Parents throw money to raise their children into depression, and the biggest failure of education is to make children tired at the starting line
The biggest failure of education is greed and urgency
In the end, the children unconsciously fall into the inner volume, endlessly consuming themselves
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"Don't let your child lose at the starting line"
I don't know when, the parents around me all day long thinking about how to let their children win at the starting line
They enroll in classes and arrange a lot of training and interest classes for their children
It's like beating chicken blood, to push the child out, it's best to let him run first
Seriously, as a mom, I myself have such worries and anxieties
But a recent talk show changed my mind completely
"Many children in China do not lose at the starting line at all, but are tired at the starting line."
Hearing this sentence, I believe that many parents will understand who the protagonist we are going to talk about today is
Yes, he is Zheng Qiang, the "Internet celebrity professor" of Zhejiang University
Not long ago, Teacher Zheng Qiang was invited by Ms. Yang Lan
Appeared on the scene of the talk show "Mao Shop and Culture Record"
In the program, the two talked about the double reduction of Chinese education, interest classes, starting lines and other educational issues
As a professor, Mr. Zheng Qiang has held positions in famous universities such as Zhejiang
He is also a member of the Yangtze River Scholars Program of the Ministry of Education of the Mainland
He has always dared to speak and act boldly, and has both the sharpness and criticism of intellectuals
There is also a conscience and a gentle side as a teacher of the people
So what exactly did he say in this interview?
Let's take a look at it together, and hope it helps you
01
About the starting line
I once saw such a case in a Hong Kong documentary called "No Starting Line"
A mother has always had a very strong belief since she became pregnant
That is to let her children win at the starting line, for which she specially put harsh words in front of the camera, indicating
I'm just going to let my child win over everyone from the womb
Perhaps many unmarried, or childless couples, find such a wish too suffocating
But in fact, in China, there are not a few parents like this mother
So to speak, don't lose at the starting line
It has become a big key to educating children, a popular fashion in the education world that everyone defaults to
For this point, Professor Zheng Qiang obviously does not agree
On the contrary, he bluntly said that in fact, many Chinese children are tired and fall on the starting line
Many parents, from a young age, a variety of "chicken babies"
As a result, before it began to run, the child was tired and lost enthusiasm
Then even if you urge him again, he will not move forward as he wishes
Yes, there are actually quite a few such examples in life
I remember that during the winter vacation last year, several mothers around me made study plans in advance
One of the mothers even bought several sets of exercise books and made a lot of study plans before the child's vacation
Just wait for the children to work the holiday, and then start school to amaze everyone
As a result, after two weeks of study, the child completely reversed
A few days ago, when the school started, the child did not even want to go to school again, and the mother regretted that she had pushed the child too hard
There are also many parents who let their children learn all kinds of things every day
In the end, the child's body can not eat at all, either not enough sleep, or vision is destroyed
In the news a few days ago, a 17-year-old high school student was able to get ahead of others in order to learn
Every day, he got up early and was greedy, often stayed up late and did not eat breakfast, and as a result, he directly suffered from stomach cancer
By the time the parents found out, it was already late
Some children are lucky, but as soon as they go to college, their flaws are exposed
In recent years, hundreds of graduates have been dismissed from various colleges and universities
The reason is that these children, as soon as they go to college, completely lose their thirst for knowledge
Because they have learned enough in elementary school
As Professor Zheng Qiang emphasized in the program, many children
Before the college entrance examination, I was forced to study by teachers and parents every day
Their spirit and enthusiasm for learning have undoubtedly been squeezed
When it is time to go to college, when it is their turn to manage themselves, it is naturally easy to relax themselves
There is even a sense of compensation, so many students become depraved as soon as they arrive at the university
Even the most basic studies could not be completed, and the exams had to be passed by the handouts of the teacher
As parents, we must understand
Life is very long-term, running too fast, it is easy to be discouraged halfway
The final winners tend to belong to those who are calm and idle and run for a long time
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Utilitarianism about education
As a university professor, Professor Zheng Qiang said
After reading so many educational cases, his biggest feeling is that children are more likely to be depressed
Because many parents, when educating their children
I like to put the utilitarianism of society on the education system for my children
In order to make the child become outstanding, they can be said to have poured everything out and worked hard
From the moment a child is born, they begin to raise children in various ways
Kindergartens should be the most expensive, primary schools should be the best, and junior high schools and high schools should be the focus
Under this way of education, everything seems to be for the good of children
But in fact, it has invisibly caused a lot of mental pressure to the child
The 2020 Report on the Development of China's National Mental Health pointed out
In our country, one in every 4 children suffers from depression
The reason is that many parents misunderstand the meaning of success and happiness, and put too much utilitarian color on their children's education
Under the current social evaluation system, people always think that a person has a title and an identity
Only by having a good life can we be considered to have achieved fame
In fact, however, the meaning of happiness and success is very broad
It does not mean that a person has an identity and he succeeds, nor does it mean that if a person is admitted to 985 University, he is happy
As a parent, you must understand
The meaning of life is very broad, don't narrow your eyes to grades and grades
Don't force the child for the sake of achievement, otherwise it can only make the child's psychology vulnerable and vulnerable
Living in comparison all day long, becoming more and more inferior
Education must be free of utilitarianism
On the narrowness of education
At present, children can be said to be more and more inward-looking academically
Especially after the "double subtraction", many parents are even more afraid of their children being left behind
On the contrary, it invisibly increases the pressure of children's learning
With the development of the social economy, there are fewer and fewer jobs that can be provided to children
The pressure to compete for jobs is increasing, so many parents are particularly worried
If the child is not good enough in learning, will he not be able to keep his job in the future?
Therefore, the pursuit of high education and high quality has become a life-saving straw and a trick that many parents and children flock to
Teacher Zheng Qiang believes that China's education
The greatest narrowness lies precisely in the fact that it only teaches children to eat
As for the child's spiritual core and psychological quality, it is completely ignored
Without these things, in the face of competition in the future, children will easily fall into despair because of failure
When their skills are eliminated and abandoned by society
They can easily lose themselves
In fact, for children, knowledge will become obsolete, and skills will also be
What can benefit them for a lifetime is a healthy body, a spirit of learning, and a strong resistance to blows
And vibrant creation and imagination, these things will never be eliminated
Professor Zheng Qiang also emphasized in the program that in addition to knowledge education
China's physical education, cultural education, psychological education, aesthetic education, etc. should also go hand in hand
He also believes that the most important thing for a child is to have a strong physique, and secondly, to have a sound personality
Finally, the necessary knowledge and skills
It should not be put before the horse, or even narrowed to the end
04
The famous psychologist Chen Mo has said publicly
Today's parents and teachers are still stuck in the past, but they have not found that the children have long changed
Yeah, a lot of parents and teachers think
Children should study well, while adults just need to provide an atmosphere for learning
As for the rest, it is necessary for the child to grow up on his own
However, for children
They not only need the cultivation of knowledge, but also the nourishment and love of the soul
Only when parents and school teachers start from all aspects to cultivate and educate children, children can grow up healthily and comprehensively!
Well, that's it for today, see you next time