Chen Meiling sent her three children to Stanford University, she once as a singer, on a par with Teresa Teng, quit the music scene at the most popular time, and got a doctorate degree in education after marriage.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" data-track="33" > don't compare it with other children</h1>
Each child is unique, worthy of praise, do not always use their own children are not good enough to compare with the strengths of other children, so it is easy to make children unconfident, once the child becomes self-denial, it is easy to be inferior and unable to tap their own potential.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" data-track="33" > don't reward children with substances</h1>
Children are not long, the reward toy may not like it after three or two days, we can change to other more meaningful rewards, such as children do not love to bathe, then tell her, after the bath can be used to make up for the mother, boys, just say, after the bath can give the father makeup, so that the child is certainly happy to do, invisibly more parent-child and family interaction opportunities, the child's personality has become very interesting from an early age.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" data-track="33" > don't separate learning from playing</h1>
There are few children who really love to learn, but children love to play, so we must let children feel that play is also learning, learning is also playing. For example, if it rains, we ask the child, why does it rain? Another example is learning, encountering a problem in the book, we can practice to try our best to play with the child to find the answer after practice, in short, to cultivate the child's interest in finding the answer, can play exploration, can personally experience, that feeling is not the same as being forced to learn.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="04" data-track="33" > don't enroll your child in cram school</h1>
Interest classes can be reported in moderation, but the kind of class that improves the score should be cautious, if it is a subject that the child does not like, it will give him to learn for the sake of score, and slowly lose interest in learning. The cost of cram school is not a small amount of money, we can use this money to take our children on trips, to long insights, reading thousands of books is not as good as walking thousands of miles.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="05" data-track="33" > don't make decisions for your child</h1>
Why do many children grow up to go with the flow and have no opinions of their own? That's because from childhood he does not have the right to choose himself, it is her parents who help her choose well, so that the child chooses and bears the corresponding consequences from an early age, which is too important for him to grow into an independent personality. And, perhaps the child's own choices are best for him.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="06" data-track="33" > don't object to children falling in love in high school</h1>
Why always oppose early love? Because most children do not know how to protect themselves, children can carry out sex education when they understand things, boys should tell them to be responsible, not to have children, girls should tell them to protect themselves.
Healthy love under the premise of normal education can teach children a lot of things, learn to love and be loved.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="07" data-track="33" > don't scold children</h1>
Cultural inheritance to take its essence to its dross, since the ancient "no fight can not be a tool" tradition is time to discard, starting from the child can understand the words of adults, but where to do wrong, just talk to him, once can not understand will be twice three times, until the child understands, although the immediate effect, but always let the child learn where they are wrong, the final result may be: kill the chicken to scare the monkey, the result of the monkey also began to kill the chicken.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="08" data-track="33" > don't lie to your child</h1>
As parents, we promise our children to do what they say. Some people, who do not trust others all their lives, will be lonely all their lives.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="09" data-track="33" > don't neglect your children because of your work</h1>
The time that parents spend with their children, even for a few minutes, is heaven for their children, and no matter how busy they are at work, don't forget to make time to spend with their children.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="10" data-track="33" > don't be perfunctory</h1>
Children will always have a stage where people are suspicious of dogs, you may feel that the child is very noisy and annoying, or the child has no patience when asking you some questions, you must not casually perfunctory children, the establishment of children's sense of security when they are young, and the exploration attitude of each problem are laying the foundation.
Education is actually a tool for children to find their dreams, if they fail, encourage children not to be discouraged, even if they change their dreams to continue to move forward, if the children succeed, they must first be humble and share with everyone. This passage was said by Chen Meiling, but I also have my own understanding of the sentence that education is to give children a tool, and everyone uses it as a reference:
Don't call ourselves the leader of the child, we are more experienced than the child, we know more than the child, but the child's potential is unlimited, what we can do is to create as many alternative environments as possible for the child, give advice when she needs help, rather than let the child follow behind you, otherwise he will at most go to the same end as you.