Orange and yellow cloth sofa, a wall of books, the shadows of the trees outside the window, this season is mostly rainy, the scenery is blurred, the room is dark and quiet, only faintly hear the sound of the clock hands swinging... From the first to the fourth day of the week, Paul, a middle-aged psychologist, receives four clients, but "fixed," in such counseling rooms, taking turns four times a week for 30 minutes; the four clients are Laura, Alex, Sophie, Jake, and Amy, and Paul regularly meets with his supervisor, Gina, on Fridays.
As a psychological popularizer, I will repeat the process of Paul counseling from the perspective of learning, as well as add my own ideas, analyze and explain in combination with the more appropriate cases around me, and use cases to popularize more psychological knowledge. This article is a demonstration of the aftermath of post-war trauma, saying that it is PTSD, but behind the deeper existence of this father-son relationship and other family relationships, the consultant is a hard-blooded U.S. military pilot in the Iraq War, the first consultation.
A week passed so quickly, and it was a quiet early morning, the birds outside Paul's office were chirping, Paul simply tidyed up the house, washed his face, just at this time someone knocked on the door, he knew that the "difficult" guy came: Alex, a former pilot, tall and mighty and self-righteous, this is a typical feature of many soldiers, isn't it ~ Although it is the first time to visit, but in the dark, Paul always has this impression of the military, of course, this is not right.
Paul opened the door and gave a brief greeting, Alex went straight into the room, and sure enough, like a professional soldier, went straight to the subject and said: What are the rules for consulting? What are the rules? Paul waved his hand and said it was up to you, and Alex smiled and said: Indeed, the average customer is God, isn't it?"
Even though my line of customers is always wrong, lol, a little joke, Paul said. Alex looked at the pictures on the wall and went on, Do you know me? Then I patted the pillow on the couch and did it.
Paul says sorry, should I recognize you? In the face of such "arrogant" visitors, it is crucial to guide Alex to introduce himself.
Alex responded by saying that some people say that you are the best doctor, and I think the best will definitely do your homework in advance and understand everything about the customer.
Paul responds that the best is only based on personal subjectivity, but the best can also be built on surveys and data, right? Alex retorted that before I came, I had actually done a small survey of you from friends who knew you, and that being so persistent about "the best" was also related to the professional habits of the two, and that only the best soldiers could avoid casualties and losses, and strive for the strongest first place, but the counselor's duty was to guide the visitor to let go, but the role of the counselor may be weakened, and with a strong sense of ambition, it will be counterproductive.
Paul certainly knew this, so the two of them stopped dwelling on the best of the bunch, and Alex continued: Do you know about the Islamic school homicides? Paul didn't know, explaining that the U.S. military had bombed an Islamic school in baghdad, but the Marines had given intelligence that it was an enemy fuel depot, that the school was a religious school, and that the boys were studying the Quran as diligently as bees were collecting honey, and that the bombing had resulted in the deaths of 16 children. Remember?
"It's a bit of an impression," Paul said, "that's what I did for this mission." ”
In fact, I don't know how, I am not afraid of the ugliness of the family, I think this time is the mistake of the intelligence bureau, but as the pilot of that mission, the photo hangs on the fundamentalist website and is rewarded. Cut me off and you'll get 40 virgins and go to heaven.
But this is not a recent photo, said that this Alex took out the photo to see, this is the photo when he was 18 years old when he went to Europe to play. You can take a look at it, and he pulls out his phone and asks Paul to look at the picture above and jokes: What about a bunch of people downloading this picture and throwing it with darts while talking to you?
Paul looked at the picture and said what help are you asking for?
Alex seems to want to take control of the whole situation, said a moment will talk about this, you may now be thinking: on time what it feels, after performing the task to see the child's entity, you will think this person is what he thinks, I tell you, I will not look at the Internet, I will go straight to sleep, I am very tired, will not pay attention to the views on the Internet,
Paul stopped by and said, "How are you sleeping?" Of course, the answer is yes very good, the soldier to carry out the order as their duty, the target of the attack is the task, just need to know the time, the target, and then expect to hit the target within the time, the time is very short, but almost a hundred shots, the mission is the same, this is my job, but also the tradition of the army, I hit the target, so I slept very well. Alex said with some determination and pride.
Paul said: How many children died on this mission? The media said it was 16, but what about the Navy?
The Navy didn't say anything, so why say it? It doesn't matter if it's about numbers, just hit the target, and the purpose of our mission overseas may be to get you people to make some noise in the house.
Paul smiled, when did you hear that a child had died?
When I watched the news the next afternoon,
So what do you see? What is the specific description?
I don't have a lot of time to watch the news, and there's a lot of stuff waiting for me to do it.
For example?
The preparation of the aviation log and other preparations is also very important, all the technical details of the voyage need to be recorded, someone analyzed, everything should be eye-catching, just think of my mother's trend, my father sorted out everything before my mother, I asked my father what these feelings, my father said this time people are broken, your mother left too many trifles, and she did not know that she was leaving us, he said this, less than a year he married another woman, I was very surprised, after a lifetime of feelings are so gone.
Paul asked: What new ideas does this give you? It's interesting that you compare your mother's death to this mission.
Alex said: "You're so smart but there's nothing to do with the two, and my mother's trend is the most traumatic I've ever suffered so far." It was just a mission and nothing compared, and now I'm back at base in recovery.
Paul: So how did you feel during your recovery period? (Paul just follows Alex's topic and constantly asks about his feelings and thoughts, judging Alex's current situation only through feelings, he seems to be more sure that Alex is definitely bold on the surface, but inside he must be tormented by this incident, similar to PTSD, he seems to care about this matter very much)
Alex pointed at Paul and said: Don't talk in front of me, I can run, so I run, with my friends, this time I challenged him to run 15 kilometers, and then 20 kilometers, he didn't want to, and then I ran by myself, but I didn't want to stop, I was very tormented, I drank all the water, and when it was 22 kilometers, I had a heart attack and died. There was no heartbeat or brain activity, but now that I'm still here, now I'm letting you down, you may ask me if I think about my whole life before I die, but my answer is no.
Paul didn't think of this, because he was always being led by Alex, which is also the form of expression of the client, and the client of different personality backgrounds will have different forms of expression, and as a counselor, you should understand and control the whole scene.
A lot of people have asked me this question, and that's bullshit! Alex said angrily, no one knows what happened to me at the end, I didn't think, my consciousness only knows is unconscious, I don't know how long, I just remember if I was erect, when my grandmother said that grandpa died, it was the same, a dead person's erection, maybe it can be called "God's desire", if I do, it means that I am dead.
Paul asked: Could your fear of erections be due to the presence of Daniel (Alex's same-sex partner)?
What does a dead man's erection have to do with Daniel? Alex replied with some displeasure.
Sometimes patients hide something from the doctor, and our job is to find out what is hidden.
So the thing I'm hiding is dead scared of my gay boyfriend? It's not like that, let me say what I think, I clearly remember before I lost consciousness, it was fun to lose consciousness. Paul wondered why the huge amount was so interesting?
It's funny, Alex used the mantra that his father often said, everything is related to gains and losses, does this think that this part will have something to do with this father's gains and losses? That is, the relationship between father and son. Alex didn't want to say that, he thought it was too early to say it, but Pual insisted on wanting to know what he was thinking, and he felt like the other side was testing him.
Indeed, Alex replied, that was the case from the moment he walked in the door, that he had done research before to tell someone like a consultant about my most secretive things, and that when the test was over, he would make his own decision. Paul says what are you expecting to be measured? How can we be sure I qualify as your psychiatrist?
Alex jumped the subject again, he said it was too early, and I think you were a good listener and wanted to say something about the freezing I was frozen after I died.
freeze? Yes, I had no heartbeat at that time, I was refrigerated in the freezer for 48 hours, 48 hours of suffering, I did not think about my past life, but the clearest thing was that I was very tired, but when I came back to reality, I felt some relief. Paul asked if he had regained his grip on something? For example: a strong will to survive and an effort to survive.
Alex said: I've never lived in a hospital and seem to be complaining that my body isn't keeping up, but my friends are all athletes, you know, they get the best genes from God and their parents to be a great football far mobilization, but you know, I'm going to be better, not everyone is selected to be a pilot at 20, so I deserve the best.
Paul said: "Would you be disappointed if you didn't reach the best?"
Alex didn't seem to want to answer the question, asking how long the time was left, I came here just to give you a suggestion, should I go back to that Islamic school? Friends find it very dangerous to do so, but you can also see that the picture was from 18 years old, and it doesn't look like me now, and they won't recognize me historically. I wonder if you can give me specific advice?
Paul said: You want me to be responsible for your return visit? Life has chosen you to be an elite, not to choose you to let you evade responsibility, your mission is passed by the commander to order you to execute, and now you also want me to be the commander of your life? I don't think I'm qualified, but I'll lead you to be your own commander.
In fact, I'm going back to Baghdad tonight to visit that school.
Time is running out, Paul concludes: "When you run I find it interesting that after something happens you push your physical fitness to the limit and then you want to visit that school, can't you see the relationship between your physical breakdown and these things? Don't you see that you have a strong desire to compensate for what you've done?
Alex wanted a cup of coffee, but when the time came, Paul said, "Let's talk about it next time, I think it will be very important to talk to you about this matter."
Alex said: "I'd better give you money today, maybe we won't see each other later." Paul: Are you leaving today?
Alex threw down the money and said don't you wish me luck, then turned and left.
Seeing this, I think here are a few lines that are very interesting:
1, the relationship between father and son, this is the "persistent" pilot is obviously very much influenced by the father, gain and loss and so on. If you consult later, you can dig deeper.
2. Is there an impact between the relationship between same-sex partners and the relationship between parents and whether it is an important influencing factor that leads to Alex's current style of acting, and is there a possibility that forgiveness can be resolved here?
3, how to alleviate Alex's guilt - the Islamic school incident that led to the death of at least 16 children will be a problem that needs to be solved at present, I think that return visits can not eradicate this guilt may also increase, and regaining the trauma scene is not always an effective way to resolve.
OK, see you tomorrow for an update.