Issue 062
Huo Wenyao column
Question: "Do praise and praise also need to be learned?"
Answer: Yes!
Recall the scene where you praised your child, is it like this:
- Baby you're awesome!
- Hello awesome!
This is actually useless, praise must be specific.
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01. What is specific praise?
- Baby, you just spoke very loudly, very well.
- You just painted it very well, especially very well.
- You just sat up very well, and your little back was very straight.
A child who hears such praise knows more clearly what we need him to do than the cookie-cutter "lollipop."
02. Is it important to praise the heart?
When many parents praise their children, their heads are not raised, their faces are expressionless, and they just move their mouths as praise.
This is not okay, whether our praise is heartfelt, whether there is perfunctory, the child can hear it.
Seriously and sincerely affirm the child's approach, encourage and praise him, he will feel that he is loved and concerned, and it is easier to get positive reinforcement and guidance.
03. What is moderate praise?
When a child learns a new ability or skill, we should give him more encouragement, as long as he does better than the last time, we can praise him, let him know the direction he should work hard, and enhance his self-confidence.
However, when he can already master this skill, we must also reduce the number of praises at the same time.