What is the greatest nature of a child when he is a child? Yes to play! Recognize and explore the world in play, find your own interests and discover yourself in play, and parents need to observe and guide their children from it. Playing is the most important thing in a child's childhood, it is nature! Since they are natural parents, they must respect it.
However, in many logical thinking worlds, play and growth, progress, and development are incompatible opposites, and good learning is the king of growth. The criterion of "studying hard and improving every day" has long been the only creed of our student years with a 100% absolute advantage. Children who love to learn and learn well are also equated with "good children". In fact, the above is just a big misunderstanding! Of course, I am not here to promote the suspicion of learning uselessness, but I just want to remind parents who are imprisoned by traditional ideas: children can't play, which is actually a disadvantage. I'm not talking about it, it's scientifically based.
Modern writer Long Yingtai once put forward in a high profile: "Children can't play, it is a disadvantage."
The poet Xi Murong also once said that if a child has not been exposed to nature in his life, such as not touching the bark of a tree or stepping on a dry and brittle fallen leaf, she will not be able to teach him art. Because he has never touched beauty firsthand.
If you think that the above two arguments are not convincing enough, then the scientific research of experts at Stanford University in the United States should be heavyweight. Relevant experts from Stanford University in the United States have summarized the significance of children's play after scientific research:
1, play can let children learn some social skills earlier.
Children can learn a lot of social communication skills by playing with their peers. For example, they can learn about changes in their partner's mood during play.
2. Play plays a good role in exercising the regulation and control of children's emotions.
For example, when several children are playing with the same toy, the child needs to wait for his turn, which is a kind of self-regulation ability. At the same time, it is also a kind of self-regulation of emotions, for example, when the child feels more depressed and in a bad mood, he needs to have a kind of self-control, rather than immediately venting this bad emotion.
3. Through the big movements and fine movements in play, the ability of children's muscles can be improved.
Children will play with some of their favorite things, in this process, they can exercise their own related muscle functions, such as holding toys, holding pens, including big movements, how to control some parts of their body and so on.
4, children can learn to solve a variety of problems in the process of playing.
For example, when they encounter some problems with toys in the process of playing, they will take the initiative to think about how to solve them; when multiple children play group games together, they will also think about how to play the game fairly, and in the process of playing, they must constantly think of some new ways to let the game continue without interruption. All of this will lay the foundation for adults to think about problems and seek solutions.
It can be seen that the children's play hides the university question, although the child is the protagonist, but the whole body of the children is also an important part of the dedication and companionship. With your company, the child will play more energetically and will have a healthy attitude because of this. So, how should parents act as a good playmate?
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Ask open-ended questions
Play is the kingdom of children. Entering the world of children, in addition to listening more, you should also open yourself up and ask more questions and learn more. Don't assume that your child thinks the same thing as you, and don't rush to express your own ideas first, your child's imagination is often beyond our reach. The sun can be green, the clouds can be yellow, and with such tolerance in mom and dad, the child can have more of himself. Ask your child what he's doing and understand what he's thinking.
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When you have a problem, try to solve it on your own
Games are also a microcosm of daily life, and children will also encounter problems and difficulties. Mom and Dad may unconsciously help him solve problems. In fact, games are the safest way for children to learn to solve problems. For example, when a child can't move his whole box of blocks, you can ask the child, "What to do?" With more patience, you may enjoy with your child the pride and pride of opening the box, moving out the blocks, and solving problems.
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Express interest in the game
If the child is not interested in the game, the game will certainly not be fun. The child is very sensitive, and if he is forced to play a game that he is not interested in, it is easy not to play. It is better to discuss with the child and play some games that everyone is interested in. When parents play with their children, they should be as sincere and attentive as their children, and the complete attention investment in a short period of time is more powerful than a long period of perfunctory.
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Listen actively
Children need mom and dad to pay attention to themselves, and the more the better. Listening will make your child feel your attention and love for him, and make him want to show himself more. What the child expresses in the game may have its potential meaning, and the parents who spend more effort to listen to what the child says may be the inner words that the child wants to say to you but does not dare or does not know how to open his mouth. In listening, let your child lead you to see the world he sees.
In short, when children are young, their parents are omnipotent to them, which is the golden age for parents to educate their children. When the child reaches the adolescence, the effective deadline of the parents will expire, what should be said, what should be taught, what should be done, has long been done, and it is time for acceptance. Missing out on the golden age of children, no matter how hard parents try, they are more effective than 10 years ago. Therefore, parents must help their children prepare for the future during the golden period, and effectively playing with their children is a compulsory course.