Nowadays, young people's life and work are extremely stressful, and the nine-to-six rush in the morning makes them unable to balance their careers and families, so we as "idlers" naturally assume the obligation to help take care of their grandchildren, which in addition to bringing a glimmer of light to the children's tired life, can also help their boring retirement life to kill time.
But sometimes the elderly to help take care of children is not as good as imagined, if we have these 3 situations, we must carefully consider and then make a decision, otherwise it may be a help, then not only can not take care of the child, but also may be disgusted, outbreak of family conflicts is also a common thing:
First, carelessness
When each elderly person takes care of children, it can be said that when holding it in his hand for fear of falling in his mouth, such a mood can be understood, but some elderly people are always more careless when doing things, habits become natural, and they have lived most of their lives. If the grandchildren are still young and have not developed an understanding of the world, they will do everything according to their own ideas, such as reaching out to touch the oil pot, jumping from a high place, etc. If the elders cannot find these clues in time, the children are likely to be injured and leave permanent scars, and if the situation is serious, they may die.
Second, the physical fitness is not good
As we age, the functions of our bodies gradually decline, which is a normal thing, and it is not a reason why we cannot take care of our children. But taking care of grandchildren is a manual work, if you have your own lumbar muscle damage so that you can't be too tired, or suffer from high blood pressure, heart disease and other chronic diseases that may occur unexpectedly at any time, it is not suitable for taking care of grandchildren for a long time.
At this time, if we want to help our children reduce their burden, we can choose the busiest days of their week to take over the children, the number of people is great, and the care of several adults together must be more comprehensive than our care alone.
Third, there is impatience
Be patient in everything you do, especially when taking care of grandchildren, because children are in contact with many things in this world for the first time, and things that are very reasonable and quite normal in our eyes are likely to arouse their interest, such as family and hide-and-seek, which can no longer be boring, and they may have to play with us hundreds of times.
If we don't have the patience to repeat certain things, or if we can't accept the childishness of our children, we must carefully accept the task of caring for our grandchildren. After all, we have worked hard all our lives, it is difficult to retire, even for the closest people there is no need to sacrifice themselves; and children only once in childhood time need a source of happiness, which is very important for the cultivation of their future personality, if the elders who get along day and night are always disgusted or fierce, they will lack security and self-confidence from an early age, and it is easy to develop rebellious and self-centered bad diseases when they grow up.