Children are healthy, smart and lovely, and excellent in learning, which is the hope of every parent. Dear parents, we will also make various preparations for the bright future of our children.
Recently, there is a very successful mother, she single-handedly sent her three sons to stanford, a prestigious American school, she is Ms. Chen Meiling, a doctor of education.
This gentle and lovely mother also shared her parenting methods with everyone very generously. There are also ten things that parents are specifically cautioned against.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1, do not compare with other people's children</h1>
This is very difficult for many parents to do. In a competitive environment, it's hard not to compare. Always look at other people's children are excellent, other people's children are well-behaved, how can their own children not teach well?
It's hard, but parents should try to do it. Because self-affirmation is very important. If you often compare your own children with other people's children, your child will slowly lose self-confidence, and you will not see his potential.
Children only need to compare themselves and recognize their strengths and weaknesses, which is a kind of growth progress.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >2, do not reward children with substances</h1>
Children cannot be rewarded materially. If we reward our children with toys, they may not like it after playing it a few times and throw it aside. We want to make rewards a fun thing, a family interaction.
For example, some parents will be distressed, what if the child does not like to take a bath? If it's a girl, you can say, "When you're done in the shower, you can help your mom put on makeup." If it is a boy, you can say "you can help your father put on makeup after taking a bath", I believe that the child will be very excited to hear it.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, don't customize the daily schedule</h1>
There are many mothers who, when teaching their children, set a daily schedule for them and finish their homework before they can play.
For young children, there is no need to deliberately teach children knowledge, but in the process of playing, you can also appropriately add guidance, so that while playing, children can also learn a lot of relevant knowledge.
What is learning and what is playing should be inseparable for children. They can see and feel more intuitively in the process of playing or learning, and they will naturally learn quickly, and they will not feel that learning is a hard thing.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >4, do not enroll your child in extracurricular classes</h1>
Those extracurricular classes that improve grades will give children the established impression that learning is for grades. If you save this money and take your child around to see it, I believe the child will get more.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >5, do not make choices for children. </h1>
It is very important to know how to choose. Children should be trained from an early age to make their own choices. For younger children, it is possible for him to learn to make choices from everyday life. For example, when buying ice cream, let him choose his own flavor.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >6, don't object to high school romance</h1>
Love teaches us to be loved, but it also teaches us how to love others. There is no need to object to high school students falling in love, because we ourselves were at that age when we first started our love affair. But children need to be taught to be responsible and know where the boundaries are. It is also very necessary to do some sex education for children at an early age.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >7, don't scold children</h1>
The beating can quickly see the effect, and when the child hits, he will say "don't do it, don't do it." "But really? Does he understand?
Parents cannot only use "force" to force their children to accept their ideas, we need to give children the right to express their thoughts.
When a child makes a mistake, we need to communicate with him and make it clear, which is the best way to teach the child.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >8, don't lie to your child</h1>
It's not appropriate to lie to anyone, especially to children. As a parent, try not to lie to your child. Promise your child something that must be done.
For example, promised the child to take him to the park to play football tomorrow, only to come back from work the next day too tired, may want to find an excuse not to go. But at this time, no matter how tired we are, we must keep our promises. Otherwise, the child will feel that the parents are lying. There will be a lack of trust in you later.
If the child does not trust and does not trust other people, he will be very lonely all his life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >9, don't neglect your children because of work</h1>
In this fast-paced society, parents will be busy at work and will have a lot of time not seeing their children. But we also have to spend as much time with our children as possible.
My child loves dinosaurs, and 10 minutes or 15 minutes before he goes to bed, I read her some picture books about dinosaurs. In fact, the child's requirements are very simple, you take 2 minutes, 5 minutes of time, for the child is a paradise, the impact is great.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >10, when the child asks questions, never let the child "wait"</h1>
When a child asks me a question, I definitely don't say wait. But sometimes, I was cooking, and the child suddenly came up to me and asked: Mom, why is the sky blue?
When the time comes, I will turn off the fire first, and then I will say: You asked really well, and when we finished eating, we will find the answer together. #我的育儿日记 #
Education is not really about disciplining children, but about teaching them a little tool to find their dreams. If they fail, they will not be discouraged and continue to find other dreams. If they succeed, they must also learn to be humble and can share with everyone, such education is our goal.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > about me, @HandyKid</h1>
HandyKid focuses on children's art and technology enlightenment, introduces children's favorite fun science experiments, technology DIY projects, etc., and usually recommends some good books and documentaries.
Pay attention to @HandyKid, make education more refined, and make companionship better!