Although today's parents will pay attention to the problem of their children's preschool education, there are many more problems than we think. For example, some parents find that their children are particularly lively at home, but once they go to kindergarten, they become very introverted. So what are the reasons for this? This is actually because the child has suffered cold violence.
Xiao Liu has always thought that his children are lively and active, so he has not cared about this matter. It wasn't until the child entered kindergarten life when he was 4 years old that Xiao Liu found that his child had undergone earth-shaking changes. That is, when the child used to be particularly cheerful at home, he has now become sullen and sometimes very humble, and at the same time he is not so fond of talking.
In the face of this problem, Xiao Liu also felt very nervous, because he did not know why the child had such a situation. But then, when he went to the kindergarten to observe, he found that the child was being treated like this by the teacher. That is, the teachers in the school do not like to manage children at all, and always like to scold children, the most important thing is that this teacher also likes to label children.
Only to see that once this teacher actually said to Xiao Liu's child: "You little annoying spirit, can you stop talking?" When the child heard this, he immediately obediently shut up. Now Xiao Liu also realized the problem, so he quickly discussed with the teacher about such a problem. The teacher also understood that he should not label the child, so in the later life, Xiao Liu's children gradually opened their hearts and became like normal children.
In fact, this is a very typical special case, although this kind of harm can not be seen or touched, but it will leave a deep shadow on the child, and parents sometimes have no way to perceive it. And this kind of kindergarten cold violence is real in real life, we must not ignore it.
This kind of harm cannot be seen or touched, do not ignore it
I have to admit that when a child enters kindergarten life, then the teacher is likely to habitually ignore some children. Most of the teachers in kindergarten will like children who are more expressive and then good-looking. And those children who usually do not like to listen to lectures or are naturally naughty and active are likely to be ignored by teachers.
Although the teacher does not really want to ignore these children, there are too many students in the class, so they will only take care of those children who are more outstanding, and those children who are not very good will slowly be ignored by the teacher, and these children will become dislike to talk. Therefore, if we really find such a situation, then we must give feedback to the teachers and communicate with them, only in this way can we solve the corresponding problems.
There are also some kindergarten teachers who will invisibly hurt children, that is, they always like to face a set behind the set. In fact, this kind of practice is also more harmful to children, when we send children to kindergarten, teachers often become very enthusiastic, and it seems that they especially like children. However, when parents leave kindergarten, these teachers will immediately change their faces and then become very serious, which many parents have no way to find.
Therefore, when parents look at these problems, they must not only look at the surface, but must often observe the child's behavior, such as what the child looks like when he returns home. If your child is always unhappy when they come home, it means that they have been subjected to cold violence at school. In the face of such a problem, we must channel the child's emotions in time, otherwise the child is prone to psychological shadows.
Children have unlimited potential at the stage of kindergarten, so teachers should continue to tolerate children, only in this way can we ensure that children become better. But there are some teachers who are particularly fond of denying their children, for example, they often label their children negatively. For example, if some children are particularly fond of talking, then these teachers will find the child an annoying person.
If you often label your child like this, it is equivalent to denying the child, so the child will become more and more introverted and less and less talkative. And there is such a situation, as parents, we must use the right way to continue to guide the child, to encourage the child, let the child bravely say their own ideas, only in this way can we continue to change the child, and let the child become a less introverted person.
Children stay in kindergarten for a long time, so these invisible and untouchable ways of harm are easy to spread in kindergarten. This means that we need to constantly observe the child's feelings, only in this way can we solve the problems for the child in the ordinary way, otherwise the child will be embarrassed once he falls into negative emotions.