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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Someone said: "The most feared thing in a relationship is the accident, and both parties cannot bear the consequences." ”
Indeed, for friends of the opposite sex, if there is no measure when interacting, if there is a relationship really accidentally, each other will have great trouble.
At this time, it is particularly important to learn the correct way to deal with it. As long as both sides grasp the principles and do a good job in dealing with the aftermath in time, I believe that we can continue to be friends.
If neither side can restrain itself and continue to entangle, it may eventually have serious consequences and pay a heavy price.
This requires friends of the opposite sex to be able to stay calm, not to get caught up in it, and to stop everything in order to avoid greater harm.
Some men and women have no boundaries, always rush to give affection, and do not know how to deal with it afterwards, thinking that everything will go naturally, but they do not know that one day they will not escape the end of falling apart, which is a pity.
Therefore, friends of the opposite sex, unexpectedly have feelings, using the right three methods, most of them can still be friends.
First, communicate in time and make things clear
Friends of the opposite sex, if there is really an unexpected relationship, then they must first calm down, and then communicate with each other in time.
Two people sit down face to face, make things clear, and don't dwell on each other anymore.
When there is a problem with the feelings, both parties face it calmly, and then actively solve it, and must not hold the mentality of getting by and getting by.
If it is not dealt with in time, it will continue to drag on, which is not good for both sides, and once the horse's feet are exposed, it will bear a great price.
Now that it's happened, neither side should argue about who's right and who's wrong, because it doesn't matter anymore.
The important thing is that the two people let go of the past, no longer entangled, and decisively let go of their feelings, so as not to bring trouble.
Friends of the opposite sex should understand that some feelings cannot be escaped, let alone continue to develop, and must know how to stop them in time, so as to avoid the fermentation of things.
Mr. Xiao met a girl at work, and the two of them talked very closely and soon became good friends of the opposite sex.
Every day after work, they will go out to dinner together, continue to chat in the evening, meet holidays, and often go out on dates.
After a period of time, both sides have a good feeling, breeding a certain feeling, and the relationship has become more and more ambiguous.
In this way, after a dinner party, the two people did not go back very late, but a relationship beyond friendship occurred.
Afterwards, both sides were a little worried, after all, they had feelings, they could not face the lovers around them, and their hearts were particularly heavy.
Fortunately, however, both of them were calm, so they sat down to discuss how to deal with this matter.
After unanimous communication, both sides decided to let go of their feelings, no longer entangled, in the days to come, do not interact with each other, just maintain normal interaction.
Therefore, friends of the opposite sex really have a relationship unexpectedly, and they must face it bravely, and then make things clear. As long as the two sides do not entangle, put it down in time, and continue to be friends in the future, there is no problem.
Second, delete the contact information and actively keep your distance
Between friends of the opposite sex, for unnecessary feelings, we must put them down in time, and then delete the contact information and take the initiative to keep a distance.
In this way, the two sides will not continue to entangle, and can face it with a more relaxed attitude, which will naturally not affect the relationship.
In the future exchanges, as far as possible, do not take the initiative to chat, do not take the initiative to contact, so as not to make the relationship unclear.
At work, do not meet unless necessary, even if you pass by, do not show enthusiasm, maintain a normal state, just nod.
In life, it is even more unnecessary for two people to meet again, and both sides must restrain themselves, do not meet alone, do not go to each other's homes, and avoid bringing trouble.
Now that all contact information has been deleted, they can no longer disturb each other so that they will not affect their lives.
The relationship between the friend Miss Hu and the boss had been ambiguous before, but then both sides let go and did not entangle any longer.
At that time, Miss Hu was his assistant, and the two people often got along alone because of work reasons, and they did not expect to have an unexpected relationship.
However, Miss Hu quickly adjusted her mentality, frankly told him clearly, not only deleted friends from each other, but also changed units to avoid too much contact.
In this way, both sides put down, took the initiative to keep their distance, and avoided the occurrence of accidents again, and handled it better.
Therefore, friends of the opposite sex should be decisive, if you want to continue to be friends, you need to deal with emotional problems in time, so that the feelings of both sides can be consistent.
Third, do not disturb each other, so that you can get together and disperse
If a friend of the opposite sex breeds feelings, he must deal with it decisively and withdraw in time.
At this time, both sides should not disturb each other, so that they can get together and disperse well, so that they will not have hatred, and they will not be embarrassed when they meet again.
If they don't pay attention to each other, continue to entangle, or mess up their positions, they may have more trouble, and it will be more than worth the loss.
Many times, knowing how to let go is a wise move, not to entangle, not to disturb, in order to let each of them retreat.
Therefore, both sides must correct their mentality, recognize the reality, and absolutely cannot cross the boundaries of exchanges.
When both people let go, can stay sane, leave with dignity, and when they meet again, maybe continue to be friends.
Mr. Wang and a female subordinate were ambiguous for a while, and the two people often went in and out of pairs, which was particularly intimate.
The two people have been dating for a month and have become very good friends of the opposite sex, often chatting, and often making inappropriate jokes.
Sometimes, Mr. Wang travels on business to study, and he will deliberately let her accompany him, chatting very happily along the way, and naturally an unexpected relationship has occurred.
However, Mr. Wang quickly made it clear to her that neither side was entangled in the relationship, but decisively put it down.
Two people get together and disperse, in the future work, each other do not disturb each other, just maintain normal work interactions, no longer out of line.
Therefore, friends of the opposite sex, if they want to maintain a normal friendship relationship, they must deal with it in time and really do not disturb each other, so that it will not affect friendship, and perhaps they can continue to be friends.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
I have been reminding that friends of the opposite sex cannot cross the boundaries of communication, and only by maintaining a suitable distance, not ambiguous, not crossing the line, the relationship between the two sides can be long-lasting.
If both parties do not have this awareness, do not take the initiative to maintain the necessary distance from the opposite sex, and do not have a sense of boundaries, the relationship will easily cross the line, and the ultimate gain will not be worth the loss.
Therefore, friends of the opposite sex may wish to use these three methods, and most of them can still be friends.
Communicate in time, make things clear; delete contact information, take the initiative to keep a distance; do not disturb each other, good gathering and dispersion.
In short, when the problem occurs, it cannot be evaded, let alone get by, and it must be dealt with in a timely and decisive manner.
I hope that friends of the opposite sex can adhere to the principles and bottom line, maintain the dignity of adults, and do not cross the boundaries.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.