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Any relationship is mutual, no one can give unconditionally, its practical "spring" to describe a relationship is the most appropriate, what attitude you give, will be responded to with what attitude.
The mother-in-law relationship is a delicate relationship that we most often mention, if you do not live under one roof, the relationship will ease up a lot, when two originally strange women, because a man's marriage lives under one roof, handled poorly, may be able to stage a wonderful drama every day.
The daughter-in-law was dissatisfied with her mother-in-law's sloppiness, and the mother-in-law was angry
A daughter-in-law, dissatisfied with her mother-in-law, put a conversation with her mother-in-law on the Internet.
The location is Shandong, after the daughter-in-law gets married and has a baby, she continues to return to work, and the mother-in-law helps bring her grandchildren.
Daughter-in-law came home to see that the family was a mess, angry not to fight, in fact, after marriage, she has always been very concerned about the laziness of her mother-in-law, she said that because she is afraid of making unpleasant trouble, so she rarely mentions this matter.
After work on this day, she saw the scene in front of her, couldn't bear it, and had the following dialogue: "Mother, this home has become a garbage dump, why don't you clean up, is it interesting to wait for me to take care of it?" It's not hard to do housework! ”
The mother-in-law changed her face: "I will take care of the children for you, and I will clean up the housework for you, why don't you go to your mother-in-law?" Will you do housework? ”
The daughter-in-law retorted: "It turns out that you have always regarded me as an outsider, I am already very tired at work, and I have no energy to take care of it after work, how do you mean it?" ”
"You don't have the energy to let your mother come and do housework, after all, you are not my own child, nor are you related to me, I have no need to do housework for you!"
The daughter-in-law was furious: "My mother doesn't owe you anything, don't keep telling her things, your family is not qualified to let my mother do housework!" ”
It is not appropriate for outsiders to intervene in family affairs, but when this kind of family trivia is put on the Internet, it will cause great resonance, because although the family and the family are not the same, they are actually the same, and the contradictions are similar.
As soon as this video came out, some people thought that it was not easy for the mother-in-law to take care of the child, and the daughter-in-law should no longer ask the elderly to do housework.
Some people think that since the daughter-in-law lives in the mother-in-law's house, she should also undertake some housework, and cannot call the mother-in-law as an old mother.
There are also people who think that the mother-in-law is really too lazy, taking care of the children and cleaning up the housework, it is not difficult, no wonder the daughter-in-law is angry.
As a person who came over, tell me the details of when a person brings a baby
Tired of doing housework?
People who like to do housework will not feel tired, and people who do not like to do housework will find it difficult.
In addition, doing housework easily and doing housework with a child are two completely different situations.
When I was a full-time mother before, I also took the children and did the housework, there was a child at home, the housework was not easy to do, the housework was done well, the children came to make trouble, and the family was a mess.
If my husband comes home from work and sees that the house is messy and starts to think in pieces, I will be very angry, so I understand where the anger point of this mother-in-law is.
Because taking care of children is already very tired, it is not easy to do housework while taking care of children, but it is true that some mothers or the elderly can do a good job, but many times there is a baby at home, and the home environment is more chaotic.
Especially at that time, when the baby was awake, I took the baby, and after the baby went to sleep, I still had to write a manuscript, and there was no time to do housework, so when my husband came home and began to think in pieces, he would be very angry.
Later, after communicating with my husband, the two people reached a consensus that every time he did housework after he returned home, I promised to wash the used dishes and chopsticks before he came home.
Such a home environment can still be kept in a good condition.
The old man brings the baby, and the daughter-in-law also has more understanding
It's already good to bring a baby.
There are many families in the community who are grandparents with babies, in the morning grandpa takes the baby downstairs to play, and grandma cleans up the housework at home, so as to ensure that the home environment is clean.
For families with only one grandmother and a baby, it's normal that the house will be a little messy.
In fact, we have this time to complain, it is better to clean up, since we live together, we still have to tolerate each other.
Diligent people do the housework by hand, people who are not diligent enough, with the baby is already very tired, simply do not have the energy to clean up the housework, there is time to think about lying down.
If you really can't stand it, then don't quarrel, move out to live with your own children, of course, the premise is that the husband's income is allowed, if you can't do it, then it is still more tolerant of each other.
After all, a harmonious family is beneficial to the growth of children.
Why are more and more families with grandmothers with children?
It is precisely because of these contradictions that more and more families are grandmothers with children.
Many of our communities and surrounding communities are grandmas with children, some grandmas also have their own sons, and grandchildren are also grandmas.
"Bring children to the daughter, mother and daughter to communicate more conveniently, I am a mother, take care of the daughter without complaint, people's mother-in-law does not have this obligation, I also have grandchildren, I understand my daughter-in-law, the grandson let the grandmother bring, I give the daughter to bring, is not it just right?" 」
This is some of the views expressed by a grandmother in the community, this aunt is really transparent, she often says that her daughter has a big temper, and she can bear it, if the family comes, the relationship has long been frozen.
Grandma with children has become a trend, many big cities are grandma with baby, but in some small cities and rural areas, it is still grandma with grandchildren, grandchildren are grandparents' families, and grandparents are relatives.
With the progress and change of people's concepts, any family must find a balance point and find a way to deal with it that suits their own family, so that they can have a harmonious and happy home.