffered all kinds of grievances, was depressed and unhappy, and could not die well, and finally died in childbirth, which was mostly because of those things in those years, as well as the reasons for the Gu family's old and young.
What enlightenment can Gu Yankai's marriage with Bai Shi give to people?
In any case, it is best not to meet a man like Gu Yankai, and not to encounter a family like the Gu family. This kind of family is a deep pit that will always be filled with dissatisfaction, and most importantly, even if they help them fill this pit, they will not appreciate you, and they will continue to spit on you and snub you.
It doesn't mean that when you and your mother-in-law help them, they will be grateful to you, they will read your good, and they will look up to you. Not like that. They will feel that this is what you should pay, and they will feel that it is deserved. In "Know It or Not", Gu Yankai is still quite good, his conscience has not been completely extinguished, if he is replaced by the two four bedrooms and five rooms of the Gu family, Bai Shi is only afraid that he will be bullied even more miserably.
The Gu family of this kind of lord, let alone look down on the salt merchants, even if it is an ordinary small civilian official family like the Sheng family, they are afraid that they will not pay attention to it, Gu Yankai is proud of being superior to others, and marrying such a family, if it is not a higher family lineage than them, I am afraid that I will be wronged like the Bai family.
Gu Tingye's grandfather naturally knew that the Gu family was the highest, but as a salt merchant, he also had his own confidence and pride, and it was inevitable that he was said to be greedy for power, and he gave his daughter a huge dowry, which showed that the Clear Family did not think of taking advantage of the Gu family, but the Gu family took the silver to do things, and still raised his eyebrows and felt that the Bai family was not worthy of being the gu family's mother, so it can be seen that the Gu family's self-conscious superior dark psychology is not balanced for how much silver. Marrying into this kind of family, they will exploit a daughter-in-law like Bai's with a straight face, feeling that everything is taken for granted, and endless efforts are also rational and natural. Of course, don't expect to be able to exchange this for their respect and understanding.
A man like Gu Yankai is this kind of selfish, indifferent, profit-seeking and unrighteous man, and he is still good in the Gu family. Gu Tingye's grandfather looked away, and he could see that the marriage of the two surnames was the first and most important step, and it was also the most important step, otherwise, it could only be the woman who was hurt.
References: "Do you know whether it should be green fat red thin", the author cares about chaos, China Overseas Chinese Publishing House.