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What should I do if my child is difficult to educate? In fact, educating children requires mothers to open the brain of wisdom in order to truly educate their children well.
"100 ice creams, this blessing is for you, do you want it?"
A 6-year-old boy in Changsha, because his mother restricted the time to play with his mobile phone, angrily threatened: "If you don't let me play with my mobile phone, I will eat 100 ice creams, freeze myself to death, and make you regret it!" That firm tone directly made people's blood pressure soar.
But the mom was domineering, and she actually bought 100 ice cream for the boys. The boy was so excited that he danced with excitement. However, after eating the third, the pleasure was replaced by helplessness and heart congestion, and the boy immediately surrendered and asked flatteringly: "Am I biological?" ”
This video caused a hot discussion on the Internet, and many netizens could not help but praise: "Sisters, do a beautiful job!" However, some netizens said: This is very harmful to children.
It is true that while educating children, we still have to minimize the harm, but this education is also desirable.
Take the retreat as the advance, and follow the trend
Many times, in the face of a situation that makes people explode, your jumping up cannot solve the problem, but makes the child more rebellious. On the one hand, the child's mind is immature and unable to think about things rationally and comprehensively. On the other hand, children's ability to control emotions is weak, and when the needs are not met, it is easy to cry, make trouble, and roll around.
Therefore, instead of jumping from chickens and dogs, parents should wave their hands and say lightly: "Well, just do as you say." This is the more popular at present - "go with the flow" education.
What is "homeopathic" education?
Homeopathic education refers to retreating into progress, respecting the wishes of children and skillfully guiding them, so as to avoid contradictions, and at the same time, let children understand what to do better after actual implementation. Going with the flow may seem cloudy, but there are a lot of tricks in the execution process, so that you can do more with less.
How to do a good job of "going with the flow" education? Mastering the two skills will make education more effective with less
▼ Be ruthless, let the child feel a certain "consequence"
Sometimes, bitterness can provoke rebelliousness or provoke a stronger need. My Uncle Lee faced this pain.
The little grandson is 2 years old, full of curiosity, and always wants to touch the heat that comes out of the rice cooker when cooking. "Baby, this can't be touched, it will be very hot, and the little hand will hurt!" Uncle Li had said many times that he had even killed him, but the little guy was becoming more and more interested.
Later, Uncle Lee changed his strategy. Once, when cooking rice, Uncle Li asked, "Baby, you really want to touch this hot air, Grandpa took you to touch it!" "The little guy danced with excitement.
"But this heat may burn your hand, do you still want to touch it?" Uncle Li asked with a serious face, and the little guy naturally agreed.
Uncle Li first tested the temperature of the hot air himself, which belonged to the degree of "no burn but can burn", and then took his grandson's hand and stretched it out. The little guy was burned and instinctively shrank back, but Uncle Li pulled and insisted on it for three or four seconds, and the little guy cried loudly.
When he stopped crying, Uncle Li asked again: "Baby, do you want to play again in the future?" The grandson's head shook like a wave drum.
"Don't hit the south wall and don't look back" We adults can still do this, let alone children who are in the stage of curiosity and exploration. Therefore, don't be too distressed about the child, eat a little pain appropriately, and the child will naturally know the pain.
▼ When educating children, parents should also play a little careful and be the big boss behind the scenes
In many cases, the idea of adults is to consider the probability problem together to derive the experience. However, this probability has no concept in the minds of children, so it is not appropriate to teach adults.
Ms. Yin's daughter always said in the face of extracurricular tasks: "This kind of task is just a random inspection, there are so many people in the class, the possibility of drawing me is very small." "At first, Ms. Yin was always supervising, but her daughter became more and more perfunctory.
After her heart was blocked several times, Ms. Li compromised: "Well, you are right, there is no need to be so nervous about this small possibility!" ”
"Oh, long live Mom!" However, the daughter's excitement did not last more than 2 days, because she was drawn by the teacher the next day.
Looking at her sullen daughter, Ms. Li asked with concern: "Have you been criticized?" Oops, it's okay, it's already been drawn once, and the next time is definitely not you. ”
The daughter was deeply relieved and felt that her mother was too sweet. However, the next few times were spot checked, and the daughter did not dare to take any chances anymore, always taking it seriously.
At the same time, due to Ms. Li's previous comfort, the daughter and her feelings are closer. Naturally, Ms. Li did not tell her daughter that those spot checks were actively communicated with the teacher.
Therefore, sometimes, to educate children, we must use the right ideas, otherwise the children will hold the psychology of luck every time. Parents use a little strategy, children not only change bad habits, but also trust us more, why not? But at the same time, we must also grasp the degree of safety, and safety cannot be ignored
When educating children, we must also pay attention to proportions and do not let children fall into danger
From time to time, you can see such a scene on the street, because you want to buy something but the parents do not agree, so the child immediately stages a roll. Some parents immediately carry the baby away, and many parents choose to go with the flow, so that the child rolls so much, and may even drink milk tea leisurely. This is a beautiful job, but if it is in a place where there are vehicles, parents should pay special attention to protecting the safety of their children.
Homeopathic education is to make children better, not to punish or retaliate, so safety must be considered so as not to cause serious consequences.
Nowadays, educating children has become the top priority of parents, and only by educating children well can we expect the future.
Has there ever been an interesting homeopathic education story in your family? Share the experience, and everyone will exchange ideas and have fun.