Every baby is born with an innate temperament, the so-called temperament is the baby's innate behavior and various manifestations. However, each baby's temperament is different. This requires parents to be able to care and accompany according to their temperament, and love them to feel safe.
However, there are some babies whose temperament is different, they are in good health, but they will often cry and make a fuss not to let their mother leave half a step; they sleep very lightly, and a little sound will wake up; they are in high demand and need their parents to pay attention to themselves at all times. In the face of such a high-demand baby, parents are not very angry.
The need to know your baby is high
After the baby is born, from the mother's warm, wet, dark belly to a new world. The external environment, feelings, and touches are all foreign to them, and only their mother is the only person in the world who can be relied on. Therefore, all newborns will be insecure, and the cultivation of security is slowly established in the process of parental hard care. This requires parents to understand the newborn. The more parents understand, the higher the baby's cooperation, and the stronger the sense of security.
Newborns' cries are based on physiological needs, and if the needs of newborns can be predicted and met by their parents, they will become an "angel baby". However, there are some babies who express their needs in a very intense way, and they will never give up until the parents satisfy themselves. Baby temperament is innate, there is no good or bad, high demand baby is just more intense expression, personality is more paranoid just.
High-demand babies also have their own unique advantages, they are firm, not easy to compromise, smart and full of creativity, which is not exactly the quality that a successful leader should have? Therefore, as long as parents can guide them correctly, they will create miracles in life, study, and work.
Is my baby a high demand baby?
Babies with high demand often use fierce crying as a signal to convey their needs to their parents and never give up until they reach their goals. Here are 12 common features that high-demand babies have for parents' reference.
1. Strong reaction
High-demand babies have large emotional fluctuations, urgent needs, fierce expressions, and non-stop crying if their needs are not met. In addition, the reaction of high-demand babies when they encounter setbacks will also be more excited, making parents tired of running.
2. Energetic
Not only are babies with high demand always tense muscles and emotions, but they are also energetic. I don't like to be wrapped and bound to my body, and I am full of vitality all the time.
3, breastfeeding is not all hungry
For babies with high needs, feeding is not all about being hungry, but a way to satisfy a sense of security. As a result, they feed more often and wean them later.
4. Persistent character
The needs of high-demand babies are many, because they cannot speak but can only be expressed through crying. Their needs are urgent and they do not accept delayed gratification and alternatives, and the slower the parents are satisfied, the more fierce their resistance will be.
5, do not like to sleep
Babies with high needs have a lot of needs, but the demand for sleep is not high. Their emotions are in a tight body for a long time, sleep is very light, a little stimulation will wake up, can not accept any changes in the sleep environment.
6, it is difficult to satisfy
Babies with high needs are demanding and difficult to meet, which makes many parents feel frustrated and even have no confidence. In fact, this is not a problem for parents, but caused by the baby's high demand, but some of it is caused by neurodevelopmental delay.
7, there is no regularity
There seems to be no regularity in the care of high-demand babies, and today's effective way of comforting will fail the next day. For parents of high-demand babies, life is full of variables.
8. Sensitive response
The spirit of the high-demand baby is nervous, and it is also sensitive to changes in the outside world, and once the familiar environment changes, they will immediately use crying to resist, which also shows that the high-demand baby has a keen observation.
9, pick up, can not put down
Babies with high demand needs need more skin-to-skin contact opportunities due to their lack of security. Therefore, I like my parents to hold them and walk back and forth and shake their bodies to be satisfied. Parents wanted to put down and rest for a while, and there was no door.
10, do not let the hug
You read that right, there are some babies with high demand who don't like to be held by others. This is because they are naturally sensitive and think that hugging is a dangerous behavior. These babies like freedom, don't like to be hugged, don't like to be wrapped in clothes.
11, do not know how to self-soothe
Most babies like to hold toys and nibble on towels or pillowcases when they are anxious. Babies with high needs don't seem to be self-soothing, they just like to interact with their parents.
12, sticky
Babies with high needs are highly dependent on their mothers, and they think that their mother and themselves are one and the same, and cannot be separated for a moment. Even if moms are away for a few minutes, they feel fear and anxiety.
How do parents take care of them so that their baby feels safe?
In the face of such a high-demand baby, even the most patient parents will be exhausted, after all, it is much more difficult to satisfy them than the average baby. The crying of the baby in their arms continues, how can parents help the baby find a sense of security?
1. More contact
Because newborns' vision is still developing, they can only feel safe through physical contact with their mothers, so the need for high-demand babies to have higher skin-to-skin contact with parents and children. When the parent-child skin contact, the baby will have the illusion of returning to the mother's warm belly and will feel safe.
It is recommended that parents be more satisfied when their children have skin contact needs, and do not disturb when their children sleep and play, because their emotions are satisfied and do not need to be soothed.
2. Parent-child roommate
Some high-demand babies do not like the hugs of their parents, because the parent-child relationship has not yet been established, and the baby does not trust you. There are many reasons why babies refuse to hug, which may be caused by the different rooms of the mother and baby in the confinement center after childbirth, or it may be caused by the poor experience of hugging. For babies with high demand, mother and child should be in the same room as soon as they are born, and a good parent-child relationship should be established early.
3. Breastfeeding
Not only for babies with high needs, but even for ordinary newborns, breastfeeding is the best way to establish a good parent-child relationship. Babies sucking, swallowing, and skin-to-skin contact while feeding will make them feel extremely fulfilled and safe. This is one of the best ways for babies with high needs to soothe, not one.
Every child is unique, so there is no standard uniformity in parenting methods. In the face of high-demand babies, parents may wish to face it with an optimistic attitude and think about what the baby's needs are. At the beginning, parents may be helpless, but once they find the characteristics of high-demand babies, the tacit understanding between parents and children will become higher and higher.
Raising a child is inherently a run-in process, and the process of high-demand babies may be a little longer. Parents come on