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The original family is the child's earliest contact with the growth environment, and the parents are the child's first teacher, no matter what you do, good or bad, the child will see in the eyes, which will also affect his emotional expression, behavior style and behavior in the future life.
Therefore, the role of parents is very important, to do a good job of exemplary work, to guide the child in a positive direction.
Only when parents do a good job of themselves can they make their children better people.
Of course, these are easier said than done. How can we reduce the adverse effects of parents on their children?
Today, I will share a few points with you so that you can step on less of the minefield on the road of parenting.
First, reflect on your own way of education and maintain a friendly attitude towards education.
If your child accidentally makes a mistake, don't rush to scold, first reflect on yourself, whether there are any unreasonable requirements for the child, or give the child too much pressure.
If it is true that you are too strict, it is best to say sorry to your child first, and then educate and guide, and maintain a friendly and patient attitude.
After all, the child makes a mistake at this time, the heart must not be comfortable, but also nervous and afraid, worried about being scolded, first say sorry can let the child unload the psychological burden, and then guide, the child will be more receptive.
In this way, it will reduce the child's later error rate.
Second, reduce or avoid making all kinds of bad habits in front of your child.
Just like some parents are too addicted to mobile phones, even at the dinner table, when the family is sitting together, they are looking down and touching the mobile phone, which has a very bad impact on the child.
On the one hand, parents only care about playing mobile phones, and less communication and communication with their children will make the parent-child relationship estranged;
On the other hand, if parents lack communication with each other and play with their own mobile phones, they will make the children question the depth of the relationship between the parents in their hearts, and will think that the relationship between the parents is not very good, so that the children have no sense of security.
In addition to playing with mobile phones, some parents will like to talk dirty, or quarrel and fight, if you don't want your children to become like this, then try not to stage these behaviors in front of their children.
Third, set fewer limits for children and do not take their own standards to demand children.
In the process of educating their children, many parents put forward various requirements for their children, and say to their children, "I am all for your own good", so that children can understand their own hard work.
As everyone knows, blindly guiding children according to their own standards, this desire for control is easy to hit the child's self-esteem, let the child lack of initiative, do not know what he really wants in his heart, and may cause serious psychological distortions in the child.
Therefore, parents can ask their children appropriately, but also listen to their children's ideas and leave some space for their children to play on their own.
As a parent, if you want to reduce the adverse impact on your child, you must reflect more and constantly improve your own education methods in combination with your child's response.
Show less bad habits in front of children, establish a good image for children, and guide children to develop positively. Children are all like this, parents must do a good job, children can learn well.
At the same time, think more from the child's point of view, and respect the child's ideas and practices.
In short, poor parents in the world, parents are indeed a difficult identity, there is no absolutely good education program and way to adapt to all children, as parents, can only be taught according to their aptitudes, and try to let children absorb the most positive energy.
This article is original by [Lemon Psychology Classroom], pay attention to me, take you to increase knowledge together!
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