Introduction: When we were young, we often went to our classmates or friends' homes to play, went to classmates' homes to do homework after school, went to classmates' homes on weekends to watch TV, etc., which are very common things, and sometimes they will go to classmates' homes to live. But now there are very few children who do this, and usually do not go to friends' homes to play when they are fine.
So why do parents now care more and more about their children going out? Why is it that the average person is wary of others not to let the child go to the neighbor's or classmate's house alone? This is actually related to social development, and now interpersonal relationships have become more distant, and they are not as simple and open as before, so parents are particularly concerned about the problem of their children being outside.
Here, Xiaobian will tell you about the little niece in our family:
Originally, she and a female classmate in her class had a better time, and the parents knew that the two people had a close relationship, and the girl often came to her niece's house, so the parents were more at ease when the child went to the other's house. But later found that when the child went to the classmate's home, he liked to dress up beautifully and love to wear a skirt, which made people wonder.
Later, when I asked, I found that it was a distant cousin who had recently lived in the classmate's family, and the big brother often praised the little niece for being very good-looking, and the child was confused by the appreciation of the adults, and said that wearing a skirt was to let the big brother praise her more. Later, it was found that the distant cousin actually had occasional intimate physical contact with his niece, which made people break out in a cold sweat.
Although we often teach our children to know how to protect themselves outside, children's vigilance in front of familiar people is much lower, and these things are also plausible. Later, in order to protect the child, the parents did not let the children play at the home of their classmates, and also strengthened the education of the child's self-protection, so that she would not be infringed by the people with the heart.
Therefore, out of the consideration of the child's personal safety, parents now rarely let their children go to other people's homes by themselves, and if their children want to go, they are generally relatives or friends who are close to each other. In this way, children are not prone to some sudden situations in the homes of people familiar to their parents, and parents are more at ease.
And parents do not let their children go to other people's homes alone, but also out of personal consideration for their children:
1. The child's ability to distinguish and self-protection is not enough
Just like the little niece of the editor, the children do not have enough discernment for some ill-intentioned people around them, and they do not know whether the other party is harmful. Moreover, the child's self-protection ability is not enough, and the self-protection ability is not enough when encountering danger, and the parents are not around, which can easily lead to some unnecessary dangers.
2. We can't understand the specific situation
The child goes to someone else's house by himself, the parents are not around, and if the child has an accident or a bad conflict outside, the parents cannot understand what the specific situation is. At these times, it is easy to have some unnecessary misunderstandings and quarrels, especially when it comes to injuries and financial compensation, and it is difficult to clearly explain the right and wrong of the problem.
3, children will bring unnecessary trouble to others
If it is a child whose personality is more mischievous and eventful, if you go to a classmate's house and make trouble or accidentally damage other people's things, it will also bring unnecessary trouble to others. And sometimes, the child as an outsider in someone else's home, is somewhat embarrassing situation.
4. Children may be contaminated with some bad habits
Everyone will have some bad behavior habits, especially when they are at home, they will be particularly obvious, and when children go to their classmates' homes, they may be affected by their classmates and learn some bad behaviors or thoughts.
Important: Parents do not let their children go to other people's homes alone, mostly out of consideration for their children's personal safety and human sophistication. Children's discernment and self-protection ability is not enough, it is difficult to understand the facts when things happen in other people's homes, children may bring unnecessary trouble to others, and may also learn bad habits in others, so generally people who are not familiar with close to each other should go less.
Today's Topic: Will your children invite their friends to their homes? Or go outside and play? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.