In the evening, during the parent-child reading time of the baby, I read this book about "life" and introduced some situations of pregnancy, birth, growth, and independent life of various animals and humans.
Among the 100,000 whys of two children, I suddenly thought: small animals can leave their parents to live independently in a few months, at most a few years, why do human babies need to be cared for by their parents for more than ten years before they can truly support themselves and live independently?
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Will it be happier to have a field at home, no desires and no demands, and living in seclusion in the mountains?
I asked my husband, "If you have a field at home, have no desires and no needs, and live in the mountains, will you be happier?" Of course, I suddenly asked such a question, but also a little stimulated, and later, my husband's answer is wonderful.
"A flash flood broke out and the whole family was gone."
I was suddenly awakened, and I didn't want to admit this reality: "Why do we all have very little, but we have to work hard to live, we are all tired." 」 People come out of the primeval forest to maintain their vitality, right? ”
The husband said, "Well, the jungle is too difficult to survive on one or two people alone." ”
Humans 10 million years ago were arboreal creatures that walked on all fours. As the climate became drier, some populations evolved into "chimpanzees" and "bonobos" and became more robust; others remained in place with few trees and grasslands, and their minds became more developed.
Our ancestors chose to evolve their own brains, and it was doomed that if we wanted to fight alone, we would have to retreat to the forest where chimpanzees lived, and it would be difficult to maintain.
I thought of the question that came to mind when I was reading with my baby: "Why can an animal cub live independently for a few months, at most a few years, but humans need to be 18 years old to be considered an adult to truly support themselves?" ”
Because humans need to learn a lot of things in infancy, in order to live longer, in order to ensure survival.
The husband said: "Animal pups can die at any time. ”
Yes, the reproductive ability of rats is amazing, and the mother tiger always guards the baby tiger, all because the cubs are too weak and too easy to be killed and eaten by predators.
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30+40+ people, old and young, most of them live a different bitter life
Today is my lunar birthday, which was told to me by a friend who was born on the same day of the same month of the same year as me. She and I usually have a solar calendar birthday, but this year her birthday is too busy, so she dragged it until her lunar birthday to have a meal.
On my birthday, I waited for the suspension of classes to add two babies with a cold and cold outside the house, and I spent the day in a fog, and I didn't want to celebrate.
This friend is an only child, and it should be said that from the grandparents to the fathers are all well-established. She said that she was taking a certificate, otherwise she would not be worthy of the position, and the last time she was 2 points worse. She said she was so tired from working overtime that her ribs were broken.
She has two children, the eldest is 5 and a half years old and the youngest is 3 and a half years old. Her mother had a heart attack and couldn't help take care of her children. I had to ask my mother-in-law in the countryside to stay at home to help pick up and drop off my children.
What about the husband? Can't count on it, have to fight for the cause.
I said: This year, there is still a good thing to fight.
She finally put both children asleep at 10:30 p.m. and started reading. I didn't put to sleep today, let the two children sleep by themselves, go out of the room and open the computer to type text. My husband is still studying and preparing for next week's interview.
She said that she was reading like this for 2 hours at night, 1 hour in the morning, and 1 hour at noon, and I said that I did not dare to fight too hard, and before staying up late until 2, 3, 4 o'clock for 2 weeks and 4 weeks, the second month the body could not bear it.
This year, our family lived like a roller coaster, from the dismissal of my husband 2 days before the New Year, to finding a higher-paying job after the New Year, to the mid-year job hopping and a step up, to now the company will lay off employees. I was going to find a full-time job, but there was no one to take care of the children, and the elderly got sick a few times and had to continue in their current state.
In fact, if you think about it, people who can push their hearts and minds to talk ask, whose life tore open that layer of window paper, is not a mess?
Most of the 30+40+ people live a bitter life, but this bitterness has its own differences.
Old and young, we dare not stop, do not dare to cry and shout in front of people, can only silently shed tears in the middle of the night, and then dry the tears and continue to move forward. The sleeping position of the children around you is really cute, so that you can't help but raise a smile at the corner of your mouth.
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Humans take care of their cubs for 18 years in order to better reproduce the whole population
The average life expectancy of human beings is increasing, in ancient times it was "seventy years of life", and now 70 years old is almost a common thing.
The reason for this is the great improvement of medical standards. Every bit of human progress has benefited from the parents' upbringing and care for the first 18 years or more, allowing young children to learn skills, create and invent better tools and objects, and benefit more people.
I will certainly be outraged by placing the great proposition of the multiplication of human races on every man and woman of childbearing age.
But are the parents of our children able to live a hard life and think that raising young children to adulthood is one of the most proud causes for us?
Each generation cultivates the next generation, and the next generation creates and innovates on the basis of what is already there, and pushes a little forward. Such generation after generation of inheritance and replacement, the process may not be easy to have their own hardships, but for the entire human society, it is the basis for the continuation and development of the population.
Maybe you will think like me: it is better to pick a single person and return to the paradise; you may also complain that life is too difficult and survival is too difficult; but please think about it at a longer time: children grow up to have a career, or very ordinary but happy and healthy, is it enough for us to continue to fight?