Wen 丨 Forest Mommy
A simple instruction, you have said it many times, but the child still ignores it, are you a headache? Many children disobey because they cannot concentrate on the lecture, which is caused by a lack of attention.
If you find that your child is like this not only in front of you, but in front of anyone, it may not be because there is a problem with your communication style, but that there is a problem with your child's attention.
In fact, the child's concentration has a developmental process, in different stages of his ability to concentrate on the time is not the same, with the increase of age, the child's concentration will also continue to develop.
At the age of two, the child can also concentrate for about 7 minutes;
At the age of three, the child's concentration time can reach 9 minutes;
At the age of four, the child can concentrate for about 12 minutes;
At the age of five, this time increased to 15 minutes, close to a quarter of an hour.
This is why the kindergarten classroom, the teacher's teaching is mainly play, because the children's attention is difficult to concentrate for too long.
What is concentration?
Concentration is the focus of consciousness. It's about focusing on the subject and ignoring the impact of the background.
For example, when we see a scene, we can immediately perceive what is the theme and what is the background.
Mr. Cai Zhizhong, a Taiwanese cartoonist, once said: "If you put your heart in one place, you will not do anything." "What Mr. Cai calls a place of concentration is actually concentration.
While it's hard to concentrate 100 percent on the task at hand, concentration, like muscles, can be trained. There are the following points to refer to the training of children's concentration:
1. Teach your child to give a positive command to his brain
We all know that any external stimulus can cause a brain response, so anything that stimulates our sensory organs can cause the child to be distracted.
So, the concentration is not only in the brain, but also in the eyes, in the ears, in the mouth, in the nose, in the fingertips.
To learn to focus, you must learn to put your mind in one place. To achieve the center of the heart, first train to be in one place, how to put in one place?
Being in one place is to train children to do one thing, to control all the senses of their body to concentrate on that one thing.
You can train like this:
When the child is ready to read, first keep the body sitting upright, take a few deep breaths, and then give his brain a command to start reading, tell the eyes to look at the words on the book, tell the mouth to read the words that the eyes see, tell the ears to listen to the sound of their own reading at the same time, and tell the hands and feet to be placed in the right place and not to move.
In addition to the above actions, before reading an article, all other sounds, colors, smells, and objects cannot be heard, seen, smelled, and touched by themselves, and then begin to read, at this time, all the senses only pay attention to the words on the book, and they can be in one place.
If it is difficult to train the eyes, ears, nose, mouth, and fingers at the same time, we can also train in different categories.
In the first week, train your hands to control yourself, and when your hands are no longer moving, you can start training your eyes.
When your eyes, ears, nose, tongue, and body can only receive the stimulus of the thing you are going to do, then your consciousness can focus on your subject, so that you can be in one place.
2. Help children become aware of their wandering minds
When a child trains his senses, he may often lose his mind.
At this time, we should accept the child's distraction without judgment, and then remind the child with kind words.
Acceptance means the beginning of change, and you have to take your child with you to accept your wandering mind. You can try to remind your child this way: "Ah, Little Finger is a little happy, as if he has forgotten what he is doing, hurry up and call him back!" ”
Such a non-judgmental reminder will not cause the child to resent, but will make him improve his enthusiasm for training.
Slowly, the child himself will begin to perceive his own wandering. This is a good start, and it can be suggested that he set the number of times he is distracted, as well as the goal of not wandering during each training session.
Every day when picking up your child from school, you can communicate with your child about your own control of your body at school that day, and positive feedback will strengthen your child's enthusiasm for training.
With the exercise of controlling the senses of the body, the child's concentration will slowly increase. Every time you make progress, be sure to give your child a specific and sincere compliment.
You can praise him like this: "The commander of the brain is really good, he can manage his hands, ears, eyes, nose, and mouth, and let them cooperate to help the master complete every task." ”
You can also invite your child to tell him how he feels and what he has gained, and you can also record your child's progress every time with a video to make your child feel his changes.
After many children go to primary school, parents hear the most feedback from teachers, that is, children cannot listen attentively to lectures in class and have difficulty concentrating. There is no way to concentrate, which will directly affect the child's academic performance after the child goes to primary and secondary school.
If your child is reflected by the teacher and cannot concentrate, and you also find that the child is often hot for three minutes in life and is hyperactive, it may be necessary to consciously train the child to concentrate.