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Today, we have slowly entered an aging society. With the postponement of the retirement age, parents of any age should think about the future pension problem.
In the old age, what kind of people can live well? Maybe you will say "rich", maybe you will say "healthy", but there is certainly one thing that cannot be reduced, that is, filial piety of children.
All parents want their children to be filial. Don't mention filial piety and think that it has something to do with some feudal. Parents have paid more than 20 years of hard work for their children, hoping that their children will grow up to be filial to themselves and bring themselves material or spiritual comfort.
However, whether it is a parent who has entered the stage of old age or a young parent, it is necessary to understand a truth: families with children who are particularly filial to the elderly generally have some characteristics.
Compare yourself with the families of the people around you to see if there is anything wrong with what you say.
There is money in hand
While it sounds snobbish, it does in life. Those old people with high pensions, no matter what his temper is, the family will coax and spoil.
A person's economic ability, to a large extent, determines his position in the family, and the more he earns, the harder he will be, which is the truth.
The elderly who have money in their hands, not to mention whether they will subsidize their children, just from the perspective that they can take care of themselves, they have reduced a lot of burden on their children. After all, the pressure of young people to support their families is still very large.
Some people will say, is the relationship between parents and children so impure? Don't poor parents deserve the love of their children? Of course not.
There is also a type of parent, although they have little money in their hands, and even if they have been busy for a lifetime, they have no pension and no savings, but their children still love them very much and take good care of them.
They have such qualities.
In the early years, he had a close relationship with his children
Feelings, like money, are deposited in the early days and can be withdrawn in the later years.
There is an old saying called "raising grace is greater than living grace", which refers to the fact that the feelings between people are actually cultivated in the day and night together, and not only blood relations can ensure closeness.
If parents give their children a lot of love, care and trust in the process of raising their children, then there is no doubt that the children will have a particularly close relationship with their parents. Such children will surely return the same love and care to their parents when they grow up in the future.
If parents are rude and rude to their children, or selfish and indifferent, and their children do not get any warmth in the process of growing up, but instead endlessly cold violence and even suppression and accusation, then he will be far away from his parents when he grows up, and how can he expect him to comfort his parents warmly?
Of course, there are also some parents who love their children very much, but they have raised their children into "white-eyed wolves", and most of these parents have not done the following.
Do not spoil the children too much, and raise the children with a sense of responsibility
Many unfilial children are actually spoiled. "The favored always have no fear", children are over-spoiled by their parents, often feel that all this is taken for granted. Children who are accustomed to taking from their parents but do not have to respond will not learn how to give to their parents.
Such children, lack of gratitude and sense of responsibility for their parents, and when their parents are old, they are still blindly in the "take" mode, feeling that their parents do not meet their conditions is "bad" parents, naturally can not do filial piety to their children.
【Are there many examples of filial piety around you?】 】
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