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Children's academic work can only be firmly rooted.
We have no shortcuts to our children's education, but there is one thing that all parents and teachers should spend energy on, that is, to stimulate the internal motivation of children to learn, and strive to support the diligent seedlings in children's hearts, watering, loosening the soil, fertilizing, and removing insects.
In the words of teacher Wei Shusheng, "use the energy in the depths of children's souls to illuminate the spiritual world of children," which is also the most labor-saving way to educate children.
I think the most labor-saving way to educate children is to see the two selves in the depths of the child's soul, and then use the child's diligence to overcome the lazy me, and the good me to overcome the evil me. Deep in the heart of the child, the two thoughts of diligence and laziness clash and struggle, and if the good ideas win, we will reap the benefits of the fisherman.
If diligent thinking is not lazy thinking, we will reach out to help him, help him think of a way, come up with ideas.
I suggest that parents drill into their children's hearts and provoke them to fight for themselves. Go to the child's heart to nurture the diligent party in the child's heart to defeat the lazy party.
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Find the diligent seedlings in the child's heart
I once taught a transfer student named Zhang Jun, who was the first to last place in the whole grade. The day after I arrived at my class, Zhang Jun did not complete the homework I left behind.
I think that I am not familiar with Zhang Jun, and I must not easily criticize him, nor can I strictly demand him as I asked my classmates from the original class.
If you reprimand, "Why don't you write your homework?" "Everyone else has written it, how dare you not write it?" "Don't you take the teacher seriously?" Saying these words, not only am I tired and ineffective, but it is also easy to push Zhang Jun to the opposite side of himself.
When I found that Zhang Jun had not written his homework, I talked to him and went to his mind to find another diligent Zhang Jun.
I say:
"Zhang Jun, we have just interacted, we don't know each other yet, let's talk!" The day you came to Teacher Wei's class, I heard that you left your homework, and at that time you wanted to write it immediately.
But the procrastinating thought says: Relax for a while at school, and then write at home! When I got home and wanted to write homework, I procrastinating thoughts said: Let's write after eating! After eating, I took out books and books and was trying to write, and the program was put on the TV.
The procrastinating thought said: After watching TV, write again! When I finish watching TV and want to write again, I am so sleepy that I want to write again tomorrow morning! I didn't expect to wake up late in the morning..."
Before I could finish speaking, Zhang Jun said, "Teacher, I really think so, how do you know?" ”
"The psychology of lazy people is generally like this. Originally, I wanted to be diligent, but there was no way to control my procrastination.
As a result, the longer and thicker the psychology of procrastination, the longer and stronger, occupying a good territory on the field of the soul, and diligence can no longer do anything about it. ”
Zhang Jun said:
"Teacher, you are so right, I also want to cure my own procrastination disease, but I can't think of a good way."
Can you help me figure it out? ”
"Of course, the teacher wants to help you, but the most important thing is that you nurture the diligent saplings in your own soul." You have so many brain cells that want to write homework, and you can't beat procrastination? ”
"How do you defeat it?" Zhang Jun asked.
"What matters is not to water and fertilize the dragging trees. What is dragging water and fertilizer? It's time.
As soon as the idea flashed, you said to it in time: You take a break first, and I will write some homework first. If your heart is not quiet, you will first pick your favorite subject to write, and first pick simple problems to do.
After writing for a while, a little tired, procrastinating and making trouble, you still don't give it time, but think: I will practice writing first, I will write a little homework of my choice, and tomorrow I will discuss with the teacher.
Little by little, the procrastination has no time, the water is cut off, the fat is broken, and in a few days it withers.
And the diligent seedlings? Because doing practical things bit by second, bit by bit, is equivalent to watering and fertilizing, and gradually growing taller and growing. ”
02
Patiently cultivate the diligent saplings in the hearts of children
Then there's the homework. I did not let Zhang Jun do the same homework as everyone, but discussed with him the homework that was suitable for him.
Because starting from his reality, guiding him to climb the ladder of knowledge little by little, within two months, Zhang Jun was also like the whole class, writing homework every day and writing a diary every day.
Guide children to cultivate the diligent sapling in their hearts and minds, and they cannot be in a hurry, and they cannot hope that it will grow very large at once. As long as the child does things little by little and starts to write homework little by little, it is better than not writing, it is better than pouring the water and fertilizer of time on the tree that is dragging.
Not afraid of slow, afraid of standing. Let your child complete a little simple homework and then guide him to do a second simple homework.
Parents can also consult with their child's teacher and ask him to help keep some practice questions that are suitable for their child's actual situation. Instead of letting the child do more difficult problems, still won't do it after copying, or simply not doing it, tired of learning and hating learning, it is better to do something within the child's ability from the child's actual point of view. In this way, the child's grades can also be improved.
I think the most labor-saving way to educate children is to see the two selves in the depths of the child's soul, and then use the child's diligence to overcome the lazy me, and the good me to overcome the evil me.
Deep in the heart of the child, the two thoughts of diligence and laziness clash and struggle, and if the good ideas win, we will reap the benefits of the fisherman.
At this time, the child will feel that the parents are very kind, can be considerate of him, understand him, and are his assistants.
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Use the energy in the depths of your child's soul
Illuminate his spiritual world
Fortresses are the easiest to breach from within. If the two armies are opposed, if they go to the other side's fortress to divide and disintegrate, find their own assistants, pull one faction, and fight one faction, it will be very easy to win. Some of these strategies and tactics used in fighting wars are also applicable to the education of children.
No matter what mistakes the child makes, when criticizing the child, he must go deep into his soul to find his other self, a self that does not want to make mistakes.
After finding a good positive brain cell, the child feels that the parents are close, the parents see the problem comprehensively, and the parents understand their hearts.
Then discuss with the child, with the diligence of the heart to overcome the lazy way;
Use the method of respecting other people's brain cells and controlling brain cells that are rude to people;
Use the careful and serious self to tie up the sloppy self.
Using the energy in the depths of the child's soul in this way to illuminate the child's spiritual world is obviously a way to save energy.
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