What prevents us from trying is often unknown.
"Work", "Physical health", "Emotions", "Intimacy"... Life is like a pair of invisible hands, I don't know when it will cling to you, whether you leave a little gap in the soul to allow yourself to breathe, maybe psychological counseling can give answers.
Maybe at the moment "you feel 'okay'" but hopefully "you want to get better". Believe in yourself for the better!
Under what circumstances can I do psychological counseling? The answer is any situation.
Psychological counseling should actually be regarded as a psychological "fitness", rather than just a psychological "repair".
Perhaps these 10 reasons why you should try counseling.
01
Obsessed with relationships
Relationships with others refer to the inability to coexist with others in life, but also inseparable from others.
I'm sure every client has come to counsel for 20 years, either because of the relationship problems themselves or because their physical or other intrinsic issues have been influenced by relationships. For most people, relationships are the primary thing, and if relationships go bad, life goes bad.
Counselors are relationship specialists who excel at solving a variety of relationship problems. Marriage, parenting, siblings, bosses, friendships, friends and enemies... Consultants can help you out.
By the way, this is an area where psychological counseling is better than big pharmaceutical companies. Sure, medications can help you think better or feel better, but they don't teach you who you should be or how to be in relationships, how to handle conflict, or how to forgive.
Medication is for symptoms, and psychological counseling is for problems.
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02
Lack of connection with others
While it's easy to connect through social media and apps, and finding a partner is as easy as buying furniture, many people think we're lonelier than ever. Why?
Many times, technology cements our intimacy and helps us connect more frequently on various levels, but for some, technology becomes an alternative to intimacy. For example, people you know on dating apps have a lot of chemistry when you chat online, but the meet-and-greet chat may not last for 5 minutes.
Counseling is a weekly 50-minute face-to-face exercise. No matter what the problem you come to the consultation with, this regular practice can improve your ability to connect with others.
03
Fatigue from work
Research shows that 70 percent of Americans are dissatisfied with their jobs. However, most of them spend 1/4 to 1/2 of their time at work, which means that 70% of them are not satisfied with a major part of their identity.
So why are people everywhere depressed, anxious and addicted, isn't it self-evident?
At some point, every counselor (not just a career planning counselor) helps people explore their career choices, change their attitudes toward work or colleagues, and accept or change their environment.
For example, there are some clients who realize that they don't really hate their work, they just like to complain about work with their colleagues. For them, once they can connect with their colleagues by complaining together, work no longer feels like a burden.
04
Anxiety about unemployment
In my work, I see too many people losing one job and not being able to find another. They will suddenly find themselves at the trough of their self-esteem and start frantically looking for a job.
Although counselors are not headhunters, and the cost of counseling is a drain on the gradually decreasing severance pay, many people find counseling very helpful at this time. In the consultation room, you can get support without judgment and vent without considering the consequences.
Many also find that this "between jobs" time is a good time to revisit many aspects of themselves, from career paths to self-care and even the meaning of life.
Most counselors' jobs involve a lot of discussion of these aspects.
05
Poor physical health
The link between emotional health and physical health has long ago gone from myth to fact.
Most obviously, when we are confronted with experiences and feelings, we make choices based on those feelings (e.g., emotional eating, drugs/alcohol, non-physical activity, etc.), and our physical health suffers.
People with serious medical conditions now receive psychological counseling in parallel with physical, pharmaceutical and nutritional interventions.
Overall health requires balance, and psychology is the key to that balance.
06
You feel "not bad", but you want to get better
Many people are still healthy, but they dream of living a healthy and long life, hoping to live a long life. Still others aspire to peak in their chosen field, indulging in mediocrity despite the opportunity for promotion.
As I said earlier, counseling isn't just about coping with illness, it can also remove unnecessary barriers, expand restricted cognition, and encourage healthy risk-taking, all of which make life better.
For example, if your "arachnophobia" is cured, it doesn't mean you have to stop counseling. You can also address your "fear of success."
07
Overwhelmed by emotions
Trauma, sensitivity, loss, fear, and anger, these feelings can sometimes feel incredibly huge, too great to seem uncontrollable.
Counseling can help you understand the emotion, control it, and point out the deeper issues that provoke the response. Because when people are carried away by emotions, they may make some choices that they will regret, or say something hurtful.
08
No emotions are felt
There are many people who suffer from the inability to perceive and express emotions.
They know they should feel sad, happy, angry, or scared, but they can't do it.
Other people in their lives want to connect with them, but the lack of emotion makes it difficult for them to connect.
I came to understand that the inability to perceive emotions can be the most debilitating force in a person's life. Some emotions cause people to hate for years, to be miserable for months to avoid 10-minute conversations, or not to be truly in the moment at a meaningful moment.
Counseling can help people get past obstacles and perceive that important part of their lives. But please note that this is not always a pleasant journey. There may be a reason why these emotions are blocked.
09
For the sake of your loved ones
If you're an altruist and focused on the good things you can do for the people around you, maybe you can start with yourself.
Will improving your communication, your boundaries, your sense of responsibility, your empathy, and your ability to be intimate affecting those around you? Absolutely.
You can even lead by example, helping others become curious about themselves and make leaps and bounds in their counseling.
You are the "common factor" in all your relationships, and improving yourself will inevitably improve the lives of everyone you meet.
10
For yourself
I hate but have to quote an over-interpreted quote: "An unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates may have had some clichés on this point, but his words had enduring power.
What are you doing with your life? Is it the best life you can live? Or are you repressed by old hurts, relationships, roles, or habits?
We only have so many opportunities to circle the sun, pick a good counselor, follow the tips, and fully engage ourselves. This could be one of the best decisions of your life.
If you are now troubled by "emotions", "physical health", "work", "intimacy", but still overwhelmed.
If you want to practice self-care with professional help, but don't know what kind of psychological help to seek, then our "psychological assessment" service is a good choice.
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1. The international standard psychometric scale system and 1v1 in-depth interviews help you explore your mental state efficiently;
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3. A professional case manager will match the appropriate mental health plan for you;
4. Mental health support for more than 3 months, during which time you can communicate with the assessment consultant if you are confused about psychological services;
5. Help you be more clear about which issues are the most noteworthy, what their possible causes are, and, if you need to seek the help of a counselor, what kind of counselor is best for you.
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