The good news in the delivery room must be the happiest mother-in-law in the family.
After the son grows up and marries and has children, it is the mother who wants to enjoy the happiness, and the mother who urges the daughter-in-law to have a baby, which seems to be a contradictory behavior, but it is the social norm.
After all, the driving force of adult life is children, even if it takes a lot of effort to raise a child, it also has to bear the consequences of being mad, but it does not affect everyone's love and desire for children.
At what age do you want to do something!
After Li Ye graduated from college, his mother always urged him to bring his girlfriend home. Although during college, Li Ye never mentioned to his mother that he had a girlfriend, his mother always believed that he had.
When it comes to the New Year's Festival, the relatives in the family also breathe out of one of the nostrils with their mothers, and give him an example, whoever has a child who is the same age as him can play soy sauce, and whose child has a full moon feast.
Every time he heard such words, Li Ye was even more angry, when he was a child, when he went to school, he always compared himself with other people's children, and he did not expect that he had graduated from college at such an old age, or he could not escape such a fate.
But he really didn't have any ideas about falling in love, and in the end he couldn't escape the matchmaking of the seven aunts and eight aunts, and after many blind dates, Li Ye finally got married.
However, the mother's urging began again, this time for the purpose of holding the grandson. Don't give the two people a chance to breathe, even if they want to live in the world of two people, wait for the baby to pass!
Every time Li Ye was quiet at night, he wondered why his life was so hasty, always dominated by his mother, and none of them decided to be from the heart. Can't it be changed?
Just when Li Ye wanted to talk to his mother, his mother said a very blunt word: When to do what kind of thing, this is the duty of a person, and you are no exception!
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Nowadays, more and more mothers will behave in the same way as Li Ye's mother, and they have become obsessed with holding their grandchildren, even if their sons are not married, they always covet other people's children.
However, not all mothers-in-law will take good care of their grandchildren. On the one hand, due to the different mentalities of different people, they are not willing to dedicate the rest of their lives to their grandchildren in the future.
On the other hand, there is the lack of attention to the daughter-in-law. Wanting to pass the responsibility on the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family, she became a hand-thrower.
When a daughter-in-law gives birth to a child, does the mother-in-law "pay" or "contribute"? The answer after the 90s was unexpected
More than half of the daughters-in-law want their mother-in-law to pay for it
As the saying goes, anything that can be solved with money is not a thing. Even in the matter of taking care of children In Zhejiang Jian'an, it is also necessary to follow this truth. Having money can hire more professional people and give children more comprehensive care.
After all, when the mother-in-law comes to take care of the mother and the child, the mother and the child must be at the mercy of the mother-in-law, who has no experience, and because she does not work and has no qualifications to point fingers, she can only swallow in the end.
If the daughter-in-law quarrels with the mother-in-law at this time, more than half of the husbands will consider the problem from the position of the mother-in-law. This will exacerbate the daughter-in-law's unhappiness.
Even some daughters-in-law will have a feud because of this, because they have expectations for their mother-in-law, but they always end up disappointed. Instead of taking such a risk, it is better to directly dispel the idea of mother-in-law's efforts and give money.
Wait until you get the money, or hire someone to take care of yourself, or let your own mother take care of yourself and give the money to your mother. In short, it is not necessary for the mother-in-law to contribute!
If the mother-in-law can't pay, she must contribute
Some mother-in-law's economic conditions are not very good, even if they want to pay, the daughter-in-law will not agree, after all, they want more, it is difficult for the mother-in-law, they want less, and they cannot support the cost of hiring people.
At this time, it is better to directly contribute. Because the mother-in-law is self-aware, knowing that she cannot help the daughter-in-law financially, she will take care of the daughter-in-law more carefully and comprehensively, for fear that the daughter-in-law will be a little wronged.
But in this case, the daughter-in-law's performance can not be too excessive, if you really provoke the mother-in-law, neither money nor effort, is not the pit yourself?
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Which one do you think is better for this option? Does your mother-in-law pay for it or contribute? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!