A few days ago, a set of comparison charts of failed parents and smart parents blew up the internet.
Ordinary parents can cultivate excellent children through good education methods.
And a failed parent is enough to destroy a smart child.
There is nothing wrong with every parent's desire to educate their children well, but most of us have unknowingly become the parents who have failed.
If parents can't change themselves, then the child will never become a big tool.
01
About communication
Many parents always complain that their children do not like to talk, and the more they grow up, the more distant they are.
But I never thought about whether I had seriously communicated with my children.
If you always think that everything is right and all that is wrong is the child, then what else can they say to you?
Parents want to know what is going on inside their children, and children need to understand.
Talk well and communicate warmly to find a place where they intersect.
Parents and children are originally the two closest people in the world, don't let the wrong parent-child communication method ruin your child's love for you.
02
About traits
Someone once asked the question: Why do today's children have so many shortcomings?
No, because you're just looking at him with a filter.
The future I want is to see a sense of security
Anxious parents have been staring at their children's shortcomings, hoping to help their children correct their mistakes and embark on their ideal path.
But the final result is that artificially increases the resistance to the child's progress and eliminates the child's internal motivation.
There are no perfect children in the world, but every child is unique.
Truly wise parents don't rate their children by a fixed standard.
Each child has different talents and talents, their strengths and weaknesses are characteristics, please do not easily deny them.
03
About comparisons
A survey by China Youth Daily shows:
83.4% of the parents surveyed have compared their children with other people's children.
As a result, the child spends his whole life trying to be someone else and eventually losing his or her future.
What the ultimate purpose of education is, it should be a self-education.
The only thing a child can compare is himself.
Is it better now than it was in the past, is it better today than yesterday?
Parents always say that other people's children are good, but which child is born good.
However, in the comparison with yourself at a time, you continue to gain upward growth momentum and become a better self.
04
About perspective
Why are parents always anxious now?
Because most people are utilitarian and only focus on the results of educating children.
So when the child shows a little dissatisfaction, the parents begin to magnify and rebuke the child.
But in fact, education is a long process, but also a process of parents to water with their hearts.
According to the child's own characteristics combined with the changing environment, choosing the most appropriate way of cultivation is the practice of smart parents.
Only when children are raised in this way can they adapt to society and will not be abandoned by the times.
05
About asking questions
Whether a child can become a talent depends on his parents.
Because the wiser the parents, the more they know how to enlighten their children and cultivate their children's ability to think independently.
However, when many parents face their children's questions and questions, they either interrupt impatiently or tell them the answer directly.
And children's creativity and imagination are also invisibly stifled.
You know, even a small problem will have different thinking results.
So, don't miss every question your child asks you.
An inadvertent problem may be the child's key to opening the door to the world.
Even if there are occasional small embarrassments that cannot be answered, it is a gratifying process to find the answer to the question with the child.
06
About time allocation
Today's parents really work hard for their children's learning.
He even tried to manipulate the child's time and customize various learning plans for the child.
But is this really good for the growth of children?
Children's growth is a marathon, learning is the main task of children, but in addition to learning, there are many things worth experiencing.
Examples include exercise, interest, and reading.
Let your child try more, experience more, exercise more, and you will find that your child is better than you think.
07
About life roles
Every woman will have countless roles in her life, whether she is a mother, a wife, or an employee...
They are busy and busy, giving their all for their families.
However, in the eyes of the child, it is a grumpy mother; in the husband's heart, there is no longer the original beauty.
Why do they give it all, but they don't get the understanding of their families.
I'd say it's because you're getting happiness the wrong way.
Life is never a single choice, you don't have to strive for perfection in everything, and you don't have to be harsh on yourself.
Mothers who know how to enjoy life and do not give up their own growth are what children need most.
08
About the definition of life
Over the years, "starting line" has become a hot word for family education.
In order to win at the end, parents put too many heavy shackles on their children.
Constantly spur the child to seize the time to run forward, as if the exam is not the child, but the parents themselves.
But every child is an angel who lands on earth, and they walk in this beautiful world in order to meet the blossoms of life's journey.
And we should take care of our children and let them feel the beauty of life in the process of chasing their dreams.
Children who grow up in this way can harvest success and happiness in their future work, study and life.
09
About the concept of education
The most useless way of education must be non-stop preaching.
Because in the same thing, the more you talk, the weaker the persuasiveness, the worse the child often does, and even the rebellious psychology.
The right way to educate is never to say it louder than who does it better.
The behavior of parents is the brush that outlines their children's lives.
Wise parents know how to talk less and do more.
Use your own practical actions to set a good example, so that children can see, experience, and finally become a profound truth in the heart.
The sooner parents know about this, the better.
If the family determines the child's growth environment, then a good parent determines how far the child can go in the future.
But no one is born to be a parent, just like children grow up little by little.
If you want to become a wise parent, you need to meet a better self in the details of educating your children again and again.
I also hope that every parent can find problems and reflect in time in these 9 cartoons.
The process is long and difficult, but as long as we study hard together and reflect in time.
I will be able to harvest a good child who is positive, independent and kind, responsible for himself and others.
Source: Network
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