The second child follows the mother's surname, and so many people are disgusted, is it difficult for children with different surnames to have a harmonious relationship in the future?

Netizens left a message, saying that their second daughter followed her surname, discussed properly with her husband, and the family of four had no opinion, and now she is worried about whether her two children will have a bad relationship in the future?

Regarding whether a child follows the father's surname or can also follow the mother's surname, there have always been many opinions on the Internet, and there are arguments.

Agreed

There is nothing wrong with the child following the mother's surname, and the marriage law also says that it is completely possible to follow the mother's surname!

It is normal for sisters to have different surnames, there is no need to say that the problem is so serious, how can two children born to the same parent be treated differently? Harmonious families will not have such problems, parents will let their children grow up in a good warm and warm family.

A lot of ideas and disputes are made by adults, make a big fuss, as long as parents know how to guide, there is no such problem at all, I have a lot of people with their mother's surname, there is no problem, do not blame the family problem on the "with the mother's surname", not necessarily all children with the father's surname to live happily.

Endorsing one with the father and one with the mother is very good, fair, and also makes up for the regret of having a girl in the family.

To follow the mother's surname, the child is born of a woman, the mitochondria are the genes that women can inherit, and they can continue with the mother's surname, and everyone is normal with the mother's surname.

Why can't you follow your mother's surname, the woman's family does not have a throne to inherit, is there a throne inheritance in the man's family?

Opponents said

If the child follows the mother's surname, then the mother must be very strong, and the father certainly has no status in the family.

What if one follows the father's surname and the other follows the mother's surname, and they later divorce and each has his own family, what if close relatives get married?

The mainstream of the world is to follow the father's surname, which is a cultural tradition.

The neighbor has two sons, the eldest with his father's surname and the younger with his mother's surname. When the children were young, they were fine, and then the couple had a bad relationship, always quarreling, even fighting, there was a clear emotional split in the family, the big helped the father, the small helped the mother.

Some things must be passed on, the son inherits the father's surname, this is the tradition and inheritance, the child with the father's surname does not mean that the mother's status is low, this is called the inheritance of orderly.

One with the father and one with the mother's surname is likely to divide the two children in the future distribution of the inheritance.

We are the descendants of Yanhuang, pay attention to etiquette and tradition, how to find the roots and ask the ancestors after following the mother's surname?

Surnames are genetic symbols, since human beings entered the patrilineal society, ancient and modern Chinese and foreign children are with the father's surname, which has a biological and genetic basis. Now feminism is overplaying, letting children follow their mother's surname is not only irresponsible to the family, but also irresponsible to children.

Centrist

A dad said that a surname is just a code name, as long as the child has his own blood is enough.

The law says that children can be surnamed father or mother, which is surname freedom, legally speaking, we should all respect, all drawbacks are artificial prejudices, and everything is a habit of nature.

Who the child is surnamed with, the parents can discuss and decide, and there is really no need for others to point fingers.

This is an acceptance problem, I feel that there is no problem, there will be more and more such things in the future, Ren Zhengfei's three children do not follow their surnames! It does not affect their success and reputation.

The child is born closer to the mother, give the father a naming right, can pull into the parent-child relationship between the father and the child, the father is more willing to participate more actively in the parenting and cultivation of the child, no matter which party surname, to not affect the family harmony, to the child can grow healthier as the premise.

Every family has a different background and cannot be generalized

Now that the national policy is good, it should meet the wishes of the families of both sides and not go against the tide.

If it is not a human difference between adults, will there be so-called drawbacks?

There is only one disadvantage to the mother's surname, the child understands that women and men can also be equal, this is just a gradual process of society, most people have a process of concept change, but in general, society is constantly advancing, equality between men and women, including surname equality, no one can stop it.

The child's surname problem, personal feelings before marriage to discuss well, and when the child grows up, according to the child's wishes, let the child choose to follow the father's surname or the mother's surname is the best.

Times are changing, concepts should keep pace with the times, as long as the blood flowing in the children's veins is inherited by themselves, family affection will never change. The surname is just a symbol, there is no need to take it too seriously, as long as the woman has a demand, the man should be generous.

The above three views have their own angles and reasons, and what I want to say here is that the current public order and good customs are more based on the new era and fairness, reflecting the rights of each family member, the sharing of family rights, to a certain extent, reflecting fairness and can balance family relations to a greater extent.

As for whether the relationship between brothers and sisters with different surnames will be intensified in the future, it all depends on the parents' upbringing of their children, whether they will artificially set up contradictions between their children, and even more depend on the psychological literacy of their parents and grandparents, and the open-minded and fair elders, and the relationship between the children raised will certainly be more harmonious.

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