Gu Tingcan, the daughter of the Xiao Qin clan, is a replica of the Great Qin clan.
Xiao Qin is the sister-in-law of the Great Qin clan, her daughter will naturally look a bit like the Great Qin clan, Gu Yankai saw her daughter, she put her thoughts on her beloved wife on her daughter, seeing that her daughter deliberately imitated the Great Qin clan, he not felt inappropriate, but connived.
As for Xiao Qin, her mother was really terrible, not only insisting on the title, constantly instigating Gu Tingwei, who was originally timid and valued family affection, to murder her brother and sister-in-law, and finally let her son and grandchildren lose their lives, and in order to compete for favors, in order to gain benefits, she watched her daughter imitate her unreliable sister and did not stop it.
Children have very keen instincts, they naturally want to get more attention, for Gu Tingcan, the more like the Great Qin Clan, the more her father loves her, responds to her needs, and even benefits from her mother. Sometimes, mrs. Tai wants to do something, let the little daughter go and talk to the old Marquis, almost a hundred hairs.
Gu Yankai loved the Great Qin Clan and didn't think there was a problem with the Great Qin Clan, but didn't the Little Qin Clan know it? She didn't say anything like a decent affair until she was fourteen years old, and she had to grievance herself to fill in the house for her brother-in-law, wasn't it because she was affected by the Great Qin Clan?
Although the eldest sister is very favored by her husband, but also ruined the reputation of the Qin women, outsiders always say that the Qin family girls are used to spoiling and spoiling, and it is not easy to have children, it is because she failed to say that she was engaged before the age of fourteen.
Her sister had a very bad reputation outside, was not liked by her in-laws, and tired her, but for her own selfishness, she let her daughter become the second Great Qin Clan, without the slightest concern for her daughter's life, and in the end, Xiao Qin also pit her own daughter.
Gu Tingcan looked like Xizi, talented, and from a noble origin, was the only concubine of the Marquis of Ningyuan, and in the end, he also got a good marriage and married Han Cheng.
Who is Han Cheng? Han Cheng was the son of Princess Qingchang, and among the four brothers, only he could read and have a meritorious name, and he was both an imperial prince and a nobleman, and a promising young man. Marrying Han Cheng, it was Gu Tingcan who climbed high.
Han Cheng's affair with Gu Tingcan was requested by Han Cheng, and Han Cheng really liked his wife.
Since he was a child, he was afraid of such a powerful and powerful woman as Princess Qingchang, and he was impatient with the poverty and boredom of the gentle woman, and when he read the poems of the seven girls of Gu Fu at the Qiuju Poetry Conference that year, he was already very moved, and when he heard that this beautiful person was beautiful, he begged his mother to propose to him. Unfortunately, the marital happiness lasted only a few short months, and soon all the sweetness was replaced by endless quarrels; the wife was like a small child, constantly asking others to coax, hold, and cry endlessly if she was not satisfied.
As the marital contradictions continued to accumulate, Han Cheng finally hated Gu Tingcan and allowed her mother to lock her up. Gu Tingcan lost her freedom, and with her temperament, she definitely couldn't survive for long.
In fact, this is no wonder that Han Cheng is ruthless and unjust, it is really Gu Tingcan who is too dead.
01. Gu Tingcan's behavior is not only not a qualified daughter-in-law, but also endangers the interests of the in-laws;
Han Cheng never dreamed that the beautiful woman he had in mind and took the initiative to marry back would actually be a woman who had ruined three generations.
Gu Tingcan did five stupid things after marriage, not only was he not tolerated by his in-laws' family, but he also lost the help of his mother's family.
First, imitating the Great Qin clan, disrespecting the in-laws, and quickly offending the mother-in-law.
After the Great Qin clan got married, they waited for their in-laws to eat, and within a few minutes they fainted. After Gu Yankai saw it, he begged his parents to spare Great Qin's errands.
Although Gu Yankai's parents were very angry, they couldn't help their son, and they were soft-hearted, so they had to let their daughter-in-law continue to be so affectionate.
Gu Tingcan learned from her, dressed weakly everywhere, and pretended to be pitiful when her husband asked her to accompany her mother-in-law, but her actions did not exchange her husband's pity and mother-in-law's generosity. Her mother-in-law is a princess, with thunderous means, where will she see the face of her daughter-in-law?
Soon, Princess Qingchang disliked her daughter-in-law Gu Tingcan, who became more and more dissatisfied with her, and even went out on her own horse to ask for a second room for her son.
Second, willfulness and dissuasion, resulting in men being tired of communicating with her;
The relationship between his wife and his mother was not good, Han Cheng looked anxious in his eyes, and he naturally knew that it was not that his mother was unreasonable, but that Gu Tingcan did not have a daughter-in-law.
Therefore, in order to ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he painstakingly persuaded his wife to be a good daughter-in-law and honor her in-laws (to add, it is ancient, not modern).
Han Cheng took a breath, sat down at the edge of the kang, and calmly said: "Canniang, you listen to me well, your mother has been displeased with you all these years, Yan Shi is brought in by her mother, you don't look at the Buddha's face to see the monk's face, and then go on like this..." He remembered what Princess Qingchang said to herself a few days ago, and his heart was shocked.
However, Gu Tingcan was not a person who would listen to persuasion, and when he opened his mouth and closed his mouth, he said things about his father's intentions to the Great Qin Clan, accusing her husband of not being a good man, which made Han Cheng how to communicate with his wife?
Is Gu Yankai a good man? As the eldest son of Ning Yuanhou, he didn't even care about his parents and family for a woman, was he a good man? He loved the Great Qin Clan deeply, but when the Great Disaster of the Marquis of Ningyuan was approaching, was he not unable to protect the Great Qin Clan and had to give up the Great Qin Clan for the sake of the family?
Third, selfishness, without the slightest consideration for the people around him, leading to his own rebellion;
The reason why Gu Tingcan ended up desolate, her maid Ling'er and Xiang Mother also contributed to pit her. However, this resentment linger and xiang mother.
Xiang's mother worked as a cow and a horse for Xiao Qin's family all her life, but when her husband was implicated and executed, Xiao Qin did not help her at all. Ling Er was loyal to Gu Tingcan and loyal to her ears, but Gu Tingcan could not listen to it, not only did she not think about Ling Er at all, but also did not let Ling Er, who was already 30 years old, marry, but also pushed the responsibility on Ling Er in order to save herself after the matter was exposed.
Those who have gained the Tao have more help, those who have lost the Tao have little help, Gu Tingcan does not give the people around her a way to live, how can she ask the people around her to think about her?
Fourth, the mind is vicious, and the murder of concubines is not tolerated by the in-laws.
After Gu Tingcan got married, she did not come out for a long time, and Princess Qingchang carried Aunt Yan into the palace.
When Aunt Yan was pregnant, Gu Tingcan instructed the people around her to push her and kill Shuzi, which was a very serious crime in that era, and neither her in-laws nor her husband could tolerate her.
Fifth, foolishness, brotherhood, unreasonableness, and the in-laws and mothers-in-law's family have sinned together.
Gu Tingcan was imprisoned by her mother-in-law, and the end was desolate, her brother Gu Tingye knew it, but he didn't care about her at all, just because Gu Tingcan was stupid, didn't think of brotherhood, and was unreasonable.
The reason why Gu Tingwei died was because he participated in the rebellion and tried to murder Sheng Minglan and Tuan Ge'er, and died for the rest of his life; the reason why Gu Tingwei's children died was because Xiao Qin,in order to deal with Sheng Minglan, provoked the vicious Yu Fang clan, and in order to retaliate against Xiao Qin, the Yu Fang clan murdered Xiao Qin's grandchildren and let them cut off their children.
As for the cause of Xiao Qin's death, it is obvious that she has calculated all her life and wants her son to inherit the title, but she has ended up with the loss of her children and grandchildren, and she has been greatly shocked and depressed.
However, Gu Tingcan was unreasonable, blamed all the crimes on Gu Tingye, and tried his best to put Gu Tingye to death, can such a sister Gu Tingye want it?
Once Gu Tingcan really sent the report letter out, the emperor knew the original commission and would not treat Gu Tingye well, but this made Han Cheng's family how to get along with Gu Tingye. Therefore, she almost harmed her in-laws' family and was not tolerated by her in-laws.
02. No man is willing to unconditionally accommodate you for a lifetime.
Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once described marriage as follows: what brings a woman hope is not love, but the responsibility of men; what brings a man a sense of security is not love, but a woman's dedication to the family.
No man is willing to unconditionally accommodate you for a lifetime, and no matter how much a man loves you, he must also consider life, consider the gains and losses of interests, and consider his feelings. Whether it is a man or a woman, the reason why they want to get married is to make their days better and better, and they are happier and happier.
If a man marries you, not only to support the family, but also to distract you, to take care of the family's affairs, he will feel tired, will feel tired, can not feel the happiness brought by marriage, how can he endure for a lifetime?
Women have no obligation to accommodate men, to swallow for men and in-laws, but men also have no obligation to accommodate you, marriage, need to help each other, tolerate each other.
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