Pay attention to the "Super Vocational Learning Circle" and grow up with 100,000 parents
Children's education is not only the cultivation of learning ability, but also the cultivation of comprehensive personality in both physical and mental aspects.
Chen Meiling, once a singer who was red through half the sky, she debuted as a singer at the age of 14, her voice is like an empty valley youlan, the temperament is sweet and pure, and Teresa Teng and Yamaguchi Baihui are on a par with each other. Cheung is a good friend of hers, and the two shared a recording studio and won the 1983 Hong Kong Golden Disc Awards.
But when she was most popular, she left Hong Kong to study "child psychology" at the University of Toronto in Canada, and later got a doctorate in education from Stanford University, becoming a legend of the times. Later, her three sons were also admitted to Stanford University.
The educational methods she summarized are worth learning from each of our parents.
10 things parents don't do
1. Don't compare yourself to other children
"If there are more, the children will not have confidence."
A person's self-affirmation is very important.
If we usually like to compare our children with others, his potential will not be easy for you to see, and he will not have confidence in himself.
Children with poor self-affirmation will bully and look down on others.
2. Don't reward children with substances
Children will not like toys and other substances after the fresh period, often thrown aside, can not let the toys become their permanent friends.
Chen Meiling gave this advice to a child who did not like to bathe: "If the child bathes, you can let her help her mother or even father make up." "Rewarding doing interesting things might make more sense.
3. Don't make a daily schedule
Many parents have the habit of setting a schedule for their children, and if it is not a child with particularly strong self-control, the schedule is more of a constraint for him. In fact, the best way is to make them feel relaxed when learning, and they will also learn things when they play, so that play and learning are inseparable.
Chen Meiling said: "When it rains, you can take the children to the park, put leaves in the river, and see whose leaves run the fastest." Then you can ask them, why is it raining? “
Create interest with your child and encourage them to look for answers.
4. Don't enroll your child in after-school classes
In extracurricular classes that improve scores, the message to children is that "learning is for scores." If you can spend years of tuition expenses on the whole family to travel, it will be better. If the child likes fish, parents can use the money of the cram school to take the child to the library everywhere, and the child will appear in a certain environment, and the relevant knowledge will appear.
The after-school class is nothing more than a room, the door is closed, and the teacher begins to explain the knowledge in the book. This is a far cry from experiencing what you love for yourself.
5. Don't make choices for your child
Chen Meiling's eldest son suddenly wanted to study in the United States when he was in high school, and she hoped that he would choose a better university, or a slightly inferior university. But the final result surprised her, and the eldest son chose a normal university. Every new student at the school is assigned a horse, and every day they have to take care of their own horses before they go to breakfast.
Later she respected her son's choice, and in the end her son was happy to study at this school and proved his choice right with his grades.
6. Don't object to high school romance
Chen Meiling encourages her sons to make girlfriends, but at the same time requires them to have a sense of responsibility and not to have children in high school.
When her sons were 9 years old, Chen Meiling began to teach them sexual knowledge. They are happy and willing to open up to her and share their feelings.
7. Don't scold your child
When hitting a child, the child saying "not doing it" does not necessarily really represent inner reflection.
Compared to hitting children, we make it clear to them that it is the best way to educate.
8. Don't lie to your child
We promise our children that we will do whatever we want, or the children will think you are lying.
If a child is used to being ignored and deceived by a promise and does not believe in people, he will be lonely all his life.
9. Don't neglect your children because of work
Chen Meiling is also a professional woman, will not see children for a long time, her eldest son likes fish, 10 to 15 minutes before going to bed she will play fishing games with children.
Two or five minutes of companionship may be heaven for a child.
10. Never make a child "wait"
When the child has a problem, Chen Meiling will never say you wait.
Children's curiosity can not wait, when the inquiry is fruitless many times they will feel that mom and dad do not want to answer the question, and then begin not to ask, do not look for answers.
Children ask questions and parents answer them immediately, which can not only satisfy children's curiosity in time, but also encourage children to bravely explore the world, seek help, and solve problems.