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Being a person should fulfill the good deeds of others, and do not promote the bad things of others, in order to establish long-term interpersonal relationships. Because to perfect others is to complete oneself, the cooperation of two people is always greater than the lone struggle of one person.
If you are not generous when dealing with interpersonal relationships, and you are preoccupied with everything, you will alienate others from you. And if you know how to reciprocate and reciprocate, interpersonal relationships will be like a spring breeze.
Therefore, the wise help each other, and the fools tear each other apart. Long-term interpersonal relationships are not to break up with each other, but to achieve each other.
01, respect the differences between each other
Everyone's growth environment and personal preferences are different, and it should be noted here in interpersonal communication. If you only care about your own likes, it may not be a little too one-sided.
A harmonious and long-lasting relationship should be that I tolerate your shortcomings and you respect my differences. No two leaves are the same, and so are relationships. Don't force each other, respect each other, is the principle of interpersonal communication.
In a program "Wild Kitchen", Li Shi's mood was particularly bad, and when eating a plate of sand fried crabs, Li Shi said that he was like sand and useless. If there is no sand, the crab will be more delicious, and the show will look better without itself.
The guests on the sidelines did not know how to comfort him, and the audience was also understanding his sadness. But Wang Han, who was on the sidelines, told everyone that Li Shi was already an adult, and we should respect Li Shi's decision.
A cultivated person has his own code of conduct, he will not force others to act on his own opinion, nor will he forcibly instill his own thoughts into others, but respect each other's differences.
Respect for each soul is our recognition of others and respect for ourselves. Only in this way can we enlarge our own pattern, improve our horizons, and get along with each other harmoniously.
02, master the sense of proportion with people
It is easy to hurt people by saying too harshly, things are done too absolutely, and it is easy to let yourself have no way to go. Interpersonal communication should be measured, with a measure will be in and out of moderation, the relationship between each other will be harmonious.
My friend David is very popular, and we all talk about him a lot in conversation. The reason why he is very popular is because Dawei is very measured in his handling of things.
Dawei's wife loves to play cards, and often plays cards with a few card friends in the factory's staff dormitory. But it was absolutely forbidden in the factory, and they always played cards secretly.
For this reason, Dawei was devastated, and in the end, he and his wife moved out of the factory staff dormitory, but rented a house around the factory. This way the wife can play cards with confidence.
The workers did not understand, because everyone knew that the factory director was a good friend of Dawei for many years. We all asked Dawei why he had to move out? But Dawei said that it is because of this that he will not bother people again.
Interpersonal relationships, a sense of proportion is a kind of ability, but also a kind of principle for people to live in the world. People who know how to move forward and backward and speak well will have better popularity and easier success in their careers.
Because many things, if they are not well mastered, will have excessive consequences. Only by grasping the right balance can interpersonal relations be harmonious. It is also a sign of your maturity and a necessary joint in interpersonal communication.
Only those who grasp the right balance will have a large pattern and a wide field of vision, and will take a long road of friendship.
03, to learn the way of empathy
The position of life is not the same, the perspective of seeing the world is different, many people like to stand in their own perspective to see the world and others, but he does not know that his position is also not wanted by others.
In interpersonal relationships, only by empathizing can you experience the different feelings brought to you by different angles. Learn to think in a different position, think from each other's point of view, and only then will you have the right direction of life.
Chickens, sheep, and dogs were kept in the same fence, and one day the owner caught the chickens out. The chickens are loud, but the sheep are quiet, I am often caught, and I am not like you; the dogs also say that I am often caught, and I am not like you. And the chicken said, "You were caught milking one and one grazing, and I was caught trying to kill me."
Different situations, different identities will really have different ways of thinking, many times, our thinking is not right or wrong, but thinking and methods are different, resulting in different results.
We know before we judge a thing or a person's situation, and it's not all about what you think it is. Others have other people's principles of doing things, and we are not qualified to measure the right and wrong of others, let alone force others to behave in your way.
Only by knowing how to think in empathy will we conquer the hearts of others and gain the approval of others.
04, to have a psychological quality of frequent introspection
I remember when I was young, my mother was on a business trip, and when I was leaving, I told my father to water the Junzilan at home. After that, Dad watered Junzilan every day.
Later, when my mother returned from a business trip a month later, Junzilan had all withered and scorched leaves and was dead. Dad didn't know what was going on and was very sad.
But my mother said that others make mistakes, and they often have their own faults. She knew that Junzilan was a dry plant, and she only watered it once a week, but she forgot to tell her father.
In a person's life, everyone will inevitably make mistakes. Knowing that finding problems in oneself is the initial end of solving problems, and it is also a manifestation of a person's cultivation.
Everyone has flaws. You must know that constant self-examination, treating others with a tolerant heart, and treating yourself with a sense of self-blame is the greatest goodness of interpersonal relationships.
Only by dealing with people in the world, always thinking about themselves, being tolerant of others, and correctly understanding themselves and others will they avoid disputes between right and wrong, and friendship will be harmonious for a long time.
epilogue:
The brocade is knitted by thread, and the forest is made of tree by tree. People get along with each other, you are sincere, and you achieve each other. If you can understand how to work with people, things will be more than half successful.
Getting along with people, knowing how to seek common ground while reserving differences, advancing and retreating in a measured manner, self-reflection, and empathetic thinking, will allow yourself to win in your interpersonal relationships.
People who do not admit mistakes will never progress, and only when people learn to see their own shortcomings and see the advantages of others will they allow themselves to seek common ground while reserving differences in interpersonal relationships and be at ease.
For the rest of your life, may you fulfill others, stabilize yourself, and have a happy life.
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