Parents often reflect that children run away when they encounter problems, and often rush to seek help without thinking. Especially in learning, when encountering problems that cannot be done, I always ask questions, and I never try to solve them first.
Children who exhibit such behaviors are actually lacking the habit of independent thinking.
Albert Einstein said, "Learning to think and judge independently is more important than gaining knowledge." Those who are not determined to cultivate the habit of thinking will lose the greatest joy of life. ”
Independent thinking is active thinking, with the characteristics of novelty and innovation. It is the source of any creation, invention, and discovery, and those who want to make a difference cannot do without independent thinking.
Therefore, cultivating the habit of independent thinking is the key to tutoring that every parent must firmly grasp, and it is the "top priority" in many godson topics.
So, how to cultivate the habit of independent thinking in children? Parents can do this:
1. Stimulate children's interest in thinking
Almost all scientists have a curiosity beyond ordinary people, and when children have doubts in their minds, they begin to ask a series of questions: "Why?" "If the parents are correctly guided and do not suppress their curiosity, the child's curiosity will surely become more and more vigorous, because the child's curiosity is the beginning of exploring novelties." Feel free to give your child some thoughts. Whether it's taking children to museums or reading books and movies with them, parents can ask some questions to stimulate their children's imagination.
Ask some questions that are useful for thought. The problems that are beneficial to the child's thinking are not those that have only one answer, but the questions that can arouse the child's interest, are not easy to answer, and the answer is often several, and when the child can come up with a variety of solutions, his thinking has begun to be flexible and agile.
2. Encourage your child to express your own views
From a certain point of view, children with strong independent thinking ability are all opinionated. And most of the children with opinions are confident. So, the question is, where does a child's confidence come from? In fact, to a large extent, it is given by parents. Because the affirmation and praise of parents, like a source, will always give children infinite spiritual power.
Therefore, parents must be more affirmative and praise for their children, which is very important! There are thousands of children in the world, and their personalities are very different, but no matter what kind of personality, parents should encourage their children more and let them bravely express their views. Rightly or wrongly, this is a conclusion reached after independent thinking. Remember a principle, guide appropriately, encourage more, and let children learn to express themselves.
3. Create a family atmosphere of thinking and loving
Creating a thinking family atmosphere for children has a unique personality, having independent thinking is particularly important, children are also a complete, independent individual, should let children have the space for independent thinking, maintain harmony between family members, equal life, discuss things together, discuss together.
Establish a close family relationship, so that the child feels the love from the family member, so that he has a sense of trust in everything around him. Because the cultivation of independence and autonomy needs to be based on the child's sense of trust and security. Only when the child believes that he will be helped when he encounters difficulties can he be confident and bold to explore the outside world and try activities.
4. Step by step, do not criticize arbitrarily
The cultivation of independence is a long-term process that needs to be carried out step by step. Do not rush to achieve results and make excessive and unreasonable demands on the development of your child; nor can you rebuke your child for not meeting your requirements for a while. Parents are asked to calmly analyze the reasons why the child does not meet the requirements, measure it according to scientific criteria, and then make corresponding adjustment strategies.
All in all, we should clarify the value and significance of children's independent thinking ability, and guide children to further analyze problems and cultivate children's ability to think independently by mobilizing children's interest in thinking, stimulating children's thinking in life, and inspiring children to question problems.