The TV series "Heart Residence" is being broadcast, and in the play, Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, poked at the pain points of netizens.
Before marriage, everyone thought that marriage was a safe haven, and wanted to put a miserable life into marriage, and make life better with their lovers;
But after getting married, I found that marriage was just another hard start. Feng Xiaoqin in "Heart Residence" perfectly explains how hard a universal woman lives.
Feng Xiaoqin's marriage is a typical "nanny-style" marriage, in the 8-year marriage, she takes care of everyone in the family in every detail, three meals a day are served on time, children and the elderly are readily available, doing the most tiring work, doing the most unflattering things, and living the most undignified life.
What is even more tragic is that such a payment, without being thanked by the in-laws, nor getting a penny of remuneration, is a free nanny, and it is resigned to it.
Feng Xiaoqin also did not complain, because her expectations for this marriage did not expect love and respect, what she wanted was to settle down in Shanghai.
Feng Xiaoqin is a foreigner, and her initial idea of getting married was also to buy a house in Shanghai.
Now that they have been married for 8 years, the matter of buying a house should also be put on the agenda, but they never expected that as soon as the matter of buying a house came out, Feng Xiaoqin saw the true face of her in-laws.
The eldest sister was reluctant to borrow money, and even instigated with her brother to make him wary of Feng Xiaoqin;
The father-in-law is also unwilling to pay, worried that Feng Xiaoqin is gone, this free nanny will be gone, and the family's life should be served;
More importantly, her husband Gu Lei has a weak personality and has no sense of caring for the family at all.
Although the Gu family does not have any bad intentions, it is really guilty to share such a family in marriage.
The first is the husband Gu Lei, who is a typical person who is satisfied with the status quo, and it is more difficult to say that it is a giant baby, as long as he does not worry about eating and drinking, he can live and live.
Therefore, he does not care about his son's academic performance, does not care about housework, and does not care about trivial matters, only lives in his own life track step by step, and the rest is left to Feng Xiaoqin to take care of, and the living expenses also rely on the help of the eldest sister.
Such a husband who does not hear anything out of the window, even if he loves more, he is consumed into a chicken feather by trivial matters;
In addition to her husband, Feng Xiaoqin's father-in-law and grandmother are also a big problem;
The two old men reached the age of old age, and their daughter Gu Qingyu was worth more than ten million, so it was reasonable to arrange a suitable nanny for the two old people, but they rightfully shirked all these burdens to Feng Xiaoqin.
Feng Xiaoqin was already struggling, and then quit her job for the family, became a full-time wife, and exchanged 8 years of hard work for the stability of the family.
On the surface, Feng Xiaoqin let the family live a comfortable life, but the bitterness was only something she could understand.
A husband who is content with the status quo and meets a family member who has no bottom line to ask for it is the unfortunate beginning of marriage.
Every woman wants to be like Gu Qingyu, but in reality, most women have lived into Feng Xiaoqin's state of inaction.
Want to be recognized in marriage, but never be treated as a family;
I want to make my family live a good life through paying, so as to see her goodness, but I am always thankless, and I have to digest myself.
So, what did marriage give Feng Xiaoqin? When she is frustrated and confused, she will also question the original decision, right?
In today's equality between men and women, women can also realize the value of life through work, but once married, they must passively become full-time wives and worry about how to balance the family.
After watching the hardships of women of the previous generation, and seeing the situation of married women from those around them or on TV, more and more women are reluctant to step into marriage.
Compared with the trivial family, a chicken feather chores, a person's life is more leisurely.
The literary scholar Qian Zhongshu wrote in "The Siege of the City":
"Marriage is a walled city, and people outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out."
Perhaps, only those who have experienced marriage will understand the bitterness of it.
The ideal state of marriage becomes unrecognizable in the interlude of reality, whether it is economic pressure or differences in concepts, it will become a difficult topic.
Modern women are afraid of marriage, not only afraid of marriage, but also afraid of their inability to become a good wife and a good mother.
Is your marriage ideal?
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