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In recent years, how old is the child going to kindergarten, and a short controversy has been raised in the Bao Mom circle, so how old is the child to go to kindergarten? Personally, I think that when a child reaches this stage, it is most suitable to go to kindergarten.
My son Sissi is less than 3 years old, and there are many people around him, advising me to find a kindergarten for my children as soon as possible. There were also particularly helpful people who recommended me to enter the bilingual kindergarten.
The reason also sounds impressive: let the child get exposed to education early and win at the starting line. After a moment's heartbeat, I calmed down, and combined with Sissi's actual situation, I decided to let him delay entering the nursery for a year.
Although Sisi's age meets the requirements for childcare, it is otherwise not suitable
First, Sisi itself speaks late, even if it is almost 3 years old, it is inevitable that there will be stumbling in speech, and it is difficult for him to express his needs clearly in language; second, Sisi's self-care ability is poor, and eating and going to the toilet need help from his family to complete.
At this stage, if Sisi is sent to kindergarten, it is difficult for him to adapt to group life, and he may also be excluded by children of the same age. In the end, my idea of delaying the child's kindergarten for one year was supported by my family, who also believed that Sisi's own conditions for kindergarten were not mature at this stage. As it turned out, our persistence was right.
Time passed, 3 years and 9 months old, Xixi had the ability to take care of himself such as eating and going to the toilet. After officially entering kindergarten, he quickly adapted to kindergarten life and performed well. Even the teacher praised him in person: "Whether it is the ability to take care of life or the ability to learn, Sisi is the best in the class." ”
To share my family's personal experience of joining the nursery school, I hope to tell the parents who are worried about "going to school in the morning or studying at night", because 3 years old is not necessarily the best age to enter kindergarten. After all, every child is an independent individual with different growth patterns.
Some children have a certain ability to take care of their own lives before the age of 3, and they can adapt to the nursery at the age of 3. And some children, the development is relatively slow, before the age of 3 also need to get the family careful care, mandatory to send children into the nursery, placed in the kindergarten this large group, children are difficult to adapt, for their physical and mental growth are not beneficial.
Don't worry about entering kindergarten late, your child will lose to their peers. On the contrary, the research made by Professor Stanford confirms that sending a child to daycare a year later may change the child's life.
Why is it better to enter the nursery late than to enter the nursery early? There are several reasons for this:
(1) Children are more independent
Kindergarten is different from the family, it belongs to a small group, a teacher needs to take care of a large number of children, it is impossible to focus all the attention on a child. Therefore, the independence of children's life and learning is very important.
In my family, for example, before the age of 3, the daily life of the child, such as eating and going to the toilet, must be completed with the help of the family. At this time, if Sisi is forcibly sent to kindergarten, it is only possible that the situation will be full of situations.
On the contrary, after the age of 4, along with the development of the brain, the child's sense of independence and self-care ability are strengthened. Coupled with the guidance of kindergarten teachers, they can understand the instructions issued by the teacher and understand what to do and what not to do. Therefore, children only need a short transition to quickly adapt to kindergarten life.
(2) Children's language expression ability is better
Language expression ability is the social basis of children, so children's ability to express their own needs is the basic condition for entering kindergarten.
Also take my family's Sissi, who speaks late and does not know how to use language to clearly express thoughts of hunger, thirst, and urine before the age of 3.
Basically all the needs of life are family members who have lived together for a long time, combined with his daily living habits, "blind guessing" to judge. If Sisi is sent to kindergarten at this stage, he will not be able to clearly explain his needs to the teacher, and the teacher will not be able to help the child solve the problem, and the child will appear isolated and helpless.
4-year-old children, with rapid language expression skills, can not only explain their needs to teachers, but also make friends through their own language expressions. Therefore, it is more comfortable to adapt to the collective life of kindergartens.
(3) The child's psychological endurance is stronger
Kindergarten is the first small society that children face independently in their lives, and strange environments and strange people may cause certain pressure to children's psychology.
Most young children, their world for a long time only revolves around parents and family. For example, my family's Sisi, before the age of 3, will be temporarily separated from his family and will cry and make a lot of noise, and it will take a long time to be pacified. If he is sent to kindergarten at this stage, it will only destroy his inner sense of security and make the child's personality timid and introverted.
On the contrary, 4-year-old children will have a stronger psychological endurance. Faced with an unfamiliar environment, they may feel uneasy for a short time, but it will not make them panic and chaos. After the professional guidance and reassurance of the teacher, the child can put aside the influence of negative emotions and quickly integrate into the collective life.
As a person who has come over, I can understand the urgent feelings of parents to "hope that their children will become dragons", but education cannot be rushed. Don't be disturbed by the idea of "learning at night and losing to your peers", understand that flowers and leaves need time to slowly hatch, and child growth is also a progressive process.
Give children an extra year of adaptation time, wait for children to be more mature in all aspects, and then let them happily adapt to kindergarten life, which is not the best gift that parents give their children to childhood?