Loving beans has always been a high-risk profession. Illegitimate perverted stalking, paparazzi spear cannons can make their image precarious. Not to mention, love is a taboo topic.
Nowadays, it is not the fans who have lost their fans, the stalking bastards, or the paparazzi who have a certain life and death to seize the encyclopedia. It's the girlfriends of these idols, or ex-girlfriends, or girlfriends. While fans shouted that their houses had collapsed and scolded the love of bean scum men, many people, especially female fans, were deeply worthless for these female friends who "broke up openly".
After all, as fans, through the exposure of their romance, they have made them aware of the dereliction of duty of their idols. And the parties involved may bear the pain of other non-fans.
And in the end, can idols fall in love?
This topic seems to be discussed from ancient times to the present day, and it will not be new. But it is still difficult to draw conclusions. Before drawing conclusions, we must first understand what love beans are.
Love bean, that is, the English harmonic pronunciation of idols. Of course, this is only the most superficial level. In the so-called encyclopedia, the definition of an idol is a human figure made of earth and wood for worship, which is a metaphor for the object of great worship. The meaning of the latter coincides with the endogenous meaning of the current idol. However, such an explanation is not enough.
At a time when idol cultivation programs are popular today, the idol economy has come into being. And idols naturally play a role that cannot be underestimated. As an idol, I want to fulfill my wishes. And it is not only themselves who push them to the wish pool of wishes, but also fans who are canvassing for votes, hitting lists, and spending money on data.
It is precisely for this reason that fans who see the tall buildings rise and the houses collapse will be so indignant. If you and I, who are passers-by, see the money we spend on the water drift, won't we also beat our chests and scold the treacherous businessmen? However, in the relationship between idols and fans, the so-called profiteer is the idol itself.
It is precisely because fans are extremely close to idols that idols cannot be compared with technical professions such as actors and singers. Of course, having said that, it doesn't mean that all idols are vases, and all idols are "Israeli waiters."
So, the conversation goes around and turns to this. Should idols fall in love? It's still a proposition that's hard to come up with a standard answer.
At the beginning, Lu Han, the "fourth son of returning to China", stood firm in the entertainment circle in China with his high popularity. Then in "Run, Brother", I brushed enough of the sense of existence. CP with Di Lieba makes people prostrate. As a result, soon after announcing his relationship, he became the target of public criticism. The big station is closed, the fans retreat from the pit, and even worse, the fans step back. At that time, Lu Han, or Guan Xiaotong, was caught in the whirlpool of public opinion. Until these years, the stable relationship between the two has made many passers-by sigh, and it turns out that the idol also has such a long affection.
However, the two who were not optimistic at the time. Also greeted by Kim Hee-cheol's idol love remarks. Therefore, the popularity is not as good as the top love beans, the rising period of love beans or focus on business, less love. Otherwise, the fans' houses collapsed, and their careers collapsed one after another.
That being said, it doesn't mean that women who fall in love with idols are guilty. However, the theory of victim guilt seems to have been derived from the case of the standard version of the answer already given - scolding the scumbag. As another "sister-in-law" of Yan Xujia's love affair, in addition to being chased and scolded by fans, she was also dismissed from the brokerage contract by the company. I have to say, a little pitiful.
But this pity is only slightly. After all, inserting a relationship and being a third party is completely inconsistent with the current socialist values, people's morality and three views.
Still, the scumbag, although scumbag, plays with his girlfriend's feelings and turns a blind eye to the presence of fans. However, the girlfriend's charisma must not be denied. And this is not only as a bystander, but also as a woman's affirmation of the same sex. Therefore, the so-called "blame you and your brother for falling in love, if you don't fall in love, there is no such thing", it is better to retreat. Because of feelings, it has never been a one-man one-man show, but a one-shot agreement between two people. Of course at least two people, (smiling).
A group of Douban once made such a vote: If you are the sister-in-law of a male celebrity, will you want to hide your relationship? The answer is surprisingly unanimous: concealment. And such a choice is invisibly contemptuous of their own feminine charm.
The so-called affirmation of female charm, but it is not a way to affirm your charm by falling in love with idols. From the historical origins, China has gradually evolved from a matrilineal society to a patrilineal society, and the status of women has declined again and again, and even become an appendage of men. What three from four virtues, "marry the chicken with the chicken, marry the dog with the dog" such a slight insulting word, accompanied women for a long time. Until now, women's status has gradually improved, and they have begun to know how to pursue their rights.
In such a society, no matter who a woman is, she is born with charisma. It doesn't need to be affirmed by any one male. At the same time, women are not the equivalent of men objectifying their own personality charm.
However, this truth is actually very few people can understand. If not, how can there be "stupid" women who have been cheated by scumbags for a long time before they wake up; if not, why will there be men who are deceived by only a few words and cry bitterly, until people lose money and money; if not, how can we see those strange men in the persuasion group and life group of Douban, as well as an inclusive girlfriend, wife, and so on. Even the life group was ridiculed by the group members as a "wife group" because of these posts.
Psychologically speaking, people fall in love not to satisfy any vanity, but to be able to meet our own needs to love and be loved. The opposite sex that can attract our attention is usually the person who can make up for the missing part of our soul. And this is already more sublimated than the so-called love between idols, I don't know how many grades.
So, don't fall in love for the sake of being in love, and don't fall in love for the sake of a face. Even if it is in love, we must fully affirm the personality charm of the self. Such love is precious.