A grandmother often takes her grandson from school to a beef noodle shop next to the school to eat noodles before coming home, they often order two bowls of noodles, and before eating noodles each time, grandma always clips the beef from her bowl into the child's bowl, and then smiles and watches the grandson who swallows the dates eat in a big mouthful.
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You didn't give me the beef
There is no waiter at this noodle shop, and the noodles are usually served by the guests themselves after the owner has cooked them. On this day, when Grandma came to serve noodles, she simply picked up the chopsticks and clipped all the beef in her bowl into another bowl, and then carried two bowls of noodles to her grandson. The shopkeeper shook his head when he saw this, but did not say a word.
Grandma smiled and let her grandson eat, but The grandson stared at Grandma's bowl and frowned, "Grandma, why didn't you give me beef today?" ”
Grandma said that her beef had been clipped to him before it was brought, but the grandson did not believe it, and shouted there: "You deceive!" You must have hidden the beef secretly! While shouting, he used chopsticks to pull into his grandmother's bowl and even pulled all the noodles on the table!
Grandma showed a helpless expression, while saying that you are really disobedient, while using chopsticks to clip the noodles on the table back into her bowl.
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My noodles are not sold to you
"You must have eaten it!" How can you do that? I don't eat, I don't eat..." The diners around looked at the little bully in disbelief.
Grandma sighed, "If you don't eat it, you will be hungry, so I will buy another bowl!" ”
Just as he was about to speak, the shop owner said coldly, "I'm sorry, but I won't sell you my noodles!" ”
Grandma sat back helplessly, "My beef has been given to you, I really didn't steal it!" ”
At this time, the angry child was so angry that even the green tendons on his neck were exposed, and when he reached out, he actually knocked off the two bowls of noodles on the table, and walked away in a huff, and Grandma followed behind in a gray way.
The people around him cast condemning eyes, this child is also too domineering, how can this grandmother spoil her grandson like this?
Not long after, the child brought a man, it seemed, it should be the child's father, followed by the grandmother wiping tears.
As soon as the man entered the door, he went straight to the shopkeeper and said, "Give me three bowls of noodles!" Then sit down breathlessly.
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The noodles I bought, I decided
The owner did not say a word and made them three bowls of noodles. As soon as the three bowls of noodles were put down, the man sandwiched all the beef from two of the bowls in front of the child, "Boss, come here!" When the shopkeeper approached, the man knocked on the table and said, "I gave money to buy noodles, I like to eat as much as I want, I like to give my son to eat, you see, I gave it all to my son." We don't want to eat your noodles yet! “
After saying that, spit and spit into the bowl!! Then he threw down 100 yuan and took the child's hand and left.
The shopkeeper was so angry that he shed tears, saying that when he refused to sell the third bowl of noodles to his mother-in-law, he hoped to make the child realize his mistakes, and he also wanted the old man to know that it was wrong to dot on the child like that, and he did not expect to bring insults to himself, and it was difficult for good people in this society to do it!
Many families love children very much, what is delicious at home, will be the first time to bring it to the child, children like to eat, would rather not eat their own to give children to eat, it seems to love children, but in fact, it is harmful to children. Why?
Children who are often overdone, they feel that everything adults do, is a matter of course, they do not know how to think about people, and they do not know the hardships and efforts of adults. They are self-centered in everything, selfish and arrogant, do not know how to tolerate, and cannot stand grievances. They don't even know how to be polite, they have no elders, and they have no mouth.
Education expert Makarenko said: "Everything to the child, sacrificing everything, even sacrificing one's own happiness, this is the most terrible gift that parents give to their children." ”
Chinese parents often give this terrible gift to their children in its entirety, and the negative impact of this gift on their children is "emphasizing wisdom over morality". Its performance is that Chinese parents doted on their children and paid one-sided attention to the cultivation of intelligence.
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Top 10 "typical" forms of spoiling children
1. Special treatment
The child's status in the family is superior, and special care is taken everywhere, such as eating "alone food", good food is placed in front of him for him to enjoy; to be "only born", grandparents can not but birthday, children have to buy a big cake on their birthday, send gifts...
Such a child feels special, is accustomed to being superior, and is bound to become selfish, unsympathetic, and unconcerned about others.
2. Excessive attention
The family took care of him and accompanied him at all times. During the New Year's Festival, relatives and friends often laugh and tease endlessly, and sometimes adults sit in a circle and surround him in the center, repeatedly welcoming children to perform programs, and applause is continuous.
Such a child thinks that he is the center, and indeed becomes a "little sun". The family had to circle around him, and there was no peace all day long, the attention was extremely distracted, and the "people coming crazy" was particularly serious, and even the guests came and could not talk.
3, easy to satisfy
The child gives what he wants. Some parents also give young children and primary school students a lot of pocket money, and the child's satisfaction is easier.
Such a child must develop a bad character of not cherishing goods, paying attention to material enjoyment, wasting money and not caring for others, and has no patience and spirit of hardship.
4, life is lazy
Children are allowed to eat, live, play and learn irregularly, do whatever they want, sleep late, do not eat, wander during the day, watch TV at night until late at night, etc.
When such a child grows up, he lacks self-motivation and curiosity, gets by as a person, does things with an ape in mind, and has a beginning and an end.
5. Pray for a prayer
For example, while coaxing the child to eat and sleep, he promised to tell the child 3 stories before finishing the meal.
The child's psychology is that the more you beg him, the more twisted he is, not only can not distinguish between right and wrong, can not cultivate a sense of responsibility and a generous character, but also the prestige of education is also lost.
6. Substitution
Therefore, three- and four-year-old children still have to be fed, they still can't dress, and five- or six-year-old children don't do any housework, they don't understand the pleasure of labor and the responsibility of helping their parents reduce their burdens. This is by no means sensational.
7. Make a fuss
Originally, "newborn calves are not afraid of tigers", children are not afraid of water, not afraid of black, not afraid of wrestling, not afraid of illness. After wrestling, they often get up silently and continue to play.
Later, why do some children cry timidly? It is often caused by parents and grandparents, the child is panicked when he is in pain, and the end result of pampering is that the child does not let the parents take a step. These children are branded as cowardly.
(8) Deprivation of independence
Such children will become timid and incompetent, lose self-confidence, develop a dependence psychology, and often become "door tigers", run amok at home, and be timid like rats outside, resulting in serious character defects.
9, afraid to cry
Because of the accommodation of children from an early age, children threaten their parents with crying, sleeping, and not eating when they are unhappy. Doting parents have no choice but to cajole, surrender, obey, and accommodate.
Parents who are afraid of their children crying are incompetent parents; children who scold their parents become ruthless contrarians, sowing the seeds of selfishness, ruthlessness, willfulness and lack of self-control in their personalities.
10. Protect yourself in person
Of course, such a child can't be taught! Because he has no concept of right and wrong, and there are "protective umbrellas" and "shelters" from time to time, the consequences are not only the distorted personality of the children, but also sometimes cause family discord.
As the Chinese saying goes:
"How unfortunate a pet is, it is difficult for a petite to become a talent."
This is to warn parents how to educate their children, how to give their children a good moral education.
Teaching children how to behave is the unshirkable duty of every parent. The formation of children's good habits requires parents to first get out of the misunderstanding of love.
Children who are often overdone, they feel that everything adults do, is a matter of course, they do not know how to think about people, and they do not know the hardships and efforts of adults.
They are self-centered in everything, selfish and arrogant, do not know how to tolerate, and cannot stand grievances. They don't even know how to be polite, they have no elders, and they have no mouth.
Is this entirely the child's fault? Don't just complain about how other people's children are so sensible, but my children are a little bully. Children from ignorance to become overlords is not a day's work, when children are used to taking, they forget to be grateful, they always hope that others continue to give, and they will not think of doing something for their parents and grandparents.
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